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[ematsuda]

My story: I've been dating this girl for 3 weeks. We went out 4X, had sex 2X. Last night she calls me which should be a good sign but, seemed as though she was not herself. She seems distant or depressed about something. So, I went to meet her outside a bar to see if she'd like to grab a drink or something elsewhere. We sat in my car talking about things but she still seemed upset about something and was very quiet. As always, I ask her to come over to my place. She denied the invite. So I ask her "what's wrong?" She says "nothing". Then it starts. Goes something like this:

Me: Then why the sad face?
Her: I'm just tired and want to sleep in my own bed tonight.
Me: I think somethings wrong and you won't tell me. Do you not want to see me anymore? (with a smile on my face)
Her: I want to see you, it's just that you confuse me.
Me: How is that?
Her: I'm not sure what you want from me.
Me: I don't just want you for sex if that's what you're thinking.
Her: Well take time to think about it and let me know.

She then got out of the car and walked back to hers. So I left.

I'm puzzled about the whole situation because earlier in that meeting she claimed she ran into her ex. When I asked her if she's upset about that, she says "I don't let guys get to me". When I ask why, she said "that's just how I am". She also claims that she has never been "in love" before.

WTF???

 

[xblitz44x]

She wants love, and probably feels used just fvcking you without a commitment. This is her way to try to bait you into a relationship. She wants something more but she's not going to come right out and say it. When she said "I don't let guys bother me", she is basically saying "Guys bother me that's why I don't deal with them."

It's up to you but chances are you're going to have to step it up and agree to take things further, or you may have to cut this one loose. Personally, if you don't want a relationship with her explain that you're not ready for anything serious right now but you would definitely like to spend more time with her and do different activities with her. Tell her you like her but you like to take things slow (heh) and you hope she understands.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

They call her Cleopatra cuz...

...she's the queen of denial. (she wouldn't happen to be a water sign would she?)

Granted there could be some other emotional upheaval she's experiencing which she doesn't yet feel comfortable discussing with you, but I'm more prone to believe that she's worried about you. Do you know what her ex did to her? That should offer some huge clues as to whether or not she doubts your sincerity.

Furthermore, it looks like she's definitely trying to define your relationship. She's asking you to define it for her. Head her off at the pass.

There's genuine affection between the two of you and you enjoy spending time with her (and if you want to throw in that your life just seems easier, or your days brighter with her in them, add two brownie points) Then spin your azz off.

If you don't want to be exclusive just yet you "just want to take things slow"

If you want to become semi-exclusive you "would like to spend more time together"

If you want to become exclusive you "realised when she mentioned her ex how you didn't like the idea of another man holding sway over your heart and coming between you"

If you want to become engaged, it doesn't matter what you say at this point because you're an idiot for even thinking it.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[DEKKA]

xblitz44x is right.

this chick put out really fast and now she's concerned that the relationship doesn't jive with how a lasting relationship starts out. she's afriad that you're just in it for sex and with good reason. you are. she wants love blah blah blah. now she has no choice but to feel bad about it and do the whole guilt trip "ive lost too many guys and i dont wanna lose you" bullshyt.

point is. you're gunna either have to show her that you really DO care (which you don't because guys that really care take it slow). or you're gunna end up with a chronic guilty b!tch on your hands who doesn't feel secure kissing you cuz she thinks it's all based on a lie.

unless you really really love her or whatever id next on this one.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by DEKKA
xblitz44x is right.

this chick put out really fast and now she's concerned that the relationship doesn't jive with how a lasting relationship starts out. she's afriad that you're just in it for sex and with good reason. you are. she wants love blah blah blah. now she has no choice but to feel bad about it and do the whole guilt trip "ive lost too many guys and i dont wanna lose you" bullshyt.

point is. you're gunna either have to show her that you really DO care (which you don't because guys that really care take it slow). or you're gunna end up with a chronic guilty b!tch on your hands who doesn't feel secure kissing you cuz she thinks it's all based on a lie.

unless you really really love her or whatever id next on this one.

You're right Dekka, but since its her ASD acting up, and we specialize in countering ASD, why cut loose an otherwise promising opportunity?

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by CyranoDeBergerac
You're right Dekka, but since its her ASD acting up, and we specialize in countering ASD, why cut loose an otherwise promising opportunity?

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i see your point and it's really up to him. i just know from experience that trying to deal with women that have ASD insecurity takes way too much effort when you really aren't into her very much.

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by DEKKA
i see your point and it's really up to him. i just know from experience that trying to deal with women that have ASD insecurity takes way too much effort when you really aren't into her very much.

Fair enough.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

First of all - why are you answering the questions for her? Let her explain on her own.

Lucky for you I am a ******** expert, here it goes...

She is asking you, "I know that I am a hor, but do you believe that I am a hor as well? I mean. I am a hor and now I realize that I like you for more than just sex, but I hope I didn't ruin my long term chances with you, as I did with others in the past, because I'm such a hor!!! Are you going to leave me like my other pimps did after a few months?"

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
First of all - why are you answering the questions for her? Let her explain on her own.

Lucky for you I am a ******** expert, here it goes...

