Lately, I've been undergoing huge changes in my personality and sense of self. I've also been tossing aside many of my presumptions about life, careers and work, and about women. I've truly been trying to swallow the red pill, but I've become a bit disillusioned.
Read this reddit thread's comments...the whole thing:
http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/23kvi2/women_of_rsex_that_like_it_rough_what_do_you_like/
Honestly, my mind is totally blown. People (and y'all) had told me women like rougher lovemaking, but just...wow. I honestly can't comprehend it. Since I was in my teens, I had thought women didn't enjoy hard fvcking, wanted 'gentle lovemaking', etc., all the usual sayings. This stuff has been drilled into my head for so long, it's incredible the stuff these women are saying in that thread.
You're probably wondering what my sexual experience level is; I'm a 21 year old virgin - had the opportunity to have sex once, literally had the girl on my bed, but was too damn chicken to go the distance. It's honestly become a traumatic memory for me, I'm somewhat scarred by it, the dumb mistakes I made following it, and the bucketload of missed opportunities I've had over the past few years and am finding it difficult to think about sex with women.
That reddit thread is even more disillusioning for me, because I can't see women's sexuality and desire in day-to-day life. The women I interact with are pretty much what you'd call 'good girls'; I go to a highly academic uni, so that may be a contributing factor, i don't know. But women keep their sexuality so well hidden that I honestly could not have predicted that they'd like this stuff.
Some of my own personality characteristics - I try to be kind to everyone I meet, and I sometimes go out of my way to help people where most others would just mind their own business (I've been criticized for this). It's also been ingrained into me to respect women very highly, and not hurt them or anyone, really. Domination in the bedroom and highly physical sex, taking charge and operating to fulfill my own desires foremost, seems kind of foreign to me. I suppose I could see myself doing it...maybe? I'm not sure...
I'm not sure what kind of answer or advice I'm looking for, just needed to spill some of what's been going on in my head. Any thoughts?
Read this reddit thread's comments...the whole thing:
http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/23kvi2/women_of_rsex_that_like_it_rough_what_do_you_like/
Honestly, my mind is totally blown. People (and y'all) had told me women like rougher lovemaking, but just...wow. I honestly can't comprehend it. Since I was in my teens, I had thought women didn't enjoy hard fvcking, wanted 'gentle lovemaking', etc., all the usual sayings. This stuff has been drilled into my head for so long, it's incredible the stuff these women are saying in that thread.
You're probably wondering what my sexual experience level is; I'm a 21 year old virgin - had the opportunity to have sex once, literally had the girl on my bed, but was too damn chicken to go the distance. It's honestly become a traumatic memory for me, I'm somewhat scarred by it, the dumb mistakes I made following it, and the bucketload of missed opportunities I've had over the past few years and am finding it difficult to think about sex with women.
That reddit thread is even more disillusioning for me, because I can't see women's sexuality and desire in day-to-day life. The women I interact with are pretty much what you'd call 'good girls'; I go to a highly academic uni, so that may be a contributing factor, i don't know. But women keep their sexuality so well hidden that I honestly could not have predicted that they'd like this stuff.
Some of my own personality characteristics - I try to be kind to everyone I meet, and I sometimes go out of my way to help people where most others would just mind their own business (I've been criticized for this). It's also been ingrained into me to respect women very highly, and not hurt them or anyone, really. Domination in the bedroom and highly physical sex, taking charge and operating to fulfill my own desires foremost, seems kind of foreign to me. I suppose I could see myself doing it...maybe? I'm not sure...
I'm not sure what kind of answer or advice I'm looking for, just needed to spill some of what's been going on in my head. Any thoughts?