need advice

[Zerotwoonenine]

hey bros,long time no see.i'll keep it short, sorry about my english
My gf and i been together 11 month now
We just been back from china for 3 weeks
now she is in greece with 2 sluts, i am worried.
Thing is thats not what i want to ask advice for
Since she decided go greece with her sis and best friend, we argued about it lots,that time i really worried about it.
When i really cared about it i was really attracted to her, interest lvl up in 89-90s, but since then i got colder, the arguements and the way she treat me(as if i dont matter sometimes, like shes got a facebook and my pic is not on there, gave her pics but she never even consider put them in her wallet) you know if a girls crazy about you,well i feel that shes not. The arguements and the worry plus in first 3 month she was a cold ***** is killing my attraction for her, because i dont feel that i matter to her, when i used to look at her i feel all warm and happy, but now its just like watever, whats the point since she wont even call me, i feel like that shes cheated on me in the first 3 month, and that we will end up apart.
i dont no wat 2 do.
I want to give it another chance since my interest is still in the 70s, wat should i tell her.
I just want to tell her that i feel like we r falling apart and c what she does about it.
Plus i have a gut feeling that shes cheated on me in greece, not as far as sex but kissing possible since our relationship is not going well.
Another thing, sex been sliding down, i am very good and she loves it, but still shes dening me with reasons and when we do, theres less heat
Please bros help

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

by the way

i got depression so nothing makes me happy and i am angry all the time, so if i see her i get annoyed and start arguments, sometimes shes able to calm me and make me happy, but now i think shes giving up and she is being cold again.
How do i talk 2 her?

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

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[Michael Chief]

relationships naturally die out like this, dude

i recently got out of a 16 month relationship ... after we broke up 3 times

what youre going through sounds a lot like the later part of my relationship with my ex. i actually started drinking a lot more at that point and it all went downhill from there. i suggest you just break it off and find someone new. your interest level for her may be in the 70s now but if you go out to a social environment you may find a girl or two (or 3 or more) that you would be a LOT more interested in.

 

[roman]

Zero,

You really need to take care of your emotional issues first and foremost. You're insecure, depressed, and needy according to your post. I'm betting that counseling and possibly even medication would be useful to you. You, not your relationship, is the source of your problems. It's not the sh1t that happens to you that causes anxiety, it's how you choose to react to it.

You say you're starting arguments because you're depressed. Also, your insecurity, neediness, and lack of trust in your girlfriend are toxic to your relationship. You already know what the problem is, Holmes. You need to take care of yourself before you take care of your girl. Focus more on your own happiness. Ask yourself, is this girl making you jealous, insecure, and depressed, or is it YOU who is doing so.

Check your own interest level and force it down lower than hers, or at least fake it so it seems lower. Right now her interest level is plummeting from the sounds of it, and the more you push her and argue with her, the faster it's going to drop. Play Mr. Cool with her. You shouldn't give a damn what facebook pic she has on her profile. Instead you should be focused on raising her interest level by keeping things light and funny, being a challenge, having self-control and displaying confidence at all times.

Roman

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

thanks roman, i really needed some1 2 tell me that although i know it. As a psychology student, you got to understand ppl like me do not cause our own problems, the source is really childhood and life experiences, but its long to explain.
i have a counciller and a psychologist, i am 18 but i had a really fked up life.
so how could i deal with the problem even though i dont know when i am doing it??how could i think to make it right??

How do i get her interest levels up, before i got into long term with her her interest was in 80s, now she says its in 90s, but recently it is plummeting, how do i stop it if i cant stop my self??

not being with her is what attracted her to me, but being with her changed me into some1 that would kill interest, how do you deal with that??

 

[J.kelly]

if you relationship is going to fall apart.. i say you do the dumping it will be easier for you to get passed

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

...i'll think about it and see how it goes.
I am going to see if she cares about me first, or is she still attracticted to me and am i still important to her.
And finally has she done anything behind my back