need advice, cant get a girl i slept with off my mind

[slitherysnakes37]

this may be a little long but please help me out. basically, im a freshman in college living in a sort of dorm/appartment complex that houses a lot of college students. until the second semester i had no luck with any ladies, but a few weeks ago one of the girls we normally hang with started showing interest in me. i found her very attractive even though i have pretty high standards, and started flirting/talking to her more at the weekend get togethers in the dorms and even took her out on a little date. that same weekend we had a moment at a party where i kissed her and it could not have been more perfect. she also thought so because that night she ended up sleeping in my bed and we had sex. the next day (sunday) she came over to hang out, and i ended up going to her room and sleeping in her bed that night, with even better sex. the whole weekend she would talk about how she wanted all this to mean something, she felt we had a connection and was very into me, so naturally i reciprocated because she made me feel amazing. both of us vocalized how just spending time and talking to each other felt so natural. after leaving her room the next morning (monday), she texted me a couple hours later and we had a nice conversation, she came over that night for a bit (no sex, just cuddling and making out) but still very passioniate. the next 2 days i texted her first, but she seemed to be growing less interested. this could have just been in my head but usually when my gut feels something its correct. we had planned on hanging out Wednesday night, and she texted me to come over around 9, but had to include the dreaded "im down to just chill tonight tho". i was okay with this tho because i thought we were developing a real relationship and i liked spending time with her. i walked up to her room, watched tv with her for about an hour and a half before she kicked me out because she said she had homework (which was true). either way, i felt she was perhaps getting annoyed so the next day (thursday) i waited to text her to see if she would start the conversation like she had before. nothing all day. finally around 7 pm i sent her a simple text wishing her a happy weekend (no class fridays) and asked whatsup. i got no response for 2 hours, and only did she reply when she texted me apologizing for not responding about 5 minutes before walking into my friends suite where we were chilling. she said hi, gave me a hug, and then conversed with her friends in the bathroom. they were gone within 10 minutes and claimed they were coming back, but never did. after an hour of her disappearance i texted her again asking what her and her girlfriends were doing that night, because she had indicated when we were hanging out Wednesday that she wanted to hang with me
over the weekend. but i got no answer, and since then, neither of us have made any effort to contact each other. i learned through her social media the next day that she took a trip to a ski resort with a lot of her other friends (guys and girls), but the fact i learned this through her snapchat story of another guy added to my suspicion she was done with me. to me, it seems obvious something happened that altered her interest, and i can live with that, but i just dont understand how someone could feel so strongly about a person one week and act as if they dont exist the next. ive only ever had sex with one girl before this one, and it was in a serious relationship, so i guess i just might be more sensative to this stuff. i would have had no problem with just hitting and quitting if thats all she wanted (which is essentially what happened), but as soon as she opened up her feelings to me i felt the same way and wanted to keep it going. apparently guys can get played too. the main problem i face now is the fact that we live in the same building. i am obviously hurt by her and it seems like it will be impossible to get over due to the fact we share the same friends, school, cafeteria, etc. i saw her for the first time since she ditched me (thursday night) today and my heart nearly stopped. i played it cool, just smiled, said whatsup and kept walking, but just seeing her sparked more confused, sad, angry feelings i thought i was getting over. im not sure if i should try to talk to her, avoid her, or act like nothing happened at all. i know this is a lot to read and likely too much for any stranger to help me with but i just need to hear some advice on what the hell i should do!!!

 

[Tictac]

You had sex once and tried to jump from that to an LTR. This is simple over-pursuit as is almost everything else you've done.

 

[RangerMIke]

I found her very attractive even though i have pretty high standards, and started flirting/talking to her more at the weekend get togethers in the dorms and even took her out on a little date.

Remember women always know how you feel. AT this point she knew she had you, pursuing you would be like going to one of those pathetic pheasant shoots where they let the poor creatures out of a cage in front of them so you can kill them.

