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[Gary29]

Whats up folks. Got a little dillema here. Well there's this chickie, i'm friends with her brothers, barely knew her two years ago, then didn't talk to her or see her for two years, about a month ago I called her up, had a quick chat maybe 5 minutes... she remembered me and we had some good laughs (I'm a charmer), I teased her a little, etc. Called again about 2 weeks after that... had a good conversation (she was telling me about her Heartbreaker panties etc. Sure, good chemistry. Whatever you want to call it. Well, talked to her again yesterday and today (I told her a week ago to call me up on x day at x time, and she did). But apart from the regular flirty talk and teasing, she's been asking me some pretty heavy stuff... maybe as you call them "tests." I want to know WHY she asked me these questions and what the best answers are. I just shrugged them off and said something funny or clever... but I got a feeling she wants some real answers. And I'm not sure if this means good news or bad news. Anyways, the stuff that stuck out:

"There's one thing I don't get about you. If you don't want to get a relationship, and just wanna fool around and have fun, then why are you looking to get into a relationship with a good/smart girl"... to which I replied "Someone told you that I'm out there looking for a girlfriend? I'm not like out there actively searching for one."

and....

"I just want to know why you called me... Do you just think of me as a friend? Because if that's the case, thats cool, we can just be friends... or do you think of me as something more than a friend? I just want to know... I like honesty bla bla bla... I just don't want... you know... for example... you to like me and think of me as more than a friend, but I don't like you in that way or something" to which I replied "Why don't you just wait and find out... you're pretty impatient. I'm not a fortune teller, how am I supposed to know? this is today." and she kept asking me if i thought of he as more than a friend... to which I said "cmon kaley I dont know you that well to like you that way YET" and she said "so we're just friends for now? well ok thats cool"

 

[Gary29]

Oh yeah, she was asking me what I thought about her. And when she was asking if i thought of her as just a friend or something more, she started telling about some situation with some other guy, how it got all messed up, and how it caused her not to trust people... I don't know the specifics, because I stopped her and told her I don't really care about the other guy. And btw, this chick is 16 years old so that right there i'm pretty sure causes weird behavior (I just turned 18). Doesn't have serious boyfriends, probably never had a serious boyfriend, but she is 10 out of 10 in looks and probably brains too.

P.S. I do a lot of teasing and told her that she is not perfect She went crazy trying to find out "what the 2 flaws about her" were... heheh... but conversations are amazing, even though somewhat quick and short. Except today's was about 30 minutes long, she kept asking me these heavy questions.

Basically chickie keeps implying that I want a relationship with her and is trying to confirm it (I do want an LTR in the long run), but at the same time keeps reassuring me that just being friends is cool.

Thanks for your help ahead of time!

 

[flexion_]

Well she is telling you that you are in the LJBF zone. Women don't ask that sort of question if they like you romantically...

If you don't believe me then ask her out, have fun and try and kiss her - then you'll know for sure.

 

[Lost In the Seas]

ur playing it cool right now, keep up the mystery and fantasy to drive her crazy, once she said "i think i like u a bit too much" or "i love u" or something along those lines u know it's the right time

 

[DonJuanMonk]

You are in friends hell, move on to better prospects.

 

[Tazman]

I like honesty bla bla bla... I just don't want... you know... for example... you to like me and think of me as more than a friend, but I don't like you in that way or something"

No ******** here my friend. There's no mystery, she knows what you're trying to do and she's letting you know that you can't go any further, than mere "friends." I say let her go, the jig is up!