Need Quick Advice on how to handle this sitch

[Telfon]

Okay ive been on this forum for a month or two lurking and reading everything i can. You guys know your **** and ive learned quite a bit just browsing these forums 10 minutes a day during that time. Ive applied the principles you guys have established and its worked well but im now in a situation where im not sure how to handle things.

First Post Ever =D.
Okay so ive been talking to this girl for the last 3 months. We clearly like eachother. ive taken her to the bar 3 or 4 times and everytime weve done a whole bunch of dancing. Shes been all over me for a month or so. I met her dad and mom and was introduced as friends.. they loved me. Met her brother and sister, they like me.. i put up the christmas lights on her house and go to the gym with her a lot. Just random **** we do together. We usually text everyday all day cause we had a lot of **** in common.

Now last night we went to the same bar but in different groups. I went with my boys and she went with her girls. But when i saw her she had a "look" on her face. Some of you might know the look she had on. it was like she didnt wanna see me. She proceeded to give me a half ass introduction to one of her friends, all of which were stuck up in the first place. I saw them a few times in the bar and i danced around them and was in a i dont give a **** mode. But these *****es had broomsticks up there asses. and the girl acted like she didnt want to be around me and limited contact. So let it go last night.

My Question to you guys, How do I handle that behavior today while putting myself above her. I dont want to act needy and i dont wanna act like shes higher on the social foodchain of course, but i need to let her know she acted like a stuck up *****, in the right way without ****ing up this sitch. Ill be damned if a girl and her friends are gunna treat me like that. Those *****es can go play Frogger on I-95. Thanks in advance cause im seeing her later today.

 

[PokerStar]

hmmmmm have you kissed out banged this chick yet?

 

[Aaron B]

What are you goals with this woman? Do you want to date her?

In my experience, the most effective way to counter this behavior (other than ignoring her completely) is to do the exact same thing back to her.

They usually can't take what they can dish out.

Unlike you, when you pull this on her she will most likely be very upset and confrontational, and demand an explanation from you. How you handle that part of it is key.

 

[Telfon]

kissed her. havent ****ed yet, im not in a rush cause im coming out of a relationship but she knows damn well she wants the D. shes wifey type though thats why im even posting this

 

[Iceberg]

kissed her. havent ****ed yet, im not in a rush cause im coming out of a relationship but she knows damn well she wants the D. shes wifey type though thats why im even posting this

She's not the wifey type if you're not even dating her. Sorry, bro.

Nothing personal, I just hate when guys come to this site referring to a girl as "relationship material" or "wifey type" when in reality, the girl has given them nothing. You're not even dating her. So how can you identify her as LTR when you haven't even taken her for a test drive?

Here's my take on your situation - and understand, I'm trying to help. And my style of helping involves blunt honesty.

The highlights of your time spent with this girl are - meeting parents, meeting siblings, helping with christmas lights, texting all day, and going to the gym with her.

...And this is a girl you haven't banged. So without the sex, which solidifies your attraction to each other, you two might as well be brother and sister. And you can say that you're in no rush to have sex with her....but I've been in your situation before...so let's call it what it is - you're afraid to make a move. Which is why you spend 3 months talking to a girl, and have nothing to show for it, besides dancing together, and uh, christmas lights.

Have you been on the site long enough to know what Friend Zone is? Well, after 3 months of knowing this girl, and not making a move, you're SPEEDING into the friend zone. 100 miles per hour.

That stuff with her friends at the bar...that's a side issue. High school stuff. The MAIN thing is, you either gotta make a move for this girl, or accept that you're her new BFF. Because you can't continue this path of being all buddy-buddy with her and assume that one day, when you raise the courage, she'll still be attracted to you. She already has you texting her all day, and putting up her christmas lights without giving up sex. So now that you've proven yourself to be no challenge to her whatsoever, it will be interesting to see if she is as attracted to you as she was in the beginning.

 

[5string]

Here is a novel idea:

Act like nothing matters. Project indifference.

She'll come a runnin.

 

[st_99]

Man, this situation has friend zone written all over it. I mean, 3 months of running around like best buds without sex??

To me, you've betasized yourself to fullest. I could be wrong. I'm fairly sure if you try to put a move on her
at this point she will not be receptive to it at all. Will probably be turned off by it.

 

[ARrocket]

Here is a novel idea:

Act like nothing matters. Project indifference.

She'll come a runnin.

Even better: Meet a few more girls so that you really will be indifferent!

 

[Telfon]

Good stuff. Thanks for that brutal honesty guys. I appreciate it

 

[shizz702]

Solid advice from Iceberg. I'd take heed to his words.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

Iceberg hit the nail on the head.

I've been in your situation a few times before, it's never worked out well.. But I always assume the worst when sh1t like that happens to me and don't even bother moving forward. I'd say, if she wants you bad enough, she'll eventually be in contact with you. If she doesn't then fvck it.