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CaptFinnBad

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So been on and off with this borderline women (stupid I know). Started off amazing, I truly got reeled in.

I'll admit it, I lost myself in her.

We've broke up a few times and got back together.

We've broke up again. I need to now stay the **** away from her.

I've been in decent relationships before, longest being nearly 10 years. Sure it hurt breaking up with her but it was a normal process.

My dance with a borderline is totally different to all the healthy relationships I've been in. I'm finding it a totally different kettle of fish.

Finding it very ****ing difficult.
 

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Stay broke up with her. Move on
 

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So been on and off with this borderline women (stupid I know). Started off amazing, I truly got reeled in.

I'll admit it, I lost myself in her.

We've broke up a few times and got back together.

We've broke up again. I need to now stay the **** away from her.

I've been in decent relationships before, longest being nearly 10 years. Sure it hurt breaking up with her but it was a normal process.

My dance with a borderline is totally different to all the healthy relationships I've been in. I'm finding it a totally different kettle of fish.

Finding it very ****ing difficult.
You probably will have to go completely no contact. That means blocking her on every means she has to contact you with no warning or explanation.
 

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Find a hotter girl. U will forget her faster
 

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You probably will have to go completely no contact. That means blocking her on every means she has to contact you with no warning or explanation.
Yes, plenty of resources on here to go “no contact”.
You already recognize the toxicity and your dependency with her.
Now you have to crack that addiction by going cold turkey.
Short term pain for long term gain.
Good luck!
 

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So been on and off with this borderline women (stupid I know). Started off amazing, I truly got reeled in.

I'll admit it, I lost myself in her.

We've broke up a few times and got back together.

We've broke up again. I need to now stay the **** away from her.

I've been in decent relationships before, longest being nearly 10 years. Sure it hurt breaking up with her but it was a normal process.

My dance with a borderline is totally different to all the healthy relationships I've been in. I'm finding it a totally different kettle of fish.

Finding it very ****ing difficult.
While it is easy to say "move on" or "find another girl", the truth is your problem stems from self-control and self-discipline. Meaning it is beyond romantic relationships.

You need to start building internal boundaries, self-control, and self-discipline in other parts of your life. Start with your morning routine, most people lag and are all over the place during the first hour of their waking life. Create a solid routine and follow through.

I wake up, meditate, read, and make my bed as soon as I roll out. No questions asked, no whining, no second-guessing. I also stay away from social media for the first few hours of my day. It's simple yet effective as it translates into other parts of my life. I created a self-discipline/follow thru/self-control mindset.

Hope this helps.


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CaptFinnBad

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Yes, plenty of resources on here to go “no contact”.
You already recognize the toxicity and your dependency with her.
Now you have to crack that addiction by going cold turkey.
Short term pain for long term gain.
Good luck!

I want to consentrate on coin and c u n t . As in focus on making money for a while and sleeping around a bit.

I'm not sure if other women would be helpful in breaking my addiction to her.
 

CaptFinnBad

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While it is easy to say "move on" or "find another girl", the truth is your problem stems from self-control and self-discipline. Meaning it is beyond romantic relationships.

You need to start building internal boundaries, self-control, and self-discipline in other parts of your life. Start with your morning routine, most people lag and are all over the place during the first hour of their waking life. Create a solid routine and follow through.

I wake up, meditate, read, and make my bed as soon as I roll out. No questions asked, no whining, no second-guessing. I also stay away from social media for the first few hours of my day. It's simple yet effective as it translates into other parts of my life. I created a self-discipline/follow thru/self-control mindset.

Hope this helps.


Modern Man Advice
Makes a lot of sense.
 

CaptFinnBad

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You probably will have to go completely no contact. That means blocking her on every means she has to contact you with no warning or explanation.
Blocked her on social media.. I'm finding the instant messenger we use really difficult.

I've deleted the conversation, but still have her number.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I'm finding it difficult deleting it.
Get a cold one. Pour it in a frozen mug. Hover your finger over the delete button. You're not allowed to enjoy the beer until you eject. You're welcome..
 

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That volume of women.... how do you keep count of all of them?

Wait wut?
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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