Need advice: What the **** is wrong with me ?!

Brighty

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I mean Im a decently popular kid, but whenever I go to parties, I always chicken out of ****ing dancing with girls. I dont know why, maybe it has something to do with me having bad acne as a little kid. I mean Im 16 for christ sake, I shouldnt have a problem with grinding with a girl. But I do, I'm always afraid that she'll say no or be digusted or something. I mean, maybe in like 6th grade I wasnt exactly good looking, but thats definately changed, Im a lot more attractive. If only my confidence changed too... God damn, this can anyone relate to me or has related to me in the past about this?


What the **** is it going to take to get my ***** ass in gear and have the balls to go dance with a girl at a party? Jesus, Im fed up with myself.

I need advice or tips on how to improve my confidence or something. I know possibly taking a few shots before a party might give me that confidence boost, but anything else when Im sober? Thanks guys.
 

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Just push yourself. That's all there is to it man. It's like diving into a pool. You look at it, ponder how cold the water might be but then realize that you're not just gonna stand there and look at it forever and dive in. Two seconds later, you're damn glad you did. That's all there is to it.
 

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Brighty said:
I...I need advice or tips on how to improve my confidence or something. I know possibly taking a few shots before a party might give me that confidence boost, but anything else when Im sober? Thanks guys.

Pretend that you do things that cool people would do. No offense. Seriously, don't worry what other people think and go out and have a good time. Dance like a goof ball and get the girls to jump up and down and dance with you. Everyone likes to have a good time, but too many are worried about what others think.
 

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I'm always afraid that she'll say no or be digusted or something.

Girls can smell this sort of fear a mile away and it turns them off quickly. Confidence on the other hand has a different effect. Girls can 'sense' a confident man who cares nothing about what others think (it works on a primal level) and it turns them on instantly.

You need to work on your confidence. Get online and search for some self-help ebooks. There is no quick fix for low self-esteem, it will take time, but it's well worth it in the end.
 

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Here is the best advice I can give you bro.

Dont care. Yes thats right. DOnt care.

If a girl is disgusted? WHO CARES. YOU dont! why? Because shes just a dumb biatch, YOU are the champ.

How many girls do you know, actually have brains? Or are even close to a males logical thinking? You probably know 0. Thats because they are very RARE... and they are typically NOT attractive.

You are already better than any HB10.. Why? Because you are a male. And MEN run the world.

Just get some balls and ask. go for multiple a party, Everything is easier after you get shot down once.
 

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Brighty,

Maybe parties just aren't your thing dude.. I'm not really a party guy myself by nature. I have friends who party every weekend, and I have friends who don't set foot in a club and never will. Club scene just isn't my scene, so naturally I seek out girls who aren't into the clubbing and stuff.

At 16 you are still young man. In the next 5-8 years you are going to change so much its crazy. I'd definitely say that 16-20 were the most stressful years of my life. You are still trying to find yourself and stand on your own.

Just be patient brother, and meet girls at places other than parties.. Girls wont dislike you just because your not into dancing and partying..

Drive on

Airborne!
 

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dude, ur bein a total baby about it. dont give a F*ck about wat girls think, jus do it. girls smell fear like dogs, bro, so dont show fear, show confidence. if u show confidence even if u think ur ugly, girls will love it and be alot less likely to reject u.
 
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