need advise, on the verge of breakdown

[georgie24]

good news: after this you will be MUCH STRONGER/SMARTER PERSON

Bad news: 99.9% chance your going relapse... a few times in cycles before you end your pain

do a search on rollos posts from a few years back, hell maybe from 5 + years ago

start there

 

[bigneil]

The OP fails the post-length test. No woman is worth a post that long!

 

[proxyreaper]

Thx guy, this forum open my eyes a little, helps alot but im still been mindfcked. She is mixed indian, so she told me her parents is planning for arranged marriage and we have to breakup in the future etc etc i dont even noe if its real.

I still love her like crazy but her disrespect for me ( telling me to fk myself , calling me stupid ), went to a club despite my disapproval, telling her frens **** abt me ( i spied on her fone ). im tinking of instead of breaking up wid her "normally", shld i jus break up all contact and go MIA. since if i tried to reason, i will prolly get suck into her bull**** again.

 

[headFirst]

Being prior enlisted in the military myself, isn't it funny how in bootcamp they "break" you down, and build you back up.. Well I can say bootcamp was a mental B*tch, but mannn.. I think getting your screwed over by your onitis is 10x worse. If I go back to bootcamp again (trying for officer), I will just think to how destroyed I was for three months after the girl I fell for didn't want to talk anymore, and bootcamp will most likely be a walk in the park compared to that.

 

[Dante1a]

Take a deep breath, mate.

Realize this. You are fine. What you perceive as love is actually a psychological loop that you have gotten yourself into.

There are no cosmic forces dooming you to this situation. This is something you can choose to do or not do.

Try these things:

1) Sit quietly and imagine a life without this problem. Without this drama. Without her. What would you do with your time? How much cooler would life be? Write down what you come up with.

2) Think about and write down the ways in which this relationship has taken you away from what you want and who you truly are. Is this sacrifice worth it? (Hint: It NEVER is in situations like this.)

3) Think about and write down 10 ways that you can provide value to the world (a business, charity work, whatever). The catch is that it has to have nothing to do with her.

Keep this piece of paper with you so you understand what you are sacrificing when you are worrying about this girl.

Your job is remember who you are as a man and work to make the world better. While this might seem a little extreme, HER job (at least in this lifetime) seems to be to DISTRACT you from your purpose.

This doesn't mean she's evil, it's just the way it is.

So...who's going to win? The girl who is trying to distract you from your purpose or you, The Man, who has something of great value to offer the world?

- Don't you dare think of not contributing to the world or running away. Men who know about this "sacred contract" everywhere know what you are capable of. Live up to it.

- Don't you dare let her distract you. She isn't strong enough to keep you from your "destiny". Let her fall away from your life and into the distance like a small hill you had to climb on the path.

It's that easy. (Being a man isn't, though.)

Good luck mate. We've all been there in some way. The question is, how will you come back?

 

[proxyreaper]

thx everyone for the advice. really appreciate it. 2 nights ago we had a fight becos i was up at 4am and onlineon wadsapp. i told her i was discussing issues abt my car she gt pissed n ignored me since then. at the moment its almost 36 hrs ofnon contact. shld i kip NC n not ctc her atall? im like a drug addict now, subconciously im.still hoping tat she will runbck into my arms despite knowing she is baddd... wtf --

 

[Kbomb]

thx everyone for the advice. really appreciate it. 2 nights ago we had a fight becos i was up at 4am and onlineon wadsapp. i told her i was discussing issues abt my car she gt pissed n ignored me since then. at the moment its almost 36 hrs ofnon contact. shld i kip NC n not ctc her atall? im like a drug addict now, subconciously im.still hoping tat she will runbck into my arms despite knowing she is baddd... wtf --

Stop pretending that your really trying to break up with her. As soon as she wants you back your going to go back.

This is not meant in a mean spirited way, but you are a pu$$y. Realize that, and then deal with it. The truth needs to be looked at before change can be made so you know where your starting point is.

 

[headFirst]

thx everyone for the advice. really appreciate it. 2 nights ago we had a fight becos i was up at 4am and onlineon wadsapp. i told her i was discussing issues abt my car she gt pissed n ignored me since then. at the moment its almost 36 hrs ofnon contact. shld i kip NC n not ctc her atall? im like a drug addict now, subconciously im.still hoping tat she will runbck into my arms despite knowing she is baddd... wtf --

If you like getting hurt every other day by her then continue to play her game.. If not Walk away now.. and you will feel like sh!t for a month.. but you will be doing a hell of a lot better than you are now.. This will also leave room for someone else that is more on your maturity level.

 

[foreverAFC]

holy siht look at what some people are willing to do just to get some sex

epic ****ing fail

 

[proxyreaper]

holy siht look at what some people are willing to do just to get some sex

epic ****ing fail

not much sex involved thou. more like love...

anyway guys, picked a fight wid her ytd, started NC, blocked her on wadsapp.

she tried to ctc my fren, told my fren nt to entertain her