Need Help Bad!!!! with my one-its

[strollsrus]

Guys I need some advice badly!!!! I am so un-DJ like it scares me. How do you deal with loosing your one-its???? This woman works with me and today was her last day. I really have feelings for her badly "I know AFC". We spent so much time talking eating lunch together at work I spent time with her at her house once. She told me she was Head over Heels for me. We never dated because she has a boyfriend who supports her and she has a kid by him. anyway I thought I would still see her. But I had this feeling today she wouldn't let me go home she kept trying to stall me and make me stay longer gave me a hug and a kiss. Told me I will be in don't worry. makes me feel like we will never see each other again. I am not going to work tommorow I have that not wanting to live feeling. I know this is as AFC as you can get but please give me some help on this. Thanks

 

[coin]

She has a kid? Trust me dude you can do better.

NEXT!

 

[DJLiquid]

First of all...a woman with a kid and a boyfriend will bring you drama that you don't need...second...go back to work tomorrow...and talk to other girls at your workplace...the best way to get rid of one-itis is to meet/date other girls...

-DJLiquid

 

[Dee-Zy]

Originally posted by coin
She has a kid? Trust me dude you can do better.

NEXT!

ditto - Are you willing to support that kid? N I sure hope that kid's dad isn't the boyfriend cuz u should be slapped to even considering breaking up a family. No matter HOW head over heals the chick is.

 

[usdaprime]

Dude relax a little bit. First if she is head over heels for you what does head over heels actually mean anyway. and she acted like she didn't want to let go how come you don't think you will see her again?

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by strollsrus
Guys I need some advice badly!!!! I am so un-DJ like it scares me. How do you deal with loosing your one-its???? This woman works with me and today was her last day. I really have feelings for her badly "I know AFC". We spent so much time talking eating lunch together at work I spent time with her at her house once. She told me she was Head over Heels for me. We never dated because she has a boyfriend who supports her and she has a kid by him. anyway I thought I would still see her. But I had this feeling today she wouldn't let me go home she kept trying to stall me and make me stay longer gave me a hug and a kiss. Told me I will be in don't worry. makes me feel like we will never see each other again. I am not going to work tommorow I have that not wanting to live feeling. I know this is as AFC as you can get but please give me some help on this. Thanks

Oh brother.

Posts like this are a welcome reminder of just how far I've come.

Anyway, relax dude. Read the Bible over and over. And trust me on this one thing - there will come a point in time that you will read this post and laugh at yourself.

You will be fine.

 

[gr8one]

so what if she has a kid.

shouldn't stop ANYONE from getting the number or the booty.

All you guys are saying "NEXT" so fast....as if by dating a girl with a kid you are automatically OBLIGATED to give her child support money?...lol

if the girl is hot. ...well, you know the saying...

"the body wants, what the body wants..."

LoL

 

[MoMurda]

Originally posted by coin
She has a kid? Trust me dude you can do better.

NEXT!

 

[Dee-Zy]

Originally posted by gr8one
so what if she has a kid.

shouldn't stop ANYONE from getting the number or the booty.

All you guys are saying "NEXT" so fast....as if by dating a girl with a kid you are automatically OBLIGATED to give her child support money?...lol

if the girl is hot. ...well, you know the saying...

"the body wants, what the body wants..."

LoL

I sure hope you are sarcastic - because I pity the morals your parents raised u with.

 

[OpenMind]

I second Dee-zy on that one!

 

[TheCloser]

I'm with the general consensus here...Next her...too much potential drama...trust me you can do better...go out for a run tonight and get rid of that stress and start talking positively to yourself...let your self know that it's only one girl and you will be able to get someone much more complete in the near future.

 

[iqqi]

dirty socks!? is that you again? quit changing your user name!

 

[dionysius_d]

Everything seems bigger than it is at the time.. you sound like you are going through some emotional shyte cause you bonded pretty heavily with this woman. You probably wrote this email the same day you went over.

Since that was a few days ago, you're probably in a different space right now.. and can think more rationally.

As the other dudes here mentioned, do you really want the complications of other bf's and a kid?

With ground work, you could probably get into her pants.. but what's the cost gonna be??

If she was gonna get into you, she would have done it already, instead of just giving a kiss and hug goodbye. It means she has other shyte on her mind, and is probably in a dilemma as to what do to herself in this case.

It might be a blessing for you that you got the chance to cut off at this time..

Weigh up the costs and what you get from this situation, then act.

 

[Reto]

I agree that she has too much baggage. Not the kid, the boy friend. Since there is a kid, he will always be around.

I hate to inform you younger DJ's, but as you get older, women tend to accumulate baggage as you will. What do you want, a de-frocked Nun? A 30 year old virgin bikini model?

Every post someone tells another to NEXT her. Sooner or later, you have to accept a woman's flaws and baggage. Weigh the good with the bad. I'm not NEXT'g a girl becasue of some of the BS reasons that come up on this board...

There are no perfect women out there. There are no perfect DJ's out there. You just got to find a woman you have something in common with, attracted to, and that swallows...

 

[MrMetropolis]

Yeah, If you good the best your ever gonna get from her is a good lay. If you know how to get her hot and time the situation right. However, She is mentally "biologically" bonded to her boyfriend because she had his KID.

I would just say.. work out an attack fvck plan roll it hard and leave it wet. Looks like you missed it when you were over at her house and she said she was head over heals for ya. think about it... she wanted her heals over her head. LoL.

 

[Helter Skelter]

I'm not big on NEXTING it would have to be a serious reason, like the girl doesn't give BJ's.\

 

[PEACEDJ]

Just snap the f*ck out of it!!! YOU DON'T NEED ANY GIRL TO LIVE... Foget it, if she likes you that much then she'll burn her ass of to see you sometime. The more you think, the worse its going to get, stop thinking and live your life. Sometimes when I feel like this I go up to my older brother and cuss him out, then we get into a fight and I feel better. not the best way.. but it works for me hehe

 

[Krassus]

Boyfriend and a kid? You can do better than that man.

 

[fan27]

A kid is one thing, but she is with a boyfriend that supports her and her kid. Are you willing to take that responsibility? I am sure that are plenty of HOT women out there that have kids and are not looking for someone to support them.

Whatever you are feeling now, it is only temporary. It will pass. Taking some sort of positive action to advance your cause ( Read the bible, workout, ect..)

Good Luck