need feedback from skilled players-naturals on celebrity girls

[MightyMate]

okay long story short.
some of u know me, but i wasnt posting for a bit so could forget. lets give some background to the story, so the answers will be better targetted.

i was on some party in beach bar. i had there many many friends, high social, im mainly type of prize person, i do many cool things, im also musician and i have masters. mainly good guy
i met the girl. shes also high social + shes kind of sport celebrity. all was good as always [i almost never loose], but then when i had her phone number and got totally drunk i was callin her many many times [on the party].
from what i see we spoke once for 3 mins on phone, rest seems she didnt pickup and it was her phone secretary taking. still i called the girl like 20 times during 30mins. and she picked for sure once, no idea of rest.

we had all stuff fixed, meeting in a week blabla. but since we dont know what i did beein drunk and how it worked or how much trouble it caused i dont know how to act.

1. i call her and set up meeting [problem is i been callin 20 times, she may get stressed + this time i can call just once. if she doesnt pickup what then?
the good thing here is if shes mad then my energy on phone may fix all, but what are chances she picks ;p also i can record then something on her voiceessage, but what could it be that fixes it?

2. i just text her with straight text that we were suspossed to meet, like nothing happened - if she was mad then sms is ignored, and what then?

and how many days should i wait? [its already 3rd day after our meeting]


and please give me serious feedback, not stuff like u shouldnt get that drunk, switch girl etc. thanx in advance!

 

[Alexander the Great]

1. I don't see how this has anything to do with MATURE men. What you described is high school material. College at most. Mature my ass. Age-wise only. Give me a break.

2. Learn how to write. Being a good guy entails that you respect your peers here. Your half-assed post doesn't do that. I can hardly make heads or tails from it. Were you drunk still when you wrote it? Lame. Or is English not your primary language? (That's the only excuse I take.)

3. Stop boasting about how great you are. Naturals are a little modest at least. If you're really a prize person, you don't need any advice, and you especially don't need to advertise it. Take your head out of the clouds. Maybe that's your problem: your whole post sounds more like a spoiled kid not getting why all girls don't like him.

4. Don't get drunk in public. It's lame. Read that again: L-A-M-E.

5. Don't badger women. Especially not when you're drunk.

6. Move on from this girl. You MESSED UP! Sports celebrity? Local I take it? Hah, whatever. Remember those girls have tons of guys fawning over them. With your actions you just became lame-ass one-million-and-one. Move on. Maybe there's another chance a while down the road.

7. Stop demanding info from "naturals" about OBVIOUS f*ck-ups.

8. Just get out there and do it better next time.

9. Don't waste your time on sports celebrities, unless you just want to do 'em (in which case, it's a waste of time trying more than once, especially after f*ucking up). They're too busy training.


Your post annoys me. I don't like clueless posers. Please take note of that before you take anything I said too harshly. And don't take it personal either. Please.

 

[mrRuckus]

Your post annoys me.

You could try my method and just don't read posts where there are zero capital letters.

 

[MightyMate]

Why don`t You guys write that im too high level and You cant give tips? Also it doesnt matter if You think i made it up or not, i just want thoughts on this spectacular situation with all the background i gave.
Dont waste bw of forums when You cant answer. I wrote i want serious infos not some made up 'how-would-it-be'. We are here, now and we work from this spot, and that is what i need.

 

[NewMan]

Call her 1 time.

you need to acknowledge your F-up - but do it with humor. if she doesn't pick up, leave a message.

if you don't here from her, your only other chance would be if you 'bumped' into her again. next time, don't drink so much if you can't handle it.

 

[sodbuster]

The only thing spectacular about this situation is how drunk and stupid you got. You'd have a better chance "charging hell with a bucket of water" than you do with this girl. Call her and apologize[only decent thing to do],but then I'd move on.
What you THINK you know and what you know are 2 different things. If you were the player you think you are,you wouldn't be here asking what to do now. You'd be too embarrassed to mention how AFC you were and you'd know she see's you as just another AFC. Instead, you come here as clueless as Borat,expect us to "fix it",then say we aren't on your level[more right than you think,but not the way you think] because we tell you you screwed up.
Run it by the high schoolers, thats about the the experience level you'd need. I guessing some of them did it in the last week and would be more than happy to share their thoughts.

