Need advice/ do i tell her im not using her for sex ? Has she decided to walk ?

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he fvcked him twice and svcked him the last meetup. They metup 7 times. When she svcked him off,
lul.. I see what you trying to say, though.. When I had my shtty gf and we were already like getting apart, she wanted me to buy tickets for her, I told her to get out and buy her own tickets, she ended up leaving eventually. Yea, she svcked me off more than I fcked her. So svcking is not a sign of love. It's not a sign of anything.
 

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I do believe it’s different for women .
3 years ago i had a woman blow me out of the blue at the men’s toilet in a club and i wanted to push her to bang her in her place or at least mine , didn’t fcked her in the end and she left like nothing happened. After few days i met her and she apologized and said something like that shouldn’t have happened. Friend of mine had also a very similar situation , a woman sucked him and she just left like nothing happened.

I think it’s ok for modern standards for a woman to sck you than the opposite.
Something about women and their pvssy being sacred and reserved for the highest guy, unlike their mouths which can land on several ****s and not make them feel guilty. I had a couple of those experiences too. LOL
 

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Something about women and their pvssy being sacred and reserved for the highest guy, unlike their mouths which can land on several ****s and not make them feel guilty. I had a couple of those experiences too. LOL
Yeah but I'm sure they not laying their mouth on any old c0ck just because.
 

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Yeah i dunno some are weird . And we did fu#k but that certain night she only sucked me and wouldent let me fck for whatever reason . I probably could of if i kept trying but i dont wanna look weird and needy if she stops me ill stop and leave it at that. I know what anti sl#t defense is , so i do enough to get past that but if i feel she still wont then ill get the hint and ill stop trying so im not very pushy
You’ll look weird if you just comply as soon as she tells you no and think that you a puss . If they in the moment , sometimes they will give the cold shoulder but that’s part of the game . I’ve had enough situations where the woman was playing hard to fck , then as soon as stop trying to fck her , things to turn around and having her pulling me to fck her.
Something about women and their pvssy being sacred and reserved for the highest guy, unlike their mouths which can land on several ****s and not make them feel guilty. I had a couple of those experiences too. LOL
I don’t know their mentality, for me i would eat a woman only after I’ve banged her a couple of times and that’s not 100% .
Having a woman eat my D and don’t allow me to penetrate her puss it’s ridiculous but each on their own .
 

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Yep. The bit$h denied it tho. But its so unlikey that he randomly calls her after a year or so and she just decdies she wants him back its more like she was seeing him the whole time and he finally decided he wanted her back thats why she went as cold as a cu$t suddenly. And i have my suspicions she done some sus things in the past like cancel a day we agreed to meet last second and give a weird excuse and thts exacly when he hit her up to meet so she dropped me and seen him .
This stuff happens all the time. Nothing you can do in this situation. If she truly loved him then there is always a chance they get back together.
 

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I dont belive she got bored , she told me she still loves her ex , they were together for 3 years so that's why she went back to him after he reached out. She loved him had strong feelings for him and a past connection with him that was obviously stronger then mine and hers as ive only known her for 3 months .
Here you go. You figured it out. His connection with her was stronger than yours. He is at the top of her high score list.

He is mr right.
You were mr right now. She used you to get his attention.

Learn from this and next. If you try anything with her again you will only get used again. Just be thankful you didnt spend months and months worth of your time and money getting to know her. You got off lucky.

Some users will string a guy along and get them to waste a lot of their resources, and still go back to their ex. Sometimes even after years.

Next.
 

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Something about women and their pvssy being sacred and reserved for the highest guy, unlike their mouths which can land on several ****s and not make them feel guilty. I had a couple of those experiences too. LOL
True. Most women see blowing a guy as less personal than kissing.
 

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I think your right man . But ill be honest with you i was hoping for a ltr with her . Now if she does acctuly come back then shes nothing more then a fu#k and i would happily lead her on now just because of that. I definitely hope it doesnt work out.

She told me that i never showed her any indications that i wanted somthing serious, which is true i didnt but she didnt either , i was waiting on her too . If she truley wanted to she would of aye ?
Hhhmmmm......

