Need closure from you guys.

[Gamisch]

Maybe she found a new guy might be it. Or maybe she just got smothered seeing me too much

I recently dated a woman that wanted to see me at least three times a week..obviously things ended brutally. I dont have time for that shyte. I rather read sosuave posts from the 2000's or even jerk off . Thing is my time=my time. I just know her yet she tries to claim me immediately. Doesn't work that way!

I am surprised you are so dumbfounded by this. Let me tell you this;
- a woman sometimes wants you to break it up. They'll see it as a man's duty. When you dont do this she will start giving you subtle hints( not responding or initiating ect)
- if you still don't get she'll spill some truths left and right( bodycount, no outside hangouts)
- eventually she has to do what she hates most actually: break up with a good guy. One that so nice she has to explain in detail why she does it(aka she must take responsibility)Now she will get pumped and dumped by some Chads and Ty's before she'll find a new you and the cirlce repeats itself

Oh and lets not forget its almost HOT GIRL SUMMER..what a coincidence..

 

[Modern Man Advice]

Maybe she found a new guy might be it. Or maybe she just got smothered seeing me too much

Correct. Although both can be connected. The truth might be that you became too available and you became old news.

My advice stands, review and realign. Think about what things you can improve on and do differently with your other/future plates.

 

[RicBoy]

I recently dated a woman that wanted to see me at least three times a week..obviously things ended brutally. I dont have time for that shyte. I rather read sosuave posts from the 2000's or even jerk off . Thing is my time=my time. I just know her yet she tries to claim me immediately. Doesn't work that way!

I am surprised you are so dumbfounded by this. Let me tell you this;
- a woman sometimes wants you to break it up. They'll see it as a man's duty. When you dont do this she will start giving you subtle hints( not responding or initiating ect)
- if you still don't get she'll spill some truths left and right( bodycount, no outside hangouts)
- eventually she has to do what she hates most actually: break up with a good guy. One that so nice she has to explain in detail why she does it(aka she must take responsibility)Now she will get pumped and dumped by some Chads and Ty's before she'll find a new you and the cirlce repeats itself

Oh and lets not forget its almost HOT GIRL SUMMER..what a coincidence..

I hear you man. This girl has slept with a lot of man her nick name was tinder queen she knows what’s out there. I really don’t get it that well where this came from. Sure I chased a bit and all and even last Tuesday we had indoor Olympics like crazy. I really think this is a pattern of her. She meets a guy and then she runs when they want something serious. Even when they don’t want she slow fades them. She has been doing this for a long time

 

[RicBoy]

Guys I know this is weak mind set but what can I do to get her back or to have a chance here to get back to fwb?

 

[RangerMIke]

Maybe she met someone but honestly I doubt it.

She told me a few weeks ago she told her mother she didn’t know what she wanted from us and then she said if she would ever come to the conclusion she didn’t want a relationship with me eventually this sex thing would have to end. So she was having doubts.

Also o made a bad mistake last Thursday, I felt her pulling back so I called her 2 times she didn’t pick up and then I left couple of msgs and she got really annoyed saying I’m sending msgs repeating myself etc. and she can sense im always gonna be like this if she doesn’t answer the phone. Then Sunday she broke up. I acted needy

This is an often repeated story. A couple of things that might help you understand what is happening.

(1) Don't trust what people say, only trust what they do. This is especially true with women.

(2) When a woman pulls back she is hoping you get the message and let her go. Don't believe all the PUA and relationship BS that's floating in cyberspace... that this is all some kind of 'test'... it might be, but it really isn't a 'test' per se that you can pass or fail. Sometimes when a woman pulls back, and you let her go... she MIGHT have second thoughts about you. And after you are gone COULD revisit her decision. This is 30 plus years of dating experience with women talking... this is RARE. Very rare, that when a woman pulls away that you will be able to get back to where you were like nothing happened. Of sure, they can come back, but this is only temporary... and the 'new' relationship is going to be very different. I don't believe that women really understand this... and when they try to start a dead engine that it's not going to run the way it used to before it broke down.

I have had women that come back after a break... it's great for a little while, but these things never last more that a few months... if you are a man looking for a relationship this can be maddening causing the average man will lose emotional self-control. Best of luck to you... very sorry you are going through this but understand MANY, if not all men, go through this at some point in our lives. Once you get to the point where you realize that dating women is just like going on a carnival ride... when the ride ends, get off and let the next guy have his turn, and go find another ride, you'll be a lot better off.

 

[member162951]

I really think this is a pattern of her. She meets a guy and then she runs when they want something serious. Even when they don’t want she slow fades them. She has been doing this for a long time

Of course it's her pattern, she made that perfectly clear right from the beginning. Women like her who are unable to bond and averse to commitment have an end date before it even begins, typically 3 months. No matter what you do or don't do, they won't go past that point. They can't.

What happened here is you were thinking with your little head (your d*ck) instead of your big head (your brain). If you were thinking with your brain, you would NOT have allowed yourself to bond or gotten attached and enjoyed her as a plate for as long as it lasted.

When people show you who they are, believe them! --Maya Angelou

 

[RicBoy]

I’m very depressed I haven’t felt like this in a while. I had to take afternoon off work because my head wasn’t functioning. I just feel like texting her asking if we can meet tomorrow to talk. We were suppose to meet tomorrow before she ended it

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Sounds like you were falling in love with a brawd who was giving you some steady puzzy.

I'm not gonna give much advice, since you guys don't listen anyway.

Only thing to say is; learn from it and don't let it happen again.

 

[lgbs2004]

Anything I can do here ?