 

[Apollo]

You screwed up, this one is over...learn from it. Don't drink as much next time or leave the cell phone at home.

You could always take one last kick at the can...do as NewMan suggest and call once. I would wait a week at least.

 

[MightyMate]

NewMan, Apollo - Thanks for serious answers not pasting 'what should be done when i could move time machine back'.
I f-up sure, that is why i needed some feedback. Happends sometimes even to the best.

And yes i am not english/american native.

We`ll see how it goes!

And why do You guys think in this case the sms is wrong? I have mixed feelings about whats better, i never had such f-up. Normally id just call but now still not sure. And i have just one move and its end.
Also from my friends 'memory' i was calling to ask where hse is [on which party, there were many clubs near].

 

[NewMan]

text is impersonnell and is for kids. A man picks up the phone and calls.

 

[Apollo]

Mighty, no problem...that's what we're all here for.

Just keep learning from your mistakes, we've all made them. One last thing, it sounds like you cared too much too early about this girl. Go chat up some other girls and get another phone number or two. That's when you should call that girl back.

 

[MightyMate]

Okay to keep You updated. I called her, she didnt pickup so i recorded msg on her voicemail. Same moment i hangoff, she called from other phone number [before listening to the message].
She asked whos calling coz she doesnt know the number - luckily, it means she were drunk when whole situation happened.
We spoke for like 4 mins, but she was coming back to our city that moment. I told her to meet next day, she said shes just coming back so she doesnt know. We spoke a bit more, and it standed on preety crap position which i hate aka she is suspossed to call me to say yes/no till some hour today.

Couldnt do more, believe me i tried. So atm im poweless but she was coming back to home after week of beein outside, so was impossible to force her to make it other way.

I felt good vibes tho, many iois. Still i dont know if she calls or not.
Dunno if i should take any action then or not either.

And yeh situation is special, usually i dont ask for feedback, but nobody ate all brains right.

 

[darkme_legendary]

and it was her phone secretary taking. still i called the girl like 20 times during 30mins

and you say that you are "high social"? What do you have/need to call it like this, is creepy or unnecessary at most.

And yeh situation is special

Where is that special thing? It sounds to me like another situation where a guy is imagining more than there is. Before you know it you make a lot of wrong assumptions based on false emotional estimations.

 

[MightyMate]

and you say that you are "high social"? What do you have/need to call it like this, is creepy or unnecessary at most.




Where is that special thing? It sounds to me like another situation where a guy is imagining more than there is.

The special thing is the ****up above. Not getting the # girl itself. Maybe english wasnt best but read my post carefully. The only special thing is i ****ed up and need to ask for feedback.

Update on situation. She texted me exactly at time she said shes gonna let me know.
She wrote "I cant make it today." Looks crap to me, even tho i had in mind she may not talk to me again, even with high rapport we had.

What are suggestions now dear friends?

 

[Alexander the Great]

Mighty, I believe I owe you an apology for judging and condemning you prematurely.

It was your style of writing and use of words that threw me off. I honestly held you for a clueless poser. Maybe it's a good idea to brush up on your English. If you want to communicate with the English-speaking, it is very important that people understand you properly. Especially with text-only media misinterpretations are more easily made. Next time, perhaps it is a good idea to include a remark that English is not your primary language. That tends to make people a whole lot more open-minded right away about what you write.


Anyway, as for your situation, some more supportive thoughts then.

First I'd like to say: Don't use the word "special" to describe this situation. "Special" makes people here think that you've lost your head over this girl. Clearly you haven't. "Special" has too much of a positive, upbeat meaning, and it is the wrong word to describe your situation.

What you mean to describe is that this situation is a-typical for your doing, or something like that. Not special.


Second: thanks for clarifying that you are aware that you messed up. That wasn't clear from your initial post.

It seems to me what you're doing now is alright. Don't get too clingy. Apologizing for your behaviour as the others suggested is something I feel justified. Just don't throw yourself at her, making excuses all the time, because you want to save face or make sure she thinks good of you again.

Just make it clear once that you're sorry and then forget about it. Act normal/natural around her. Don't try to get together with her desperately. If she holds you off, move on. Perhaps there's another chance after a while of low contact.

