Need Advice on taking Advice

[CollegeLife]

Since coming here, I been reading the stuff around here. Some are more of the uplifting stuff like pook and others more of the pragmatic stuff. I been a person who think by the numbers, by what would be the least danger with the greatest reward. So lately I been looking into Tom Leykis's stuff which seems to give the less risks but the greatest rewards.

However, I run into conflict with following his ideas. Lying to women. Seeing women as only something to **** (so I would no longer be friends with any of them, btw I don't mean best friends, but there are those who I enjoy their company even though I'm not getting their clothes off). Well, just being a complete *******, but that goes against how I want to treat people. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a spineless pvssy. I approach things with a "tic-for-tat" to people: treat me well, I do so in return; act as a good friend, I would act the same back; be a b!tch to me, I be an ******* back. However, he makes a good argument, hard for me to ignore or dismiss unless I can think of a good reason to reason back.

Right now I'm going in the opposite direction. I'm 19, but currently I'm going for an LTR with a kind asian girl (at least currently she is not a "dream-killer" type of girl he defined). However, I'm too many years too young and I'm not at all looking to get settled yet, but I like her company and as long she is making any difficulties for my life, I don't think I should get rid of her at the current time. However, by what he said, I have a hard time ignoring advice unless I have a reason to. Anyone want to make a case for or against for me?

 

[Fleshy99]

I'm right there with you man. I can't view women as just something to fvk. If you really feel that way, then thats great - I think you have good things in your future, but I would stick to it if I were you. There any many ways get to what you want without lying or cheating a person... you just have to know where you stand and approach the situation with your head.

Just like snowflakes all of our situations are unique so no piece of advice is 100% valid word for word because everyone goes through their own and its difficult for someone to be in your shoes, even if you really could do that. Its basically impossible.
Every piece of advice gives you the chance to absorb the info and do with it what you please. I use to take advice like I was 8 years old listening to every world my parents would say, but I got out of it quick, not all advice is going to fit your situation.
I would absorb all the advice you can on a situation when you need it, but you need the understanding that everyone's mind is already polluted with their own experiences and life, so ALL advice is bias in some way, and no one can know what is good for you except yourself. So take advice as it comes, but always stand your ground with what you think is good. If you use %5 percent of someones advice, and %10 percent of someone elses, and then 85% of your own then you might have yourself a mother****er.
You're 19 and when I was 19 - about 2 years ago I was going through the same sort of thing. Take it as it comes, but put your own ingredients in the mix - or dont take it, but at least take it into consideration even if it is absurd.

 

[WC2]

Tom Leykis gives good advice for guys who want to live a manly man's life and get as much ass as possible.

If both of these are not of your priority, there's really no reason to follow him to a point. Hell, I follow some of his advice, but living your life like someone else tells you to is never a smart thing to do.

I too am of the belief that we are too young for relationships. With that said, I don't think its necessarily a bad experience. Every young adult should really experience the ups an downs of at least one LTR so that they aren't so worked up about it down the road. The best way to learn is the hard way. Convincing young adults that they should never have a girlfriend I think is bad advice.

As far as lying to women, I don't agree in the least. There's a difference in stretching the truth and lying straight out to someone. I consider myself an honorable person with no rhyme or reason to lie about myself or others. Believe it or not, lying is a scum bag trait and should only be used when extremely necessary.

So live your life as you wish it. A lot of people will give advice on here (including myself) adhering to the LTR dos and don'ts, but its really up to you to find out the hard way. And then we can say "We told ya so."

It's just like playing any sport. We can sit up here and coach you, but the only way to learn is by playing the game.

 

[CollegeLife]

Thank you, for the advice. Things are going well in many ways right now, the worse things that bothers me is my grades and my height. Basically, things are going very well for me. It just that I feel like if I don't play by what he says, I'm wasting something or being a young fool. Maybe going by this way can work too for me. Anyone one else got any thoughts.