SeeThruIt said:
Ok, I'm getting that I need to be more assertive and not ask for permission.
Here's another example from a woman I was only sleeping with that I haven't seen in a few months because I wouldn't give in to a relationship so she called it quits.
Me: Are you home tonight?
Her: Yes, relaxing watching tv
Me: Ok, I'm coming over for 8
Her: You are? Make it 8:30 I need to shower first
I'm surprised to be honest, I used to ask and get turned down, or beat around the bush in hopes she suggests something etc
Very nice, but notice something. ANY TIME a girl tries to "adjust" anything you've said, she's trying to control the frame.
It may FEEL like a victory to you, however, she feels as though, on some level, (even though it's not entirely logical) that she is controlling you, since you agreed to her modification. (I'm assuming)
It's a very slippery slope, and girls are hard wired to relentlessly pull men toward that slippery slope with every interaction.
The trick is to understand that she'll ALWAYS try and control the frame.
The best defense is a good offense. Always a very clear set of boundaries WITHIN YOURSELF before going into any interaction.
It's YOUR JOB to eject IMMEDIATELY if those boundaries are crossed.
It's NOT HER JOB to respect your boundaries. She is HARD WIRED to try and cross or otherwise alter your boundaries with as much female manipulation as she can muster.
It's YOUR JOB to set them, and defend them. ALWAYS.
The best way to defend them is to know them, and eject if they are crossed.
Let your actions do the talking.