Good luck!


PS.
From seeing the links in your signature I take it that you're from Poland?

 

[MightyMate]

I have no hard feelings, u cant destory my frame, just i needed answers fast and You spammed my topic So no problems.

Anyways. Update is, i called her, she was shopping with her mom. She said she cant talk and will call me back - and that is what she did
Unfortunately next 2 days i cant meet her, and for weekend shes out of the city, she said she will call me sunday to say when shes back.

Im preety busy guy, she seems busy may be hard to meet, but at least all is fixed so im relaxed. I hate loosing like i said in first post!
Regards to everybody who gave help!

 

[Alexander the Great]

I have no hard feelings, u cant destory my frame, just i needed answers fast and You spammed my topic So no problems.

Anyways. Update is, i called her, she was shopping with her mom. She said she cant talk and will call me back - and that is what she did
Unfortunately next 2 days i cant meet her, and for weekend shes out of the city, she said she will call me sunday to say when shes back.

Im preety busy guy, she seems busy may be hard to meet, but at least all is fixed so im relaxed. I hate loosing like i said in first post!
Regards to everybody who gave help!

Sorry, my bad. You ARE a clueless poser. And an arrogant, self-centered one no less. Or is that a tautology?

You totally don't get it, do you? I suggest you brush up on your Comprehensive English Reading. FAST.

You could try my method and just don't read posts where there are zero capital letters.

I will take this to heart. Thanks. I needed a kick in the face I suppose.

 

[MightyMate]

I dont have to call people names, everybody sees what You wrote in post #15 as a 'usefull tips'

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Bro, you really did mess up. The thing you did wrong was that you didn't call her enough. You should call her another 20 times in the next 30 minutes. But do it now that you are sober. She will see that you weren't just spitting game at her because you were drunk, and that you really do like her.

Tell her how you've always wanted to date a semi-celebrity, specially since you are very competitive and it would look good in the eyes of your friends. One thing women like is when a guy pursues them, full force. Your mistake was that you came out sprinting, then you let up. I can see how that girl was so dissapointed. Go get her tiger.

 

[MightyMate]

Mwahaha!

You guys are not reading my updates to situation.
Its already fixed and all is good.

If somebody has similar action someday he has here step by step.

I remember years ago there was less people with complexes talking here [Alexander the GrAYt] and more people who really wanted to learn something, get help or help others.

 

[Alexander the Great]

Right, I know the adage says: "Don't feed the trolls", so I will make this to the point.

1. We are reading the updates to your situation. We CAN read and comprehend, contrary to what you demonstrate in this thread, time and time again.

2. You only want to hear what's up your street. In other words: You can't handle the truth, nor any opnion that doesn't blow bubbles up your self-centered ass.

3. Speaking of ass, you need to get your head out of yours. (I sure hope it smells like roses in there!) Why? Because... (see 4)

4. If you bothered to see outside of this thread for a moment, you'll find that people here come to learn and help eachother. The reason you find little cooperation in your thread is because... (see 5)

5. You come here, show off, DEMAND help, demand it FAST, and are oblivious to any words that do not confirm how great you are, or that tell you to move on. No, you want to hear it your way. You want to hear only what you desire to hear.

6. You accuse people who tell you an alternate vision of your reality of spamming, and whine about not getting "help" quickly enough. Even after they apologize for what they deemed a mistake earlier. Language barrier or no, don't expect people to accept everything.

7. As already stated, when you concurrently don't hear what you want to hear, you start accusing people of having complexes, of being stubborn and unhelpful.

Son, step outside YOUR thread and your HEAD for a moment and view the wider forum. You'll see that people in this thread participate in other threads, giving help, advice, discussing things maturely and whatnot. That's not something that can be said of you, Mr. Give Me What I Want Now!

8. There's a reason why there's so little response in YOUR thread. The people that actually did, did you a favour out of pity. Why don't you give that some thought, eh?


You know, you may be surprised, since you think we don't come here to learn, but I've actually re-learned something today, thanks to YOU.


Anyway, how nice that things worked out for you. I hope this girl you're talking about finds out quickly what a total loser you are.


/endrant

/leavethread


PS.
Go ahead. Give me some MORE negative rep for stating the truth. Lamer.

:moon: