vitaminenergy
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I’ve been reading posts here but never actually posted anything. Until now. I just need to get this off of my chest and see what you guys think about my situation.
Ok, so here it goes. I just broke up with my GF of 6 months. We dated before for couple of months after which she wanted to LJBF me. I didn’t fall for it, basically told her I don’t want to be friends. So she went away and I haven’t heard from her for couple of months. Then she started initiating contact with me and we got back together.
I just wanted to hang out since she is fun to be around but eventually got suckered in and we became BF and GF again.
Here is the issue. Almost all of her friends are guys and almost all of them want to get with her. She is also friends with all of her EXs. She talks to them regularly and even meets up with them (not often but she does). This was always a sore spot for me since those guys would point blank hit on her constantly and she would even go out and have drinks with them every now and then. They would also call her at night, or in the morning to wish her good day. To me she just seemed like a huge flirt, a type of girl that needs guys attention whole the time. And after all that, I was ok with it. I could handle it. I realized they were in the “Friends Zone” and as long as she respected our relationship in the way she conducted herself towards those guys I would be fine.
The reason why I broke it off with her is this. When we did split up previously she met a guy couple of weeks after that and hooked up with him for a while. It was purely sexual supposedly. She told me this when we started hanging out again and promised that she is not in any contact with that guy whatsoever. She also said that she didn’t like him anyways and that sex sucked. So, anyways here we are 2 weeks ago, she checked her MySpace on my computer and forgot to logoff before she left. All I had to do is go through her messages (it was too tempting and I had to do it) and see that she and that guy were messaging each other back and forth. The guy clearly trying to hook up with her again and she just playing along, messaging him back. They even talked about things they used to do and indicated sexuality. What made me burst is that in the last message the guy asked her for her number (he didn’t have it anymore) and she happily gave it to him. She never told me anything about this guy trying to contact her.
Now, I just feel that this is a huge disrespect to our relationship. First of all, she did not tell me that this guy wanted to talk to her (she told me when another ex tried contacting her and everything was fine) and second of all she told me that she didn’t like the guy and did not want to have any contact with him previously. This was all very fishy to me and I called her that night and broke up with her. I told her that I know that she was talking to this guy behind my back. She tried to lie about it but did not know that I have read all the messages on her myspace.
So, here I am now, standing strong, conducting no contact. Dropped off her stuff at her place that was at my place this morning and left the key to her place.
I am feeling empty, feeling like I overreacted. Feeling like I am making a mistake. We got along great and everything was going well.
I am just not sure I can trust her anymore as she is constantly playing with the fire and will get burned one day (lots of guy friends and all of them want her, plus she is constantly meeting new “cool” guys that connect with her “emotionally”)
Hope this all makes sense. I am little bit off right now. Just wrote it all up as it was coming to me
What do you guys think? Give me an advice… I need someone to talk to.
Ok, so here it goes. I just broke up with my GF of 6 months. We dated before for couple of months after which she wanted to LJBF me. I didn’t fall for it, basically told her I don’t want to be friends. So she went away and I haven’t heard from her for couple of months. Then she started initiating contact with me and we got back together.
I just wanted to hang out since she is fun to be around but eventually got suckered in and we became BF and GF again.
Here is the issue. Almost all of her friends are guys and almost all of them want to get with her. She is also friends with all of her EXs. She talks to them regularly and even meets up with them (not often but she does). This was always a sore spot for me since those guys would point blank hit on her constantly and she would even go out and have drinks with them every now and then. They would also call her at night, or in the morning to wish her good day. To me she just seemed like a huge flirt, a type of girl that needs guys attention whole the time. And after all that, I was ok with it. I could handle it. I realized they were in the “Friends Zone” and as long as she respected our relationship in the way she conducted herself towards those guys I would be fine.
The reason why I broke it off with her is this. When we did split up previously she met a guy couple of weeks after that and hooked up with him for a while. It was purely sexual supposedly. She told me this when we started hanging out again and promised that she is not in any contact with that guy whatsoever. She also said that she didn’t like him anyways and that sex sucked. So, anyways here we are 2 weeks ago, she checked her MySpace on my computer and forgot to logoff before she left. All I had to do is go through her messages (it was too tempting and I had to do it) and see that she and that guy were messaging each other back and forth. The guy clearly trying to hook up with her again and she just playing along, messaging him back. They even talked about things they used to do and indicated sexuality. What made me burst is that in the last message the guy asked her for her number (he didn’t have it anymore) and she happily gave it to him. She never told me anything about this guy trying to contact her.
Now, I just feel that this is a huge disrespect to our relationship. First of all, she did not tell me that this guy wanted to talk to her (she told me when another ex tried contacting her and everything was fine) and second of all she told me that she didn’t like the guy and did not want to have any contact with him previously. This was all very fishy to me and I called her that night and broke up with her. I told her that I know that she was talking to this guy behind my back. She tried to lie about it but did not know that I have read all the messages on her myspace.
So, here I am now, standing strong, conducting no contact. Dropped off her stuff at her place that was at my place this morning and left the key to her place.
I am feeling empty, feeling like I overreacted. Feeling like I am making a mistake. We got along great and everything was going well.
I am just not sure I can trust her anymore as she is constantly playing with the fire and will get burned one day (lots of guy friends and all of them want her, plus she is constantly meeting new “cool” guys that connect with her “emotionally”)
Hope this all makes sense. I am little bit off right now. Just wrote it all up as it was coming to me
What do you guys think? Give me an advice… I need someone to talk to.
