StoneZA
Don Juan
Hey guys,
I'm new here to the DJ forums and have read through quite a lot of the topics. I could have given my thread the title of "She has a boyfriend" but then most people would not have read the topic and think that its another one "those topics". I read through some of the other "she has bf" threads but there wasn't anything useful for me, my situation is a bit more unique and would love some advice/ideas.
I started going to our university's gym about more than a year ago. The girl I like works at the gym. I met her, when she came by me one day and introduced herself. Now normally she does this with everyone and we had a nice long talk about what I do for a living, where is she originally from etc etc. Throughout the rest of last year she kept on coming to me, started up conversation etc.
Towards the end of last year she got in a relationship with a guy who lives in another town, and therefore she is in a long distance relationship. Now, earlier this year, she was and still is, very friendly towards me, still coming by to chat with me in the gym. I decided to ask her out on a coffee date, and she said that she is in a relationship, but we can still go, but some other time.
I felt a bit down, but still kept my head up high, and continued chatting with her, till it was time for my birthday. Funny thing is, her birthday is 6 days before mine and I congratulated her. She continuously said that I must remind her when its my birthday, but like in 2/3 times, because she didn't want to forget it.
When it was my birthday, that morning she waited for me to come into the gym. She greeted me with a big hug and asked whether or not I had plans for the rest of the day. I said no, I didn't have any plans, but I asked whether or not she wants to have coffee with me, later that day.
She immediately said that she would be delighted to have a cup of coffee with me, and before I could even asked, she wrote down her number for me on a piece of paper and said that I should give her a call. I was really surprised by this, and boy... was I in a good mood
So I gave her a call later that afternoon, she didn't pickup at first as she was busy helping some in the gym. I then sent her an SMS ( or text message as you americans/ uk'ers refer to it ) saying that she must let me know when she is available so that I can call again. She sent me a text msg back saying that I should text her where we should go for coffee and when we should meet.
Sent her the time & location and also offered to pick her up (was a long shot, but still a nice thought) but she said thanks, but she'll meet me there. So we met for coffee and we had a wonderful time. She is a girl that talks continuously and isn't shy whatsoever, where I am the exact opposite, don't talk that much, isn't that shy, but a little bit, we had a fun time all round and she really asked me a lot of questions. She also said that she wants to get to know me better...
Now, the thing is, she complimented me on what a stunning guy I am, and that I have a lot going for me, I could see that she wanted to say something more, but she just smiled and then we talked about something else. She also mentioned to me that she had seen her bf about 6 weeks ago, and that they only text one another and that she could cheat on him, very easily, but she doesn't. She also said that its such a thin line between right and wrong of not cheating on her bf, it makes it very difficult.
In light of this, she asked me, if I have ever done anything naughty before. You guys wouldn't believe me, but I'm really an easy going bloke and I really haven't done anything naughty before. I told her, that I have never done anything naughty to tell her about, but then she said that I am being naughty right now being on a date with her...is it because she feels that I asked her out even though she is still in a relationship ?
And what guarantee does she have, that her bf doesn't cheat on her in the other town? I also told her that I'm so frustrated being single and that I can't understand why the right girl hasn't crossed my path yet. And she is like, the right girl will come along one day, and she understands my pain, and that she has been there before.
It really was a great evening and two days later when I went to the gym, she immediately came and greet me again, had a nice chat once again, and then had to go and help someone else again. I have quite a few friends that I made in the gym and they told me, she was talking to some elderly person earlier that morning about her relationship with her bf. They didn't hear the entire conversation, but what they could make out was is that she said it was a delicate matter, and the elderly person said: "take the other guy" ... could be me, but time will tell.
She also bought me some chocolates as a gift and forgot it at home twice, but will give it to me next time I come to the gym. She went away on wednesday to go and obtain her degree at another university where she initially studied from but told me her plans as to when she will be back again and when I would see her again.
Now I like this girl a lot, and I really don't want to bugger things up with her, what would be my next move ? I know that I should build my friendship with her some more and I'm not going to put pressure on her to choose between her bf and me, and the last thing that I don't want to do is to scare her away.
I want to ask her out again this coming weekend, but now I keep having the thought of, maybe she only went out with me, cause it was my birthday, but still, in everything that I wrote here, I firmly believe that deep down inside she likes me a lot, and maybe she wants to be more than friends down the line, so hopefully she says yes when I ask her out again.
What do you guys think about it ? Any constructive comments are welcome and will be appreciated. If you guys have any questions about her, or what we also chatted about, please don't hesitate to ask if you want to know. I have a real good feeling about her.
Thanx,
Stone
PS: I forgot to mention I'm 26 and she is 25, plus her bf is also 26.
I'm new here to the DJ forums and have read through quite a lot of the topics. I could have given my thread the title of "She has a boyfriend" but then most people would not have read the topic and think that its another one "those topics". I read through some of the other "she has bf" threads but there wasn't anything useful for me, my situation is a bit more unique and would love some advice/ideas.
I started going to our university's gym about more than a year ago. The girl I like works at the gym. I met her, when she came by me one day and introduced herself. Now normally she does this with everyone and we had a nice long talk about what I do for a living, where is she originally from etc etc. Throughout the rest of last year she kept on coming to me, started up conversation etc.
Towards the end of last year she got in a relationship with a guy who lives in another town, and therefore she is in a long distance relationship. Now, earlier this year, she was and still is, very friendly towards me, still coming by to chat with me in the gym. I decided to ask her out on a coffee date, and she said that she is in a relationship, but we can still go, but some other time.
I felt a bit down, but still kept my head up high, and continued chatting with her, till it was time for my birthday. Funny thing is, her birthday is 6 days before mine and I congratulated her. She continuously said that I must remind her when its my birthday, but like in 2/3 times, because she didn't want to forget it.
When it was my birthday, that morning she waited for me to come into the gym. She greeted me with a big hug and asked whether or not I had plans for the rest of the day. I said no, I didn't have any plans, but I asked whether or not she wants to have coffee with me, later that day.
She immediately said that she would be delighted to have a cup of coffee with me, and before I could even asked, she wrote down her number for me on a piece of paper and said that I should give her a call. I was really surprised by this, and boy... was I in a good mood
So I gave her a call later that afternoon, she didn't pickup at first as she was busy helping some in the gym. I then sent her an SMS ( or text message as you americans/ uk'ers refer to it ) saying that she must let me know when she is available so that I can call again. She sent me a text msg back saying that I should text her where we should go for coffee and when we should meet.
Sent her the time & location and also offered to pick her up (was a long shot, but still a nice thought) but she said thanks, but she'll meet me there. So we met for coffee and we had a wonderful time. She is a girl that talks continuously and isn't shy whatsoever, where I am the exact opposite, don't talk that much, isn't that shy, but a little bit, we had a fun time all round and she really asked me a lot of questions. She also said that she wants to get to know me better...
Now, the thing is, she complimented me on what a stunning guy I am, and that I have a lot going for me, I could see that she wanted to say something more, but she just smiled and then we talked about something else. She also mentioned to me that she had seen her bf about 6 weeks ago, and that they only text one another and that she could cheat on him, very easily, but she doesn't. She also said that its such a thin line between right and wrong of not cheating on her bf, it makes it very difficult.
In light of this, she asked me, if I have ever done anything naughty before. You guys wouldn't believe me, but I'm really an easy going bloke and I really haven't done anything naughty before. I told her, that I have never done anything naughty to tell her about, but then she said that I am being naughty right now being on a date with her...is it because she feels that I asked her out even though she is still in a relationship ?
And what guarantee does she have, that her bf doesn't cheat on her in the other town? I also told her that I'm so frustrated being single and that I can't understand why the right girl hasn't crossed my path yet. And she is like, the right girl will come along one day, and she understands my pain, and that she has been there before.
It really was a great evening and two days later when I went to the gym, she immediately came and greet me again, had a nice chat once again, and then had to go and help someone else again. I have quite a few friends that I made in the gym and they told me, she was talking to some elderly person earlier that morning about her relationship with her bf. They didn't hear the entire conversation, but what they could make out was is that she said it was a delicate matter, and the elderly person said: "take the other guy" ... could be me, but time will tell.
She also bought me some chocolates as a gift and forgot it at home twice, but will give it to me next time I come to the gym. She went away on wednesday to go and obtain her degree at another university where she initially studied from but told me her plans as to when she will be back again and when I would see her again.
Now I like this girl a lot, and I really don't want to bugger things up with her, what would be my next move ? I know that I should build my friendship with her some more and I'm not going to put pressure on her to choose between her bf and me, and the last thing that I don't want to do is to scare her away.
I want to ask her out again this coming weekend, but now I keep having the thought of, maybe she only went out with me, cause it was my birthday, but still, in everything that I wrote here, I firmly believe that deep down inside she likes me a lot, and maybe she wants to be more than friends down the line, so hopefully she says yes when I ask her out again.
What do you guys think about it ? Any constructive comments are welcome and will be appreciated. If you guys have any questions about her, or what we also chatted about, please don't hesitate to ask if you want to know. I have a real good feeling about her.
Thanx,
Stone
PS: I forgot to mention I'm 26 and she is 25, plus her bf is also 26.
