I do feel too needy at times and I am trying to work on that, it's hard considering she is my best friend and I want to spend as much time as I can with her and she with me. It's what we want, but I don't think it is the healthiest of choices.
it can be a healthy choice if you know what you're doing... spending too much AFC time with a woman - is going to result in her losing interest (case and point: you two)... how do you know she wants to spend all her time with you? because she says so? if so, don't believe her... because she acts like it? she has no choice; she can tell you're needy for her... her instincts secretly can't stand how much you need her; they wish you weren't so needy...
I told her I didn't want to see her for a while and then SHE asked if she could call me tommorow. I'm not an a-hole and she knows this.
it's not being an @sshole, to tell a girl you're done and then not accepting her invitation to "talk about it" tomorrow... that's being a man who stands by what he says.... Sure SHE'LL not be too happy and may call you an @sshole, but women aren't exactly nice to be around when they don't get their way (which is why you should get them in the habit of not getting their way - as they will calm down and become tame.)...
If I say no don't call me then that would be the start of a new fight and I know it so I said sure.
if you say "no don't call me!" she would be angry, but deep down she would respect you more as a man, and DESIRE you more... this isn't about playing games, it's about being a man! not a lil lover boy... freeze her out if she starts arguing! hang up the phone, don't answer it! make her spend hours in a raging anger at you! that's better than spending hours thinking you're a "good lil boyfriend who keeps coming back"
She just called by the way
and you were a good "best friend" to her and answered.... just like she expected you to be...
When she paused I told her I would let her go so she can get to work. I said bye and she hung on the phone and said a questionable bye and then started mumbling something as I was hanging up. Our calls end in I love you, bye. This one didn't and she was obviously bothered.
This was semi-decent.... although you're obviously bothered by the fact that she's obviously bothered... don't be! make her squirm a little, make her feel she's losing you... don't answer a few times when she calls... or texts... she owns you right now... (and she will come crying back, and at that point i hope you don't turn AFC because that's what she will want!)
The advice is prepare for the end, break up with her first, and all the other advice I have seiously considered. It has only been since Sunday that we had this argument again for the 10 time. I haven't seen her since to use any of this advice.
again for the 10th time??? why in the world would you keep having the same argument?... oh.... because she has all the power over the sex, so she has all of the power over you... look at the condition you're in because you let a girl become your life!!! please stand up to this girl in a "manly" way... arguing and having "discussions" is what women do... are you a woman?
The thing is we have the same friend circle. We see each other about 2 times through the week and we spend every weekend together. We hang out with the friends on the weekends, together and then hang out with each other or alone through the week.
if you're not seducing her and turning her on when you're hanging out with her - you're slowly becoming the guy she sticks with out of "comfort".... you don't have any friends who aren't connected to her?
Yes, I pick up when I see her calling, just as I would anyone else.
She's not "anyone"... she's a woman who is with you out of "comfort"... and isn't turned on by you... and can't stand how much control she has over you... she's a very bad addiction, and every time you pick up that phone - you're feeding your habit...
I'm not one for playing games, although it looks like I should change my opinions on that.
playing games? she's playing you right now... and you're just standing there... ready to ARGUE with her and ACT like you're going to leave her... she's been here before, and she doesn't respect you (She might say she does, but she doesn't... if she did - you'd be able to turn her on by just kissing her).
We will talk about what ever is on our minds or what ever happened in our days. Convo usually lasts three to 15 minutes I'd say.
"fluff talk" just like a "good friend".... can i ask how many times you've guys had that adorable discussion on which one of you loves the other more? isn't that game soooo cute?
