Need DJ advice on getting over girl

[irocknike23]

im sure this is nothing new here and posted here before but i dont know who to turn to so why not some DJ's


i been like in love with a girl for the past 4 months...but never maned up to her and asked her out. i finally got tired of this same old process because as time went on i felt drifting into friend zone(happened to me before) so i said to myself hell no not this time. the problem is when i said that to myself is when spring football started(i play football) and me and her go to different schools and dont have the same social circle so its hard to see each other. and i play college football and if you know anything about that in college football you have no life, when your not in class your lifting with the team or conditioning with the team or at practice...

so my big plan was to kinda take a day to hang out with her maybe go to disneyland(she goes nuts for this place and i like it too) during the first 3 weeks of june because thats when they give us a break before we go into camp or hell as we call it and kinda man up and ask her out.


well 2 days ago my chick friend called me and we talked(she is one of those chicks that like your bro and stuff) and she talks to her a lot their childhood friends.

we talked and talked and then she says "oh yeah so i heard something interesting today" so i said "what was it" and she said so and so(the girl) finally lost her virginity....(yes she is a virgin and i know this for sure like i can put my life on it)..well after i heard that i got an automatic ringing in my ear and after that i couldnt hear at all what my friend said after that...then i got a sick feeling in my stomach and walked to the bathroom because i felt like i was going to vomit and i actually gagged(but no throw up)

and then i felt an extreme feeling of instant depression...like i never felt it this bad. i felt my heart drop like 20 beats in seconds..

i have no idea why i reacted that way but i could not control any of it...

and now as i type this i havent eaten anything in a day and a half and im still not hunry and i havent slept in a day and in a couple hours it will be 2 days...and i have no need to sleep. since i heard that all i been doing is lying down looking at the ceiling for hours..and hours.


and yes im madly in love with her. for months she is all i thought about every day at almost every part of the day no matter what i would be doing. she is all i would think of when my coach would be in my face cussing me out like a maniac for messing up in a play and i probably messed up because she was on my mind during the play..

and now i just feel like....total crap like life isnt worth living(no im not suicidal i dont need help) but thats just what it feels like. i like have no reason to do ANYTHING anymore.

they say when i a girl looses it to a guy she remember its forever and knowing her she probably been with the dude for a while and knowing her even better he is probably a very good guy just her type if she lost it to him(she is not one of those girls you can make out with and go from there, she dont play that)

and i know the most common advice in a situation like this is go out and meet new girls. but i cant all i think about is her, and no hope and life sucks. like its so bad that if you put Jessica Alba naked drunk and horny in front of me i probably wouldnt even able to get it up because i wouldnt want to do it or do any other girl..

 

[theanomaly]

The best advice anyone ever gave me on this subject is: "If one girl is giving you problems, go get a few more." It's easy for this girl to stand out in your mind cause she's got nothing to stand against. I highly recommend dating more than one woman, and start asap.

Check this out...

In Dating Women, One is the Worst Number

 

[mahoney]

As you go along in life these kind of things will happen, 'the dream girl', 'the dream job', 'the dream program' 'the dream role in a film', its understandable to get invested in things and yes it sucks when they don't happen. People's advice will be to man up, to see other girls, to forget this one, to do other things. Its all true and the same for all the other things i listed. You fall off the horse, you need to get back on. But don't beat yourself up about feeling this way. Life is about learning to deal with these things. This particular feeling will fade - objectively you know this. You should never invest too much in any one particular things but, it happens. Learning to deal with it will make you stronger

focusing on other girls isn't a bad idea. But a better idea is focusing on yourself. You're 19, aim to achieve amazing things in life, create something. Is there really any reason you couldn't do something with life that will put you at the center of everything?

 

[Delly2000]

Whats the lesson you have learned?

From this scenario there are alot of "what ifs". The only thing you could control is what you did. If you like a girl....let her know. Not explicitly but through your actions. Asking her out...Dates...and most importantly making a move. After you have done that...you have done your part so to speak. Then its up to her (which is what you can't control).

Girls and virginity is a weird thing. Their selection of who they give it up to and what not. But she had her reasons. Attracted to the guy...felt comfortable with him...or none of the above...LOL.

I can see why you upset...but its gonna pass eventually my friend and there will be better girls coming into your life.

Mope...have your cry..then get out there and live...because all these girls are waiting for you to say the right things...give them the right emotions and take them on emotional experirences. Learn what you can from each and send them happily on their way until u meet the ONE.

 

[irocknike23]

i get what you guys are saying(thx for advice)

but like i said it really sucks

all i keep thinking is who what where and why(where did she do it, why did she give it up to him and why..)


honestly if Karma exists i totally deserve this. i messed around with girls all the time i been talking with her and by messing i mean nailing but WOW does it suck when its on the other foot