.... i kissed her and it could not have been more perfect. she also thought so because that night she ended up sleeping in my bed and we had sex. the next day (sunday) she came over to hang out, and i ended up going to her room and sleeping in her bed that night, with even better sex.

Two days in a row..... big mistake bro, what you should have told her was that you had plans. A man with options does not have a free day to just hang with a chick he just hooked up with. You should have waited a week and called her to make a date... even if you hook up with a chick on your first date you have to take it slow.

the whole weekend she would talk about how she wanted all this to mean something, she felt we had a connection and was very into me, so naturally i reciprocated because she made me feel amazing. both of us vocalized how just spending time and talking to each other felt so natural.

Okay you are a young guy and it's clear that no one has told you the nature of women and what pushes their buttons. This weekend long conversation is something that she SHOULD have had with one of her girlfriends, not you. The MAN sleeps with her, gets his rocks off, and moves on.... the women, wonders what it all means... she talks to her friends, the dissect EVERYTHNG... thrust me, they share EVERYTHING. You never ave her a chance to try and figure this sh!t out with her friends. Women LOVE having these talks with their friends, and you fvcking ruined that for her. In her mind she might logically appreciate the fact you had this convo with her, but emotionally you ruined all her fun.

she texted me a couple hours later and we had a nice conversation, .....she seemed to be growing less interested. .... "im down to just chill tonight tho"..... i thought we were developing a real relationship ... she kicked me out because she said she had homework... i felt she was perhaps getting annoyed so the next day...i got no response for 2 hours...

You are not a challenge, you are making this too easy for her.

i learned through her social media the next day that she took a trip to a ski resort with a lot of her other friends (guys and girls), but the fact i learned this through her snapchat story of another guy added to my suspicion she was done with me.

You were a one night stand hook up, this girl is young and she is on the c0ck carousel, you had your turn. You might have been able to stay on the ride longer, but your behavior indicated to her that you were going to be a clueless creepy stalker so she pushed you away.

but i just dont understand how someone could feel so strongly about a person one week and act as if they dont exist the next.

You don;t understand because you are not a woman and you do not understand women. This is normal female behavior. Women are guided by their emotions, they go where ever this feelings take them. When you hooked up, she was into you... now, mostly because of weak behavior, you are not longer interesting.

i would have had no problem with just hitting and quitting if thats all she wanted (which is essentially what happened), but as soon as she opened up her feelings to me i felt the same way and wanted to keep it going.

You let this happen, do not blame her. If she starts 'serious' talk, as the man you have to make fun of this and not let her get all mushy with you. She has to believe that all you care about is fvcking her.... believe it or not, this makes her feel more comfortable.

the main problem i face now is the fact that we live in the same building. i am obviously hurt by her and it seems like it will be impossible to get over due to the fact we share the same friends, school, cafeteria, etc. i saw her for the first time since she ditched me (thursday night) today and my heart nearly stopped.

This is not a problem....But, you have to get control of your emotions, and then this will not be a problem for you. I will tell you what you should do....

Go date other women, plural.... Become an approach machine, hit up every girl you find attractive. You are in college, you will NEVER for the rest of your life be in a situation where you have that many young horny women to hit up on. You have to forget about this girl walk away from her... if she reaches out to you then go ahead and try to fvck her again... she has to believe that all you care about is sex. Turn her into a fvck buddy, but she is not going to be your girlfriend.... she's not looking for anything serious, and neither should you.

Man, your college days should be the most fun time in your life, don't be so serious about sh!t.

 

[Bingo-Player]

, but i just dont understand how someone could feel so strongly about a person one week and act as if they dont exist the next. !!!

lol welcome to women 101 mate

they change there emotions faster than the weather , thats why its essential to never invest yourself in too deep

also you need to remember women are like magnets and men are the opposing force the harder you push yourself towards her the harder she will resist you

your done with this girl , chalk it up to expereince and move onto the next

 

[Yewki]

It's pretty obvious man... you smothered her with attention. She was initially interested but you acted like a needy chick and got attached way too fast. Texting every day. Excessively trying to meet up. Constantly staying in contact. I got annoyed just reading that sh*t.

