Need advice ASAP. Giving her an ultimatum...bad idea?

[Ol'BlueEyes]

I disagree, maranathaman

There's no point in this dude using this girl just for sex. It's not classy.
Plus, there's always the odd chance she's neurotic enough to allow herself to get pregnant.
cactus3178, I say get away from her; sounds like she has some growing up to do.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Re: okay, it's done

Originally posted by cactus3178
UPDATE:So we had a little talk today and I told her I was leaving and that I was done playing games with her. I told her I would continue to pay the bills that are mine (of course, I'm not a **** like that)....mainly my cell and one credit card, but as far as rent goes, hell, I've got my own to worry about in a week when I move. I found a place I like and the paperwork is already done. There's no going back now.

She started crying and said that she wasn't interested in anyone else and that she wants to continue 'dating', whatever that means....were broken up, and nothing's really different. She told me that she wouldn't move on until long after I did (she already said this). Then she started telling me that she want to make sure that everything will be okay, and that I'm responsible enough!?

Then she gave me the infamous "I don't know what I want" line.

WTF?

Anyway, it's done, too late to change my mind. The hardest part once I'm gone in 2 weeks will be seeing her in public since we have many mutual friends. So what if she comes crawling back? I've never really been in a situation like this before.

I hope I've made the right choice here, and I hope I'll be happy in the long run because I don't really feel anything right now.

YIPPEEEEEEE! I didn't think you had it in you - I was about to label you a wimp!!!

It is not about what she wants - it is about what you want!!
This is very important! And you don't ever take a girl back that left you once!!!!!

Trust me - she doesn't want you for anything more than a security blanket! Once she finds what she wants you are on your own. Women hate to be alone so they look for another man to be their pimp before they leave their current beau. This is the 'monkey' phenomena whereby the monkey swinging on a branch won't let go of the current branch until it finds another to support its' weight!!

A man does what he already promised and committed himself to do - don't be weak and be a chump and return to your supplicating "I hope she likes me" ways!!

 

[cactus3178]

Thanks, PRL.

It had to happen before I went freaking mad. My buddies keep telling me she's a *****, and that she treats me like ****. So this is the only logical step in the right direction.



I hope this weird feeling wears off eventually

Damn, I'm such a n00b.