Need advice/ do i tell her im not using her for sex ? Has she decided to walk ?

[Rake101]

Hey guys .
I've been dating this girl about 11 weeks now
We are both 25
Anways I've seen her 7 times, we had sex twice
She gave it up on the 5th meeting I tried on the 3rd and 4th meeting .
So 5th meeting we had sex / 6th meeting we kinda fu#ked she told me so stop because she wasent feeling well and gave me a he#d ( no sure if she stopped me because she didn't want it been about sex ). 7th meeting I tried to fu#k her she stopped me and seemed a bit irraitated.
Now every time I've had her over which has been 5 times now ive tried to f#ck her . So from the 3rd meeting to the 7th I tried and she wouldn't give it up till the 5th , 6th got a head and 7th she stopped me .

Now after the 7th meeting I msged her 3 days later and she didnt respond for 4days and I actually double txted . She replied gave me a bullsh#t so sorry been busy asked me a question I replied and now its been 7 days again and she hasent responded yet . Now shes never acted like this before she has always responded at least by 24hrs and I have a theory on why and I want your opinions on this .

Now the fact that she only gave it up on the 5th meeting not the 3rd or 4th because I had her in my bed then too , tells me that shes probably after a ltr otherwise she would of f#cked obviously.
Okay so you guys understand from the 3rd meeting till the 7th I've had her in my bed everytime and I tried every single time and i already wrote above how many times i f#cked her etc . So now I'm thinking because of that because I keep trying to fu#k her every time she's in bed with me and esspessily after the 7th time we met and she stopped me and seemed irritated she might be thinking that i just want to use her for sex and that i just want sex so that's why shez been distant now and honestly I don't know if shes going to respond . Anyways I've been thinking I should tell her that I'm not using her for sex etc so she knows if thats what this is about ( yes I should of told her on the night but I didnt) and i want to tell her now but i want her to reply first so i don't double txt again and look needy.

What do u guys think is this why shes acting like thiz because she thinks I'm just using her for sex and she's decided to drop me now because of that ?
Because I have a gut feeling that's what it is .

Btw I'm not using her for sex Im actually really into her.

So what do I do ? Should i wait for her to reply or reach out and if she doesn't should I msg her and try to get her to meet or call her and tell her look i have a feeling that i gave of the impression I'm using you for sex I just wanted to tell u that I'm not etc ..

Or should I just countine gaming her ? I would have no issue continuing gaming her , I never want to double txt if a girl doesn't respond but I feel this situation might need it because she might genuinely think I'm using her for sex and that I'm no good for her so shes not **** testing me or manipulating me shes just walking away because she feels I'm no good for her . I mean yes instead of her making assumptions I wish she would talk to me about it if thats what the issue is but she might of just made that assumption of my actions I.e me tryna fu#k her whenevr shes in bed with me.
For your refence the first 2 meetings I didnt try anything with her other then hook up

Or should I just chill and if she doesn't reach out I'll msg her in a week or so and speak to her then ? Or is it important to contact her and to tell her that I'm not using her if that's what this is about. Because I wouldn't want to lose her if that's what this is about because I'm definitely not using her .
What do you guys think?
Thanks

 

[NSX-R]

Don’t ever text her again and move on . Really you make yourself a big favor. But Since you ain’t got the balls to do it , text her after 2 or 3 weeks . You’ll find out she’s not into you .

 

[Rake101]

Don’t ever text her again and move on . Really you make yourself a big favor. But Since you ain’t got the balls to do it , text her after 2 or 3 weeks . You’ll find out she’s not into you .

Yeah but my question was is she been like this because she thinks I'm using her for sex ? And assumes I'm no good for her ?

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Hey guys .
I've been dating this girl about 11 weeks now
We are both 25
Anways I've seen her 7 times, we had sex twice
She gave it up on the 5th meeting I tried on the 3rd and 4th meeting .
So 5th meeting we had sex / 6th meeting we kinda fu#ked she told me so stop because she wasent feeling well and gave me a he#d ( no sure if she stopped me because she didn't want it been about sex ). 7th meeting I tried to fu#k her she stopped me and seemed a bit irraitated.
Now every time I've had her over which has been 5 times now ive tried to f#ck her . So from the 3rd meeting to the 7th I tried and she wouldn't give it up till the 5th , 6th got a head and 7th she stopped me .

Now after the 7th meeting I msged her 3 days later and she didnt respond for 4days and I actually double txted . She replied gave me a bullsh#t so sorry been busy asked me a question I replied and now its been 7 days again and she hasent responded yet . Now shes never acted like this before she has always responded at least by 24hrs and I have a theory on why and I want your opinions on this .

