Need help bros

[dustmuffin]

TL;DR: I need to grow some ****ing balls


Ok, so we both had a great time, really, ****in awesome and funny. Anyhow, she made references to meeting again, I kinoed a lot, she asked lots of questions, you know. So the thing is, she even started passing her tongue over her mouth, to moist her lips, she removed the haird from the shoulders, EVERY ****ING THING IN THE BOOK, and I didn't have the balls to go for the kiss. Holy ****, I feel like a emasculated nu-male right now. Anyhow, she sent me a message saying that she had a good time, etc. I think I have another opportunity, but I have to grow some ****ing balls, holy **** I feel so much shame right now.

Take action be bold! What is the worst that can happen? You start kissing them and eventually you can kiss anyone with confidence! Keep at it!

 

[Reykhel]

TL;DR: I need to grow some ****ing balls


Ok, so we both had a great time, really, ****in awesome and funny. Anyhow, she made references to meeting again, I kinoed a lot, she asked lots of questions, you know. So the thing is, she even started passing her tongue over her mouth, to moist her lips, she removed the haird from the shoulders, EVERY ****ING THING IN THE BOOK, and I didn't have the balls to go for the kiss. Holy ****, I feel like a emasculated nu-male right now. Anyhow, she sent me a message saying that she had a good time, etc. I think I have another opportunity, but I have to grow some ****ing balls, holy **** I feel so much shame right now.

Don't worry about it. You're getting back on the horse and now you have...
...a reference point.

Instead of feeling shame or feeling bad....you reflect on your reference point and analyze what you would
do differently. This is insight. Then with your new found insight you create another situation and go again.

And you know already what's to be done. Remind yourself in the moment to take right action......
...your body tells you when is the right moment. What you wrote above describes when it was the moment.......when you feel that moment......right action regardless of what any inner dialogue is
saying....

...when you feel that moment of hesitation and fear or whatever trying to hold you back.....tell yourself......"He who dares wins"

....and proceed...

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Don't worry about it. You're getting back on the horse and now you have...
...a reference point.

Instead of feeling shame or feeling bad....you reflect on your reference point and analyze what you would
do differently. This is insight. Then with your new found insight you create another situation and go again.

And you know already what's to be done. Remind yourself in the moment to take right action......
...your body tells you when is the right moment. What you wrote above describes when it was the moment.......when you feel that moment......right action regardless of what any inner dialogue is
saying....

...when you feel that moment of hesitation and fear or whatever trying to hold you back.....tell yourself......"He who dares wins"

....and proceed...

Thanks man, I appreciate. Just after posting that I went with some friends to take a walk and put things into perspective. I was happy for what I did, and catalogued it as experience.
So yeah, I will follow your advice. One funny thing is what you say, your body tells you when it's the right moment. You can read about game all you want, but having the experience is so different; this actually encouraged me to keep on approaching and learning how to get good at gaming women.
Sent a message for another date, will report back.

 

[zinc4]

Go for the kill quickly....I love Japanese girls. Be Macho as hell....they love it. Turn them into the little dirty sluts they really are. Some of those Jgirls are freaking wild.

 

[ubercat]

Heheh don't sweat it man. Many guys are so crazy for the rice pie that they lock up. make sure you get plenty of sleep bro Japanese girls r vicious in the sack expect lots of bite marks.. Asian girls in general seem to love being manhandled. I'd suggest when you meet her hold your arms open wide for the hug, pick her up spin around a few times, plant a big kiss on her while she s breathless. hand in the small of the back and lead her off to wherever

My Chinese nurse was being a bit shy physically 2nd date.did this schtick. I just spent the weekend shacked up. You deserve the pie man go for it. Oh and keep working out - they love doing the koala

 

[CuddleJunkie]

So this morning I woke up with a GAME OVER notification on my phone lol. Here's the message:
"Hi, sorry for my late reply. By the way,yesterday I had a cold. I’m feeling a bit under the weather. I think I’ll take it easy today."
I said "Yeah? Get well then, remember to add more layers of clothes. Write me if you want to hang our another day"
I have a couple of observations and a question, feel free to add anything. The question is: should have I suggested another day instead of letting the ball in her side now?
Observations:
-I feel good, I mean, I'm not euphoric but I don't feel bad at all. The other day I felt like sh!t because it was my fault as a mand not going for the kiss, today I don't feel bad because if she's not interested...oh well. I guess I'm a stoic lol.
-I have a strong desire to keep cold-approaching because this is a funny experience overall.
-I need to **** an asian girl, like badly.
-The undercurrent of anxiety I had most of yesterday was caused by not knowing what would happen, not by fear of rejection itself, because now I feel good.

I might create a journal, we'll see. Thank you guys, as always.

 

[Reykhel]

So this morning I woke up with a GAME OVER notification on my phone lol. Here's the message:
"Hi, sorry for my late reply. By the way,yesterday I had a cold. I’m feeling a bit under the weather. I think I’ll take it easy today."
I said "Yeah? Get well then, remember to add more layers of clothes. Write me if you want to hang our another day"
I have a couple of observations and a question, feel free to add anything. The question is: should have I suggested another day instead of letting the ball in her side now?
Observations:
-I feel good, I mean, I'm not euphoric but I don't feel bad at all. The other day I felt like sh!t because it was my fault as a mand not going for the kiss, today I don't feel bad because if she's not interested...oh well. I guess I'm a stoic lol.
-I have a strong desire to keep cold-approaching because this is a funny experience overall.
-I need to **** an asian girl, like badly.
-The undercurrent of anxiety I had most of yesterday was caused by not knowing what would happen, not by fear of rejection itself, because now I feel good.

I might create a journal, we'll see. Thank you guys, as always.

I like your posts. You're going to internalize game quite quickly and
eventually you'll be a "natural".

Why? Because you're experiencing everything in real. All of the emotions, all of the anticipations,
all of the mental cues....this is all happening in real. this is happening in body and mind.

This is the core reason why I'm not a fan of OLD. Because it cuts out that initial part where
you need to get over all of your approach anxiety, fear and apprehensions. It cuts out
all of that. The social development and knowledge of yourself and people can only be experienced
in real time.

The end result in the end is not that important, because you win some you lose some. It's the
process that's the most important. Even your favorite football can't win every game, neither
can they win the cup every season. But their fans are with them on every step of the journey, for the
highs and lows, overcoming adversities and challenges.

Enjoying the journey, enjoying the process. The end result? Que sera, sera...

 

[salinechow]

So this morning I woke up with a GAME OVER notification on my phone lol. Here's the message:
"Hi, sorry for my late reply. By the way,yesterday I had a cold. I’m feeling a bit under the weather. I think I’ll take it easy today."
I said "Yeah? Get well then, remember to add more layers of clothes. Write me if you want to hang our another day"
I have a couple of observations and a question, feel free to add anything. The question is: should have I suggested another day instead of letting the ball in her side now?
Observations:
-I feel good, I mean, I'm not euphoric but I don't feel bad at all. The other day I felt like sh!t because it was my fault as a mand not going for the kiss, today I don't feel bad because if she's not interested...oh well. I guess I'm a stoic lol.
-I have a strong desire to keep cold-approaching because this is a funny experience overall.
-I need to **** an asian girl, like badly.
-The undercurrent of anxiety I had most of yesterday was caused by not knowing what would happen, not by fear of rejection itself, because now I feel good.

I might create a journal, we'll see. Thank you guys, as always.

No reason to analyze the "Game over Notification" ( that made me laugh by the way)

You didnt escalate when you knew you should. She lost interest.

But, I doesn't sound like you are unaware of your follies. So Ill leave that at that.

Its a good experience still. Shes only one girl, and next time you'll know to be bolder and you will be rewarded and that will be the start of end of cold feet for you.

Ive been there. We probably all have. So long as you learn from failure and progress through it and away from it, its no longer a failure but a stone under you feet of the mountain you build.

@Atom Smasher Once wrote a post about piling failures under your feet to stand tall, instead of piling them on your shoulders to crush you down. It was a marvelous post.

When you collect rejections and failures to strengthen your frame, instead of letting them create fear, you are always in a trajectory of success. This mindset is outcome independence in fully realized practice and is a pillar of DJ/ real man mentality.

 

[LiveFreeX]

Heheh don't sweat it man. Many guys are so crazy for the rice pie that they lock up. make sure you get plenty of sleep bro Japanese girls r vicious in the sack expect lots of bite marks.. Asian girls in general seem to love being manhandled

This has been my experience as well... one girl tore into my back with her nails, had red marks for days. Anyway CJ you know the drill, wouldn't worry about it, there are 50 million more waiting for you over there. Save those $$$. You will likely have an easier time with Chinese/Viets/Phillipinas, Jgirls ARE 1st world girls sort of so you aren't going to get the same amount of glue you would from the 3rd worlders.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Thank you everybody for your words, they are really encouraging. I will start a journal, because now I have goals that I'm really excited about, and I don't want to make a thread everytime I need help with a woman.