She is asking you, "I know that I am a hor, but do you believe that I am a hor as well? I mean. I am a hor and now I realize that I like you for more than just sex, but I hope I didn't ruin my long term chances with you, as I did with others in the past, because I'm such a hor!!! Are you going to leave me like my other pimps did after a few months?"

well said

 

[ematsuda]

Thanks for the responses. I'm still not sure what I what to do with this one because we have very little in common. The truth is that I don't think I can step up the relationship after having only 4 dates with her - too early to determine. I do have some doubts about this girl but also feel that she could be a good match for me if she wanted to alter her lifestyle a bit. This is what I'm going to tell her in response to her question "what do you want from me": "I just want to date you and be able to spend more time together to determine if we fit together". I'll explain that it's too early to jump into a commitment for me.

What do you think guys?

 

[ematsuda]

Thanks for the responses. I'm still not sure what I what to do with this one because we have very little in common. The truth is that I don't think I can step up the relationship after having only 4 dates with her - too early to determine. I do have some doubts about this girl but also feel that she could be a good match for me if she wanted to alter her lifestyle a bit. This is what I'm going to tell her in response to her question "what do you want from me": "I just want to date you and be able to spend more time together to determine if we fit together". I'll explain that it's too early to jump into a commitment for me.

What do you think guys?

 

[DEKKA]

i think that settling for a woman is one of the stupidest things a boy could ever do.... notice i said boy. just make sure you don't start rationalizing about a fvck buddy that you have nothing in common with trying to trick yourself into believing you are compatable.

 

[ematsuda]

DEKKA: I'm not saying I don't want a relationship with her either. I just wasn't expecting this so soon. 4 dates? Sheez! One of 'em wasn't even a date... more like a booty call.

 

[Billy Bob]

Originally posted by ematsuda
My story: I've been dating this girl for 3 weeks. We went out 4X, had sex 2X. Last night she calls me which should be a good sign but, seemed as though she was not herself. She seems distant or depressed about something. So, I went to meet her outside a bar to see if she'd like to grab a drink or something elsewhere. We sat in my car talking about things but she still seemed upset about something and was very quiet. As always, I ask her to come over to my place. She denied the invite. So I ask her "what's wrong?" She says "nothing". Then it starts. Goes something like this:

Me: Then why the sad face?
Her: I'm just tired and want to sleep in my own bed tonight.
Me: I think somethings wrong and you won't tell me. Do you not want to see me anymore? (with a smile on my face)
Her: I want to see you, it's just that you confuse me.
Me: How is that?
Her: I'm not sure what you want from me.
Me: I don't just want you for sex if that's what you're thinking.
Her: Well take time to think about it and let me know.

She then got out of the car and walked back to hers. So I left.

I'm puzzled about the whole situation because earlier in that meeting she claimed she ran into her ex. When I asked her if she's upset about that, she says "I don't let guys get to me". When I ask why, she said "that's just how I am". She also claims that she has never been "in love" before.

WTF???

she be a hoe if she sleep with yo ugly arse and I know you b ugly cause you b here.

peace you male P U S S Y

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by ematsuda
My story: I've been dating this girl for 3 weeks. We went out 4X, had sex 2X. Last night she calls me which should be a good sign but, seemed as though she was not herself. She seems distant or depressed about something. So, I went to meet her outside a bar to see if she'd like to grab a drink or something elsewhere. We sat in my car talking about things but she still seemed upset about something and was very quiet. As always, I ask her to come over to my place. She denied the invite. So I ask her "what's wrong?" She says "nothing". Then it starts. Goes something like this:

Me: Then why the sad face?
Her: I'm just tired and want to sleep in my own bed tonight.
Me: I think somethings wrong and you won't tell me. Do you not want to see me anymore? (with a smile on my face)
Her: I want to see you, it's just that you confuse me.
Me: How is that?
Her: I'm not sure what you want from me.
Me: I don't just want you for sex if that's what you're thinking.
Her: Well take time to think about it and let me know.

She then got out of the car and walked back to hers. So I left.

I'm puzzled about the whole situation because earlier in that meeting she claimed she ran into her ex. When I asked her if she's upset about that, she says "I don't let guys get to me". When I ask why, she said "that's just how I am". She also claims that she has never been "in love" before.

WTF???

You're being TOO distant. Being a challenge only works when you don't do it so hardcore that you give her the impression that you aren't interested. You need to find a balance. Throw her an occassional "nice guy" bone to mix things up a bit.

 

[TooColdUlrick]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
First of all - why are you answering the questions for her? Let her explain on her own.

Lucky for you I am a ******** expert, here it goes...

She is asking you, "I know that I am a hor, but do you believe that I am a hor as well? I mean. I am a hor and now I realize that I like you for more than just sex, but I hope I didn't ruin my long term chances with you, as I did with others in the past, because I'm such a hor!!! Are you going to leave me like my other pimps did after a few months?"

you're too much, PRL funny though and probably true.

 

[DEKKA]

Originally posted by ematsuda
DEKKA: I'm not saying I don't want a relationship with her either. I just wasn't expecting this so soon. 4 dates? Sheez! One of 'em wasn't even a date... more like a booty call.

niicccccccccccccccccccccccccce!

props mayne!

good job!

just find a way to keep what you got going now and you'll be set. make sure to keep this one around case ya need to get a nut sometime.

 

[Player_Supreme]

Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
First of all - why are you answering the questions for her? Let her explain on her own.

Lucky for you I am a ******** expert, here it goes...

She is asking you, "I know that I am a hor, but do you believe that I am a hor as well? I mean. I am a hor and now I realize that I like you for more than just sex, but I hope I didn't ruin my long term chances with you, as I did with others in the past, because I'm such a hor!!! Are you going to leave me like my other pimps did after a few months?"

LMFAO! You crack me the fawk up PRL with all women are hors...I can't stop chuckling man.