Now the fact that she only gave it up on the 5th meeting not the 3rd or 4th because I had her in my bed then too , tells me that shes probably after a ltr otherwise she would of f#cked obviously.
Okay so you guys understand from the 3rd meeting till the 7th I've had her in my bed everytime and I tried every single time and i already wrote above how many times i f#cked her etc . So now I'm thinking because of that because I keep trying to fu#k her every time she's in bed with me and esspessily after the 7th time we met and she stopped me and seemed irritated she might be thinking that i just want to use her for sex and that i just want sex so that's why shez been distant now and honestly I don't know if shes going to respond . Anyways I've been thinking I should tell her that I'm not using her for sex etc so she knows if thats what this is about ( yes I should of told her on the night but I didnt) and i want to tell her now but i want her to reply first so i don't double txt again and look needy.

What do u guys think is this why shes acting like thiz because she thinks I'm just using her for sex and she's decided to drop me now because of that ?
Because I have a gut feeling that's what it is .

Btw I'm not using her for sex Im actually really into her.

So what do I do ? Should i wait for her to reply or reach out and if she doesn't should I msg her and try to get her to meet or call her and tell her look i have a feeling that i gave of the impression I'm using you for sex I just wanted to tell u that I'm not etc ..

Or should I just countine gaming her ? I would have no issue continuing gaming her , I never want to double txt if a girl doesn't respond but I feel this situation might need it because she might genuinely think I'm using her for sex and that I'm no good for her so shes not **** testing me or manipulating me shes just walking away because she feels I'm no good for her . I mean yes instead of her making assumptions I wish she would talk to me about it if thats what the issue is but she might of just made that assumption of my actions I.e me tryna fu#k her whenevr shes in bed with me.
For your refence the first 2 meetings I didnt try anything with her other then hook up

Or should I just chill and if she doesn't reach out I'll msg her in a week or so and speak to her then ? Or is it important to contact her and to tell her that I'm not using her if that's what this is about. Because I wouldn't want to lose her if that's what this is about because I'm definitely not using her .
What do you guys think?
Thanks

So you claim you're not using her for sex but sex is the only thing you're talking about in your post, the only thing you seem to care about, and you're asking us if you should continue gaming her.

Do you understand how that makes zero sense?

Why don't you try this, if you're really into her(which I doubt otherwise you wouldn't be posting such fukkboi crap), invite her over and have a good time with her without making moves on her.

Get her laughing, play games, watch a movie, whatever, get creative. Tease her and let her get worked up then call it a night. Understand? Forget about getting in her guts but tease her with it. Make her feel like you're on the fence about fuucking her and that she has to convince you. Polarize her. If she's a cold fish about it and you're not having fun then send her home and quit wasting your time.

 

[Rake101]

So you claim you're not using her for sex but sex is the only thing you're talking about in your post, the only thing you seem to care about, and you're asking us if you should continue gaming her.

Do you understand how that makes zero sense?

Why don't you try this, if you're really into her(which I doubt otherwise you wouldn't be posting such fukkboi crap), invite her over and have a good time with her without making moves on her.

Get her laughing, play games, watch a movie, whatever, get creative. Tease her and let her get worked up then call it a night. Understand? Forget about getting in her guts but tease her with it. Make her feel like you're on the fence about fuucking her and that she has to convince you. Polarize her. If she's a cold fish about it and you're not having fun then send her home and quit wasting your time.

I'm not using her for sex , the reason I'm talking about sex in my question is Because I think that's why she' seems to be walking away now because I kept trying to f#ck her . Honestly because we already had sex I didnt think it would be a big deal to have sex every other time i seen here which wasent weekly somtimes i seen her bi weekly or every 3 weeks.
And yeah I get it . Well do you think i should contact her and try getting her to meet up or call her to have a conversation and tell her how she must of got the wrong impression etc. Or should I just chill for abit and hopefully wait for her to reach out ? Or am i better of contacting her.
And yeah i do care about her so whatever i do is with the hopes I fix things up with her

 

[Scars]

I'm not trying to troll OP.. but maybe your d!ck game just sucks. I've never had a girl stop me during sex because she "didn't feel good", the only time anything remotely close like that has happened is while fvcking a girl with a boyfriend/husband.. which I don't think is the case for you.

Most girls don't really give a sh!t about being "used for sex", if she felt that way, she would bring up the "so what are we?" speech, or say something about it. I think she tried to give you a second chance by agreeing to meet you again, but you didn't deliver.. so most likely there is probably another guy she is more interested in.

I don't think it's because you're "using her for sex".. you saw her 5 times before you even made a move.. lol. She's just lost interest bro. Next!

