Need advice with girl I started dating

[WrEcKLeSS2000]

Hey guys,

I just started dating this girl that I met on okcupid. Overall, she's average in looks but has a pretty good personality. Anyway, we met up for a drink and it lasted over an hour. She was kind of nervous at the beginning but as we started talking, she became more comfortable.

I tried to get some kino in and did but I wanted it to be a little more casual just because she told me that she is new to online dating and such. Anyway, we talked for a while, I made her laugh, we have quite a bit in common.

My plan is to take her out for an action date during the week. It's funny because at the end when we were getting ready to leave, she even told me that she's inexperienced with dating. I gave her a kiss on the cheek.

Overall, I had a good time and I think she did too. She maintained great eye contact and she seemed interested in what I had to say.

I'm still a virgin and quite inexperienced myself so I don't want to give off any needy vibe. However, I am somewhat anxious to have my first girlfriend. That companionship is really important to me.

Anyway, my question is, how do I continue to create attraction, and stay out of the friend zone? Also, how do you keep things interesting with conversation and such?

For those that have girlfriends, how often do you get together? A few times a week or every day?

 

[GotED?]

RULE #1: Don't believe everything a woman/girl tells you

RULE #2: Define what you want with a woman/girl right now in your life (just fook buddy? one night stand? relationship?) then act accordingly. If you just want to fook her, then you ramp up the kino. If you value her more, then you must respect her boundaries and not spook her off. If you just want experience, then let her drag you along and feed you BS (like, I am inexperienced with dating... LOL!! playing the innocent anti-slut princess...)

RULE #3: Set your boundaries of Self-Respect - what kind of behavior are you willing to accept from a woman, and what are unacceptable craziness or how she treats you.

RULE #4: Never be afraid to walk away from a woman - AKA NEXTING. This is to reinforce RULE #3 when the boundaries are crossed. This is the only way to retain your power as a non AFC man and not feed the princess in another castle.

Good luck.

Exodus

 

[WrEcKLeSS2000]

Thanks for your advice.


A friend recommended that I send her a text to let her know that I had a good time and that I would like to hang out again. It's been almost 2 hours and no reply to that even though I didn't ask her a question.

That probably is not a good sign. I was thinking about calling tomorrow after work and IF she answers, I'll attempt to set up a date. This is why women are very frustrating. All the games and BS that they pull especially after it looked like we both had a good time.

Do you think it's worth following up with a call or is it time to next since she hasn't replied to my text? She's average and chunky at best, it's no loss either way but I'm trying to get some experience.

 

[GotED?]

You need to post your age as this sounds like 18-25 bull**** girl games she's playing, or has no interest.

Go NC and find other girls to date, until then don't bother with her. It's a waste of your time to chase girls who just wants attention at the cost of your emotional investing (as it sounds like already).

Exodus

 

[WrEcKLeSS2000]

I am 27 and she is 23. I guess she does fall into that immature category. However, I genuinely think that she is inexperienced in this case. I know girls lie and play games.


I'm inexperienced myself never having a relationship and being a virgin. However, is there a certain way to escalate with girls that are inexperienced in general?

She isn't the most flirtatious but that could have been nerves or what not. Anyway, she did end up replying saying she had fun and she would like to hang out again. I'm going to attempt to set something up as actions speak louder than words.

I guess it would be best to get in more kino every so often and if I'm into her going for the kiss. It's one thing if someone is inexperienced but being a prude is something else. I wouldn't waste my time with that.

 

[pdx1138]

don't be concerned if she doesn't reply to a text within 2 hours...that's needy behavior. I used to do that too. A lot of us did before we knew any better.

try to avoid that.

 

[lifeislearning]

You inexperienced daters are so cute! Let me simplify this for you, as I do for all my buddies in the same situation...

You went on ONE date! Relax! Leave the girlfriend thoughts for later. Follow these steps exactly:

1. RELAX. Statistics say you probably won't marry her, so every time you get crazy thoughts (I'm falling in love, you must be mine!) make an effort to ignore them. Go slow. You virgins are the horniest bastards I know. Sex is like drug addiction. Once you hit a certain point, smaller doses just don't do it anymore. If she likes you things will escalate and you don't have to force it.

2. Have fun. Forget all the silly advice and stop asking for it. Focus on YOU having fun and she will too.

3. Pay attention. Be honest about her pros and cons. You can learn a lot more with her than you can on this site or any other.

4. Repeat steps 1 and 2.

 

[GotED?]

^^^ WTF!! ^^^ Venus invasion alert!!!

 

[BeDJ]

I mean ask this with the most sincere regard, WrEcKLeSS2000,

How, rather why, are you still a virgin if you have been on SoSuave since 2002? I understand the inexperience, but there may be factors not only affecting this one prospect, but your future dating successes. Being around here for almost a dozen years, if you don't "get it" something is amiss, greatly. Are you not getting opportunities? How is your self image / confidence? How would you describe your lifestyle?