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Don Juan
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Hi guys, came across this DJ forum, looks like a promising place to improve my game. I've been in long term relationships for 10 years, and have this year become single... so I wanna use this time to practice my DJ'ing skills.
I'm an average looking guy with an above average body. I get along with women quite well, even though by nature I am actually shyer especially at approaching women. I'm probably labelled a "nice guy", but have recently become more direct and "louder" which I've found has attracted more positive attention e.g. more women are flirting and being affectionate with me.
But i've come across a bit of a hitch to the situation... I've been hanging out a lot more with a good friend of mine who's single. She is very cute/attractive and has had many guys pursue her, but she was never interested in them. I've always kinda had a thing for her, but I've tried my best not to be attracted to her or like her, but I can't help myself and thinking about her and I'm really into her now. There is a definite attraction between us when we spend time together. It gets pretty strong when we are partying/clubbing in a group and we often spend the whole night having fun and hanging out.. and are pretty affectionate with one another. She probably knows I like her as I dropped a fair few hints. She seems to respond positively more often than not.. but she's very very subtle.
There's one problem though, she's still into her ex from years and years ago and it's probably the reason why she's still single... but the ex may be relocating far away soon... The ex is not interested in her and has since dated other women, but they are close friends. To make things more complicated, the ex is also friend of mine. When the ex is not around, she will usually come up to me and hang with me. If he is, she'll hang with us both, but probably gives more attention to the ex.
My take is to keep playing it cool... keep meeting other women, but keep giving this friend special attention when I get the chance... and wait and see if the ex moves? Since she's been single for so long, it's unlikely I will be in for any surprises.. I know there's other girls out there, and this is very un-DJ like of me saying, but I havent been attracted to any other girls as much as I have my friend. I have a feeling she could be the girl that makes me think "what if" when i'm with someone else! If the ex does not move, I'm probably off better staying away from this, aren't I and not losing potentially 2 friends?
What are your thoughts guys? Am I taking the right approach?
Sorry for the long post, but thanks in advance for your patience with this newbie
I'm an average looking guy with an above average body. I get along with women quite well, even though by nature I am actually shyer especially at approaching women. I'm probably labelled a "nice guy", but have recently become more direct and "louder" which I've found has attracted more positive attention e.g. more women are flirting and being affectionate with me.
But i've come across a bit of a hitch to the situation... I've been hanging out a lot more with a good friend of mine who's single. She is very cute/attractive and has had many guys pursue her, but she was never interested in them. I've always kinda had a thing for her, but I've tried my best not to be attracted to her or like her, but I can't help myself and thinking about her and I'm really into her now. There is a definite attraction between us when we spend time together. It gets pretty strong when we are partying/clubbing in a group and we often spend the whole night having fun and hanging out.. and are pretty affectionate with one another. She probably knows I like her as I dropped a fair few hints. She seems to respond positively more often than not.. but she's very very subtle.
There's one problem though, she's still into her ex from years and years ago and it's probably the reason why she's still single... but the ex may be relocating far away soon... The ex is not interested in her and has since dated other women, but they are close friends. To make things more complicated, the ex is also friend of mine. When the ex is not around, she will usually come up to me and hang with me. If he is, she'll hang with us both, but probably gives more attention to the ex.
My take is to keep playing it cool... keep meeting other women, but keep giving this friend special attention when I get the chance... and wait and see if the ex moves? Since she's been single for so long, it's unlikely I will be in for any surprises.. I know there's other girls out there, and this is very un-DJ like of me saying, but I havent been attracted to any other girls as much as I have my friend. I have a feeling she could be the girl that makes me think "what if" when i'm with someone else! If the ex does not move, I'm probably off better staying away from this, aren't I and not losing potentially 2 friends?
What are your thoughts guys? Am I taking the right approach?
Sorry for the long post, but thanks in advance for your patience with this newbie