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

I'm not using her for sex , the reason I'm talking about sex in my question is Because I think that's why she' seems to be walking away now because I kept trying to f#ck her . Honestly because we already had sex I didnt think it would be a big deal to have sex every other time i seen here which wasent weekly somtimes i seen her bi weekly or every 3 weeks.
And yeah I get it . Well do you think i should contact her and try getting her to meet up or call her to have a conversation and tell her how she must of got the wrong impression etc. Or should I just chill for abit and hopefully wait for her to reach out ? Or am i better of contacting her.
And yeah i do care about her so whatever i do is with the hopes I fix things up with her

I know nothing else about the situation other than you desperately trying to fuuck her every time you see her. Either you're not stimulating enough for her or you're incompatible. If you're not just using her for sex then please tell us what you've done with this girl that you feel so strongly about. Chill out and let her come to you, get your shiit together.

Most girls don't really give a sh!t about being "used for sex", if she felt that way, she would bring up the "so what are we?" speech, or say something about it.

Naw if you diick em down well many don't ask and get heart broken real easy and just dip.

 

[Rake101]

I'm not trying to troll OP.. but maybe your d!ck game just sucks. I've never had a girl stop me during sex because she "didn't feel good", the only time anything remotely close like that has happened is while fvcking a girl with a boyfriend/husband.. which I don't think is the case for you.

Most girls don't really give a sh!t about being "used for sex", if she felt that way, she would bring up the "so what are we?" speech, or say something about it. I think she tried to give you a second chance by agreeing to meet you again, but you didn't deliver.. so most likely there is probably another guy she is more interested in.

I don't think it's because you're "using her for sex".. you saw her 5 times before you even made a move.. lol. She's just lost interest bro. Next!

Okay wrong . And I didnt word my post correctly and cant seem to edit it. She didn't stop me half way through f#cking her i made about 4 strokes when she told me to stop. My di#k game doesn't suck trust me I know . Lol
And again no I had her in my bed the 3rd and 4th time and tried f#cking her then too but she wouldn't let me , the 5th time I had her in bed and I fu#ked her . 6th time is when she stopped me about after 4 strokes and gave me head and 7th time is when she wouldn't let me .
And yeah you say that but maybe she did care about been used otherwise she would of let me fu$k her the 3rd time when i tried or the 4tH time . The fact I had her in my bed the 3rd and 4th time and she wouldn't let me but she still met up again and and again and again tells me that she was probably after a ltr and somthing more serious . Otherwise why would she only give it up on the 5th meeting . If she was a sl#t that wanted sex she would of gave it up otherwise why would she be in my bed without giving it up maybe she wanted to spend time with me duh and is after a ltr. If she wasent after anything but sex she would of let me fu#k her on the 3rd time and if she wasent intrested then she wouldn't of met up 4 other times obviously.
As for another guy been in the picture yeah thats possible.
The fact that i asked this question the fact that i said she wouldnt let me f#ck her 3rd , 4th time but she kept meeting up and gave it to me 5thh time 6thh time she said her stomach hurts it could of been a excuse for her not wanting sex because she DIDNT want this been a fwb thing . Also the 7th time we met she came over at 1am lol and didn't want to **** if she wanted me to **** her she wouLd obviously of let me otherwise why the hell did she come . So that tells me she came to spend time with me . And by me trying to get in her pants again she probably just came to the assumption that I'm just after sex with her and that's why she possibly deciding to walk away now
Use your head seriously

 

[backseatjuan]

Why would you tell her or text her that you are not using her for sex if she hasn't asked you this?

 

[Rake101]

I know nothing else about the situation other than you desperately trying to fuuck her every time you see her. Either you're not stimulating enough for her or you're incompatible. If you're not just using her for sex then please tell us what you've done with this girl that you feel so strongly about. Chill out and let her come to you, get your shiit together.



Naw if you diick em down well many don't ask and get heart broken real easy and just dip.

Well because of the virus the last 5 times we hang out at mine , i dont live alone so we were mostly in my room and most of the time watched movies , yeah I know its not the best for building report. And I guess theres nothing amazing about her other then shes attractive and I like her thats it. And I never desperately tried to fu#k her we hung out chilled and towards the end I would try that was about it , the thing that didnt work towards my benifet I feel is i couldn't really build much more report that way by watching movies.

Yeah anyways that's what I'm thinking, should I not even bother contacting her so i can tell her that she got the wrong impression and that I'm not using her etc?

 

[Rake101]

Why would you tell her or text her that you are not using her for sex if she hasn't asked you this?

Good point , but because I feel like that's the assumption shes come up with and shes after something serious and because she thinks I'm not she decided to just leave . Because I keep pushing for sex that's what would of made her come up with that assumption. I should of said something on the 7th night after she stopped my advances from sex but I didnt and regret it now.
It would be easy if she just mentioned it and i can tell her , but not all girls do that some do and others just come up with the assumption that your only after sex without even talking to you about it and they just decide to leave

 

[Medina]

She either gives you s3x or you walk

You are only lowering your value by going the nice guy route

 

[backseatjuan]

Relax guy, she definitely does not want anything serious with you.

