Need Advice - Women who is friend (wasn't hot before but is now) coming over for dinner and wine

[Sebastian0001]

So, I need advice on how to have sex with this woman. She has always been just a friend because, quite honestly, she was never attractive. And so we were kind of in the friendzone with each other. Now, she suddenly got very hot and so I asked her out to dinner and, at the end of the night, we made out. I was hoping she would ask me to come up to her place but she didn't and the make-out was kind of awkward given our friend history (and she stopped the make out after 40 seconds by laughing and saying "okay"). I decided to ask her to come to my place next weekend for dinner and wine to gauge interest level and she said yes. I was surprised.

I want to have sex with her but I need to escalate carefully through the night. Any tips/advice/experience on what to say to and how to escalate so that I can get her there by the end of the night? Because we have been just friends for a while, I expect it to be a bit more challenging and I'm certain that she will show some resistance but hopefully, if my skills are on my point, she will give in by the end of the night.

 

[Zimbabwe]

If she's coming to your place for dinner it should be easy, just relax and enjoy the night. Let it happen naturally.

 

[Black Widow Void]

I'd suggest that you pull back (but don't say or act any differently than you ever have). The fact that after 40 seconds, she stopped with an "okay" ... indicates that she's in the driver seat.

She probably expects you to make another move. When you don't, this sill surprise her (even if she says nothing). you reclaim the drivers seat. She may or may not escalate. If she doesn't, then the next time you make a move, you do this when she thinks that you aren't as interested.

---- edit I now see that you have a planned date. Keep it cool, but apply some subtle touching of the shoulders, arms etc.... when communicating.

Keep in mind that if she's recently being doing a makeover, she may wonder if it's working or not. The last position you want to assume is being her gauge. If she liked you in the past, you also need to be prepared that her mindset might be... "well he only likes me now because of my looks." I'm not saying that either may be an issue, but it's a good idea to consider all aspects beforehand (so that you have good reactions and responses).

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Engage deliberately in casual and "accidental" touching when she first gets there, and pull back and wait for the wine to take effect. If you can, pepper the convo with sexual humor that is plausibly deniable (double entendres, puns, etc).

 

[Sebastian0001]

Engage deliberately in casual and "accidental" touching when she first gets there, and pull back and wait for the wine to take effect. If you can, pepper the convo with sexual humor that is plausibly deniable (double entendres, puns, etc).

great advice! I love that "sexual humor that is plausible deniable"! Do you have any good examples that have worked especially well for you?

 

[Striker_93]

There's no technique to fvck a girl, if she wants to have sex with you it will happen, just have and fun and let the chip fall where they may.

 

[2Rocky]

Initiate Kino (Thousands of articles on how to do that) immediately upon her getting there. You had a brief makeout. She knows you are interested so don't hide it. Don't go groping her, but definitely hug her on arrival. If you already are hugging friends, then a kiss on the cheek wouldn't be out of line.

 

[TheCharmingGuy]

There's no technique to fvck a girl,

Then why are you on this forum?

 

[Modern Man Advice]

So, I need advice on how to have sex with this woman. She has always been just a friend because, quite honestly, she was never attractive. And so we were kind of in the friendzone with each other. Now, she suddenly got very hot and so I asked her out to dinner and, at the end of the night, we made out. I was hoping she would ask me to come up to her place but she didn't and the make-out was kind of awkward given our friend history (and she stopped the make out after 40 seconds by laughing and saying "okay"). I decided to ask her to come to my place next weekend for dinner and wine to gauge interest level and she said yes. I was surprised.

I want to have sex with her but I need to escalate carefully through the night. Any tips/advice/experience on what to say to and how to escalate so that I can get her there by the end of the night? Because we have been just friends for a while, I expect it to be a bit more challenging and I'm certain that she will show some resistance but hopefully, if my skills are on my point, she will give in by the end of the night.

What I usually tell guys, which @Zimbabwe already mentioned, is to simply enjoy yourself. Worry about having a good time for YOUR sake. If you genuinely enjoy yourself, people will feel it and be attracted to that.

Don't overcomplicate the interaction with some sort of tactical manual. The only thing you should do is to, as @2Rocky mentioned, initiate kino in the beginning (do not wait until the end, that is a mistake most guys make). Don't be shy to be physical, be casual and minimal with it in the beginning and escalate as you read her body language and vibe. *Don't be a creep*

You guys already made out so honestly flow with that momentum.

But whatever you do, let us know how it goes. I'm curious so don't be shy with details.


Modern Man Advice

 

[Sebastian0001]

Initiate Kino (Thousands of articles on how to do that) immediately upon her getting there. You had a brief makeout. She knows you are interested so don't hide it. Don't go groping her, but definitely hug her on arrival. If you already are hugging friends, then a kiss on the cheek wouldn't be out of line.

i've done some kino already and she doesn't honestly respond that well. I touched her on the elbow while talking to her, touched her on the lower back guiding her into the restaurant, asked to see her ring and held her hand pretending to care what the ring looked like, brushed her hair out of her face, but none of it made her respond either way, positive or negative.

What other kino can I do?

 

[metalwater]

you're getting the ultimate test. what do you choose to do when no feedback. it's so easy to navigate if the girl is giving feedback.

coming to your place for dinner and wine is a pretty high-interest level.

no, technical topics. just stuff that will make her feel good, dance music in the background while you're interacting. you probably already have a good play list. This is a song I would have in the list and others like it.

if you can get her into a dance feeling, that's good and then massage...