Need help

[swagman544]

Hey this morning i was at the gym working out and my gf was working out with me, we have been together since October well anyway her x bf who she dated for 3 years lifts in the same gym and i noticed her looking at him everyonce and awhile she even says hi to him? Her x is around 6ft4 210 pds and ripped ! He is a pro athlete, however she was the one who ended it with him, im worried because her x does a ****load of stuff for the community while im still attending college and noone in our area has anything bad to say about him including her parents, they love the guy ??? Im alittle worried do you think i may lose her back to him ? He did not show much interest in her at they gym all he did was smile and say hi back and that was the only time he even acknowledged her ? Whats the outlook ? Am i over reacting ???

 

[RKTek]

Your attitude and fears will give you away. The fact that you're even nervous WILL be picked up by her radar, so it's best you catch these insecure thoughts you're having and STOP them immediately. Think of pretty white clouds, or the Dow-Jones Average if necessary, but know that women have a sixth sense about men's insecurities.

If she's going to fool around on you, she will. In fact, if she were thinking of double-crossing you, she would probably not be so bold as to obviously look at the other guy. She'd sneak around and you'd be the last to know.

This goes for all women at all times. In any relationship, enjoy the moment. Period. All things can change at any time and if the woman you're with (any time, in your whole life) decides to walk, say "See ya" and never look back.

As far as this one, let her eyes wander. Let her go talk to the guy. Let her flirt with him, or any other guy for that matter as long as she goes home with YOU. This is not to say you should let her disrespect you. There is a fine line between letting a girl live her own life and get nods from the guys, especially if she IS fine, and having her walk on you.

Check your insecurities and make sure you're solid, but if she ever really does start making you feel like she's rubbing your face in it, then you have a right to pull her aside and say "Hey....."

 

[Mazman]

You need to be more secure in your releationship and trust your girlfriend.

She dated him for 3 years, they have a history together. Why shouldn't she say hi to the guy when she sees him? As far as looking at him, I'm sure he's not the only guy she looks at in the gym.

This reminds me of the movie "Meet The Parents" when Focker starts getting jealous of his girl's ex.

 

[swagman544]

lol... that movie is great, nah he was the only other guy in the gym this morning, I would like to trust her but from what i know of their relationship she pretty much put an end to it when she cheated on him, i didnt find that out until me and her had been dating for a few months.. and i rem thinking jesus this can happen to me too..i am usually a very secure and confident person, i want this relationship to last i didnt let on that i was upset this morning i didnt even say anything to her... Should i befriend her x i mean we are at the same gym in the morning ?? that way i know what hes up to...I just dont want her thinking wow look what im missing out on ? you know ?