Stop being a needy AFC and start meeting new women

 

[kavi]

Wow she must have been really hot

 

[Gamisch]

I’m very depressed I haven’t felt like this in a while. I had to take afternoon off work because my head wasn’t functioning. I just feel like texting her asking if we can meet tomorrow to talk. We were suppose to meet tomorrow before she ended it

Nope. Last time , as i said before it was the last time you (should've) seen her. That was your closure. You sir, want WAY more than is appropriate. You are weeks passed your limit. I bet you got to feck her at least 10 times after the expiration date.

My geuss is that she just made you aware of your depression rather than she's the actual cause of this. What language do I need to speak so you understand that you'll have to work on YOU? Po polsku? Deutsch? Espanol? Chy. Dich. Tu. YOU!!

Watch this movie clip:

Fast forward to the 3 minute mark. Who is walking away and whose crying? Exactly! But in this case you are the woman and she is Patrick st James...that last sentence alone should light a spark under your asz.

Also look at how he does feel sad, but she CANNOT see him lose frame. Ever. You calling her after all this shyte..man..you might as well chop your balls off and give it to her in a pink wrapper with hearted stickers.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

What happened here is she is damaged and unable to bond. It has NOTHING to do with you or anything you did or didn't do. Sure you probably could have kept things going longer if you didn't push so hard, but be clear, this girl was NEVER going to develop "feels" for you or want a 'relationship' with you.

Why are you taking this so personally? Look at her HISTORY! 35 and never had a relationship besides fwb, that is important information you should have paid attention to. Nothing to do with you.

Stop trying to save women and thinking yuu have some special power to turn a damaged woman unable to bond into a loving caring nurturing woman who will love you forever. That's delusional thinking.

Next time a girl says something like that to you, make the decision to keep her as a plate only, do NOT get invested and don't even think about having a relationship with her let alone a serious one.

Lastly, you are 41, figure out why it is you continue to fall for damaged women like this and unable to move on after it ends.

This indicates you are also damaged in some way.

What would be more beneficial to OP is he try and figure out why women like that continue to target him. What is it they see from a mile away that makes them realize he is the perfect "man" for them...

That's what he needs to do some soul searching to figure out, because women target dudes like him for a reason, and it is never says anything good about the man.

 

[lgbs2004]

What is it they see from a mile away that makes them realize he is the perfect "man" for them...

They see a man that can be used as a tampon for some time, until a better prospect shows up! And when he starts to demonstrate his neediness, they cut him loose!

 

[RicBoy]

Depression is a chemcial imbalance in your brain where you have every reason to be happy and you're still sad. You aren't depressed, your life just sucks.


Stuff a f*cking tampon in it and grow the f*ck up. Stop being a puppy. She didn't want you, doesn't want you, and will rapidly grow to resent you if you keep being her beta orbiting b*tch boy.

Go lift.
Still sad?
Go lift more.
Still sad?
Repeat.

Go make your life not suck.

What about if I contact her in 5 to 6 weeks and say hi and ask to see her? That’s enough time to reset things

 

[lgbs2004]

What about if I contact her in 5 to 6 weeks and say hi and ask to see her? That’s enough time to reset things

Are you serious???? Forget about this woman!!!!! You're not listening to any advice given, EVERYONE who responds to this thread are telling you to forget her and start looking for another girl(s).

 

[Gamisch]

What about if I contact her in 5 to 6 weeks and say hi and ask to see her? That’s enough time to reset things

If You can manage to stfu about and to her,I'll get back to you in 5 weeks. Pinky promise.

My only condition is that you stfu to and about her now. 5 weeks . Deal bro! So ask me around the middle of July and Ima tell you the secret to getting her (back).

By the way: she might've been right with her judgement about you. Imagine how you'd act after a year, ltr living together ect. Perhaps you'd go ham and actually hurt her yourself or the both of you.

If you would know her close friends and family you would bother them.

This display of ment.weakness must've seeped through whenever you were with her. How ? Too many kisses, texts, calls, questions ect. This is unhealthy bruh..

 

[RicBoy]

If You can manage to stfu about and to her,I'll get back to you in 5 weeks. Pinky promise.

My only condition is that you stfu to and about her now. 5 weeks . Deal bro! So ask me around the middle of July and Ima tell you the secret to getting her (back).

Been talking to my dad and he is adamant to not text her more unless she reaches out. He said it is sad to put your face down and dignity for a woman who clearly ended things with you. But of course I would like to fack her again

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Are you serious???? Forget about this woman!!!!! You're not listening to any advice given, EVERYONE who responds to this thread are telling you to forget her and start looking for another girl(s).

Yeah, frustrating, isn't it?

This is a clear case of confirmation bias, where the person only wants (or will only take heed) to advice from those who confirms what he already believes (or wants to do).

That is why OP ain't trying to hear anything about letting this biitch go, and continues to project himself into situations where he will eventually contact her, despite advice to the contrary.

This happens quite often around here, and is disgusting, to say the least.

 

[Gamisch]

Been talking to my dad and he is adamant to not text her more unless she reaches out. He said it is sad to put your face down and dignity for a woman who clearly ended things with you. But of course I would like to fack her again

I am glad you at least listen to your old man. We are all just AI bots talking out of our azzhole, so dont bother following any advice.

Or is your dad an active member as well?

 

[RicBoy]

I am glad you at least listen to your old man. We are all just AI bots talking out of our azzhole, so dont bother following any advice.

Or is your dad an active member as well?

im reading everything guys. im just depressed today man, its been 24h this all went down. you think in 5 weeks if I reach out I could get her? maybe she even reaches out before lets see.