need game but Don't want it

[jago25_98]

Frankly I can't be bothered with playing the game. From the shoes I wear to the car I drive, all controlled by women.

How free is that?

Yet I can't stop thinking about my lack thereof a GF. Can't live with them, can't live without them.

The more a relationship the matures the more it dies for me. I never want to be married. I've only seen unhappiness in married couples; i.e. parents.

And then there's the constant wining - do this, be that. As if to say, I give you sex so you give me love, money and be whatever I want you to be.

I've tried resisting and it doesn't work. They just go on, and on, and on. If you think you can do better bite your nails and wait for the wining. Next time I'll be unmovable from the start.

The only thing I expect anything back from a girlfriend is respect yet they always want the world, and it drives me mad.

Talking to my flatmate we found a fundamental difference in the way we view things. He believes that there is that special person whereas I believe nobody's special. I can see his line of reasoning but he doesn't relise what true love is. He, like a lot of people think that chemical love is true love and it's not. True love is jesus-style, I'll-mop-your-comatosed-brow.

Always settling for 2nd best. You go along until you meet someone special, you go crazy, you marry, in 4 years time the chemicals run out you divorce or... be nice. At some point you have to settle. But who wants to settle? And in that case, why start?

 

[yunghova35]

are you asking anything or do you just need a cyber hug????

 

[jago25_98]

cyber hug.

or a plan to sort myself out

pull yourself together doesn't cut it because it doesn't change anything.

Not to say there is an answer though

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by jago25_98
Frankly I can't be bothered with playing the game. From the shoes I wear to the car I drive, all controlled by women.

This quote shows how much you have to learn. On a scale of 1-10 on the stage of being a DJ, you're at about... 2. The only reason it's not 1 is because you've found this site.

Now go read the Bible and bump yourself up 1 or 2 spots:
http://www.jbspencer.com/djb

 

[biker_gixxer]

I agree with Diablo, you have allot to learn. You sound like an AFC that has given up. You need to learn how to 'tighten' your game...

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by jago25_98


The only thing I expect anything back from a girlfriend is respect yet they always want the world, and it drives me mad.

This is one of the greatest gifts in the world your woman could give you. Napoleon Hill writer of think rich and grow rich stated that 95% of the greatest achievements man ever made was on behalf of a woman. Women constant nagging ensures you dont become a lazy good for nothing bum, and stay stagnate.

If you can give your girl the world, that obviously means that you posses the world, and what man wouldnt want the world at his fingertips.

 

[Keeper]

Re: Re: need game but Don't want it

Originally posted by Royal Elite
This is one of the greatest gifts in the world your woman could give you. Napoleon Hill writer of think rich and grow rich stated that 95% of the greatest achievements man ever made was on behalf of a woman. Women constant nagging ensures you dont become a lazy good for nothing bum, and stay stagnate.

If you can give your girl the world, that obviously means that you posses the world, and what man wouldnt want the world at his fingertips.

Amen!

 

[biker_gixxer]

...and one more thing. Since you don't want game, go ahead and give me those emails and phone numbers you have of potentials, I'll take care of it for ya...

 

[sapphire]

It is also called sexual transmutation

 

[Anthony_Training]

Simple solution

You aren't acting like a "MAN", you are acting like the AFC. I felt the same way... but I'm doing the Bootcamp from the DJ Bible and I feel much more confident. I see things much clearer now!

 

[Freeman]

Originally posted by jago25_98
Frankly I can't be bothered with playing the game. From the shoes I wear to the car I drive, all controlled by women.

How free is that?

Yet I can't stop thinking about my lack thereof a GF. Can't live with them, can't live without them.

The more a relationship the matures the more it dies for me. I never want to be married. I've only seen unhappiness in married couples; i.e. parents.

And then there's the constant wining - do this, be that. As if to say, I give you sex so you give me love, money and be whatever I want you to be.

I've tried resisting and it doesn't work. They just go on, and on, and on. If you think you can do better bite your nails and wait for the wining. Next time I'll be unmovable from the start.

The only thing I expect anything back from a girlfriend is respect yet they always want the world, and it drives me mad.

Talking to my flatmate we found a fundamental difference in the way we view things. He believes that there is that special person whereas I believe nobody's special. I can see his line of reasoning but he doesn't relise what true love is. He, like a lot of people think that chemical love is true love and it's not. True love is jesus-style, I'll-mop-your-comatosed-brow.

Always settling for 2nd best. You go along until you meet someone special, you go crazy, you marry, in 4 years time the chemicals run out you divorce or... be nice. At some point you have to settle. But who wants to settle? And in that case, why start? [/QUOTE


I will have to say that I agree with you JAgo. I to believe that people aren't ever truly happy in their relationships because if they were why do guys always look at other women when they are already married? Or the female who is married but checks out the guy who cleans her pool? Why? I hear excuses like "Oh its okay to look once in a while"--OR--You can look but don't touch". In my mind, the thought of the act is just as bad as the act itself. Answer me this: If you are truly content with your woman AND your situation in life why do you still search? Its because we always yearn for what is unknown. The thrill of having sex with someone new excites us. BEcause we as human being aren't never happy with what we have-And the people on this site would be lying to themselves if they say this isn't a fact. So we do end settling for less than what our dreams desire.


But don't get me wrong, by no means am I saying never get into relationships because its pointless. All I'm saying is that Jago does bring up some interesting points...

 

[Kaine]

Always settling for 2nd best. You go along until you meet someone special, you go crazy, you marry, in 4 years time the chemicals run out you divorce or... be nice. At some point you have to settle. But who wants to settle? And in that case, why start?

There is some logic in your post and I believe we think a like in a way.


As much as I would like to believe that there are faery tale endings and that we can find out soul mate and live happily ever after, there is just too much evidence that it simply isn't realistic.

It is also compelling that the 'love' we experience in our romantic relationships is chemical and we are biologically been tuned to be in love as long it takes to concieve.

Been a male I tend to go with the science but been human I would like to believe in the hope of breaking through our biology into something more spiritual.


If you dwell too much on the evidence that sooner or later you guys are doomed to breakapart, you begin to adopt a hopeless and negative mindset which is not condusive a healthy lifestyle. It causes a lack of action i.e. why bother? so you don't don't try and your misery is self fulfilling

So my conclusion is to live life from moment to moment, find the best girl there is and TRY not to think that it's eventually going to turn to sh.it. Because in this way you spend less time focusing on the things that make relationships worthwhile and dwelling on the a negative evitability leads to self prophecised defeat.

Best thing to begin with is NOT to settle then do the best you can on your journey


Kaine