 

[Reykhel]

Think a little bit about punctuation, that should take your mind off her for a while...

Seriously, I'm not joking. You need to keep busy. Your focusing way too much on some random girl's life and thoughts and whatever about her....what she said, what it mean ad nauseam....

Fvck her. She's a worthless boring cvnt who will never bring any lasting joy in to your life....only temporary sexual entertainment. But any women can give that to you, so what makes her so special.....nothing. Every encounter you have with a female is temporary. It will end. It will end by you rejecting her, her rejecting you or it will end when death inevitably sweeps it's dark hand and takes you or her from your waking slumber. Know this going in. Women are fickle emotional creatures. Know this going in. Don't hate them for it. Accept their nature and then deal with it accordingly....

Now my dear boy, let's get to the crux of the issue. It's time to turn the focus on you and your life. Get busy living your life. What are your goals? what are your passions? What gets you up in the morning? What's your purpose? You need to turn all that attention to you. Become obsessed with you. For you see you my dear child are next in line for the throne. This is your kingdom. Your life is your kingdom. Will you be a worthy King?

Put all of your energy into your life, your studies, your fitness, your finances, your personal development, your passions............and tell me where would you have the time to be obsessing about some worthless slag?

There's got to be a polarity between the sexes. Masculine energy and feminine energy. A fvcking push and a pull. A jolt of electricity. Ironically enough on the surface, the more you are focusing on your life with an almost narcissistic abandon, the greater she is pulled towards your energy.........but there's nothing ironic about it when you look below the surface and feel your own life energy brimming with fire....

...And stop "sleeping" with women. Start fvcking them instead. Subtle difference in mentality...

 

[slitherysnakes37]

you're learning a couple things that constitute the red pill:

1. Sex is not a big deal to most women, means nothing
2. Women lie
3. You shouldn't try to wife women up that fast esp this one that put out within 24-48hrs of meeting her lol

thanks guys, i actually had known her for a while which is why i thought it was real when she said she had feelings, i wouldnt just obsess over some girl i met at a party. either way, you are all right and the pu$$y clouded my head. i know i can get with other women, i just think i became attached since the only other girl ive f*cked i was in a serious relationship with. i cant focus so much energy on these girls

 

[wifehunter]

Hobbies, get some!

 

[amazingswayze]

You were a one night stand hook up, this girl is young and she is on the c0ck carousel, you had your turn. You might have been able to stay on the ride longer, but your behavior indicated to her that you were going to be a clueless creepy stalker so she pushed you away.

Say no more!

 

[egionesco]

Be thankful you are so young, oneitis can be cured. This is a good lesson.

I was really inexperienced and was afflicted with this until 35. You've got a lot of years to have fun still.

 

[LiveYourDream]

Strong men attract women. To women, strong men are the prize. Women prefer this dynamic, as it gets women wet and gets their fantasies going, about him.

On the other hand, weaker men pursue women. Women may be initially flattered by this attention. However, if a man does not immediately revert back to being the prize, he conveys the woman is the prize and the more weak he appears to her. If continued, his attention will no longer feel flattering, it will feel icky and yucky. It dries up women's pussies and repulses them. If men still continue pursuing anyway, women will lose all respect for him and he will be moved into the dreaded creepy category.

As a side category, there are women who like to play princess and be the prize. These women will play with weaker men, but generally only with men who she perceives increases her own value in some way. Never mistake a princess type woman's attention, for true interest. It never is. Her interest is only in what a man can do for her. Understand, while she may love his attention and gifts, she will never respect or truly care for the man who willingly places himself below her.

 

[wifehunter]

It dries up women's pussies and repulses them.

LOL, Yeah!!!, it's like giving your lady premature menopause!!! NOT GOOD! LOL!