Lovers are with me because they enjoy my company, but I notice that they dislike the attention I get from other women, even if I'm just answering questions about my shoulder tomcat.
I believe someone called it 'dread game' but it basically means my lovers know that I have plenty of options, so they are only hurting themselves if they leave me. Since they know that they're special to me, but not that special, they tend to be more invested and interested to keep my attention, and it cuts down on the emotional manipulation because they know I will show them the door if they're annoying me. I enjoy their company, but I don't 'need' them enough to allow for their drama. That is what both attracts them and keeps them from leaving. I don't 'spin plates'. They spin themselves.