The guy that dumped her decides after at least 3 months (how long you've talked to her) that he wants her back and she jumped at his request.

You wanted a LTR with her (and I'm sure she sensed that) and she went cold on you.

Funny how that works isnt it?

This is why it's your job to sleep with her and not be on a quest to be her bf.

The ex maintained his value (actually raised it) when he dumped her and you lost value over the 11 weeks. If you understand how to increase value with a woman, it makes perfect sense.

In her mind she can have you anytime she wants. Because your low value in her eyes.

But the ex.....she knows that he walked away before and he can walk away again if she doesnt strike while the iron is hot with him. It's all about value.

You need to learn how to increase your value with a woman.

1. Your job is to sleep with her and have fun dates. You never hint at LTR. That's her job. And if you're doing her job she doesnt need you.

2. You should spin plates and have multiple options. Competition is good in the dating world. When you have other options and an abundance mindset it adds value in the woman's eyes.

3. If this chick ever hits you up after it fails with the ex, you should tell her to go kick rocks by never answering any of her calls and texts.

The world is full of beautiful women. Go find 3 more that aren't time wasters.
 

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Hhhmmmm......

The guy that dumped her decides after at least 3 months (how long you've talked to her) that he wants her back and she jumped at his request.

You wanted a LTR with her (and I'm sure she sensed that) and she went cold on you.

Funny how that works isnt it?

This is why it's your job to sleep with her and not be on a quest to be her bf.

The ex maintained his value (actually raised it) when he dumped her and you lost value over the 11 weeks. If you understand how to increase value with a woman, it makes perfect sense.

In her mind she can have you anytime she wants. Because your low value in her eyes.

But the ex.....she knows that he walked away before and he can walk away again if she doesnt strike while the iron is hot with him. It's all about value.

You need to learn how to increase your value with a woman.

1. Your job is to sleep with her and have fun dates. You never hint at LTR. That's her job. And if you're doing her job she doesnt need you.

2. You should spin plates and have multiple options. Competition is good in the dating world. When you have other options and an abundance mindset it adds value in the woman's eyes.

3. If this chick ever hits you up after it fails with the ex, you should tell her to go kick rocks by never answering any of her calls and texts.

The world is full of beautiful women. Go find 3 more that aren't time wasters.
Theres a few things.
1) she dumped him , because he wasent making her happy even tho she loved him

2) i actually dont know even if he knew that me and here were seeing eachother i dunno , i mean her friends could of told him i really dont know , for what she told me he randomly called her out of the blue and they had a convo

3) i never hinted that i wanted a ltr , i didnt say 1 thing . I mean i dunno if she sensed it im not sure but ive done nothing or said anything beta the whole time i was seeing her. She even told me her self that i never gave her any indications that i wabted to date her or that this was going to lead to somthing serious, that was one of her last texts to me after she told me about her ex calling her.

So bassicly from what i understood after talking to Her for abit . She broke up with her ex 2 years ago because he wasent putting in enough effort even tho she still loved him . So 2 years no contact. She still loves him tho, he calls her randomly and i can only assume he told her he wants her back that he will treat her right and still loves her etc etc and she decided to give it another chance since she still loves him ..

So i mean that could be it , she definitely could of been a big sl#t and continued to see me untill they were back together 100 percent, but she told me.

I didnt lose it , i just asked a few questions because i was curious and we ended the convo and tht was that , so the bridge is still open i didnt burn the bridge . So it is very possible that she can hit me up if it fails with her ex , but yeh
 

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Dude for real go find some other women . No you didn’t burned the bridge , she did , why would you wait for her . You lack options as it seems from your writing but i understand .

As soon as you’ll find new women she will be history . No need to analyze further .
 

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Dude for real go find some other women . No you didn’t burned the bridge , she did , why would you wait for her . You lack options as it seems from your writing but i understand .

As soon as you’ll find new women she will be history . No need to analyze further .
He's hanging around waiting on her, because he desperately wants her to validate that he was good enough for her.
 
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