Move on with this one.

 

[Rake101]

Relax guy, she definitely does not want anything serious with you.

Move on with this one.

She definitely did at one stage I feel because she wouldn't of made me wait for sEx and continue seeing me if she wasent looking for anything serious. As of right now yeah I'm not sure

 

[backseatjuan]

She did not want anything serious with you, and the only reason she kept going on dates is because she was bored, she fcked you because she felt sorry for you, she scked you off because she did not feel like fcking you. Get a grip on reality.

 

[Rake101]

She did not want anything serious with you, and the only reason she kept going on dates is because she was bored, she fcked you because she felt sorry for you, she scked you off because she did not feel like fcking you. Get a grip on reality.

Hahaha, i dont agree with the feeling sorry for me part , but as for everything else you could be correct who knows.
Obviously if i was to ask you you would say definitely dont contact her lol

 

[backseatjuan]

You need a few things -

a) Read the book of pook
b) Read the dj bible
c) Do boot camp

Once you get some diversity in your sex life, other than rosie and her four sisters every night, you would realize who to contact and who not to contact. This one you keep on chasing and seeking advice on how to chase her because you have nothing else, other than rosie and her four sisters, going on in your life. You need a hole in your life so that you can fck it and cvm on regular basis. Go ahead and tell her that you are serious and want serious things, if that will make you get over the fact that she does not want you sexually.

 

[Rake101]

You need a few things -

a) Read the book of pook
b) Read the dj bible
c) Do boot camp

Once you get some diversity in your sex life, other than rosie and her four sisters every night, you would realize who to contact and who not to contact. This one you keep on chasing and seeking advice on how to chase her because you have nothing else, other than rosie and her four sisters, going on in your life. You need a hole in your life so that you can fck it and cvm on regular basis. Go ahead and tell her that you are serious and want serious things, if that will make you get over the fact that she does not want you sexually.

Yep I downloaded book of pook I'll read it, what's do boot camp ?
And I never wanted to tell her I have feelings for her i know not to do that , i was only thinking about contacting her to tell her if she was put off because she thought i was just after sex etc that I'm not etc etc and I was going to leave it at that . Im not sure that she doesn't want me sexually I think it's more shes after something serious. The reason I say that is because she would come over and cuddle and kiss etc . If I wasent after something sexual with a girl and I didn't want a LTR with her i DEFINITELY wouldn't be driving to her house after work jumping im her bed and cuddling and kissing lol.

 

[Rake101]

Next

Wait why next ?

 

[Scars]

Okay wrong . And I didnt word my post correctly and cant seem to edit it. She didn't stop me half way through f#cking her i made about 4 strokes when she told me to stop. My di#k game doesn't suck trust me I know . Lol
And again no I had her in my bed the 3rd and 4th time and tried f#cking her then too but she wouldn't let me , the 5th time I had her in bed and I fu#ked her . 6th time is when she stopped me about after 4 strokes and gave me head and 7th time is when she wouldn't let me .
And yeah you say that but maybe she did care about been used otherwise she would of let me fu$k her the 3rd time when i tried or the 4tH time . The fact I had her in my bed the 3rd and 4th time and she wouldn't let me but she still met up again and and again and again tells me that she was probably after a ltr and somthing more serious . Otherwise why would she only give it up on the 5th meeting . If she was a sl#t that wanted sex she would of gave it up otherwise why would she be in my bed without giving it up maybe she wanted to spend time with me duh and is after a ltr. If she wasent after anything but sex she would of let me fu#k her on the 3rd time and if she wasent intrested then she wouldn't of met up 4 other times obviously.
As for another guy been in the picture yeah thats possible.
The fact that i asked this question the fact that i said she wouldnt let me f#ck her 3rd , 4th time but she kept meeting up and gave it to me 5thh time 6thh time she said her stomach hurts it could of been a excuse for her not wanting sex because she DIDNT want this been a fwb thing . Also the 7th time we met she came over at 1am lol and didn't want to **** if she wanted me to **** her she wouLd obviously of let me otherwise why the hell did she come . So that tells me she came to spend time with me . And by me trying to get in her pants again she probably just came to the assumption that I'm just after sex with her and that's why she possibly deciding to walk away now
Use your head seriously

Use my head? You're the one operating off of emotions right now, like a woman.

"#3rd time we did this, 5th time we did that, 2nd time my stomach hurt, the 1st time though.." blah blah.. All I see is you trying to rationalize her flakey behavior right now. Stop being a beta chump.