need advice after weird break up plz help

[MrWood]

suggest the No Contact Challenge thread to help you. Please read all 500 pages first.

BTW: she was fvcking somebody else

 

[Tony197]

One more thing - every dude gets dumped at some point. It's just the way it goes. Women are fickle, especially at that age. Even if you're her favorite person in the whole, wide world, she's not going to settle for the first flavor she gets at the candy store. You need to operate under that same mentality.

Look at it like this: who do you think has more regrets - the girl who dumped Brad Pitt in college? Or Brad Pitt? Exactly.

 

[legend9]

Don't just unfriend her. Go to BlockSite so you can't even check her pages for Updates.

Don't hamster about it anymore. You're literally addicted to her, even though your rational mind tells you she's no good. Treat her like a drug and go cold turkey. She doesn't exist anymore and neither do you. Go ghost.

You are not ready to date yet, but you're at college so surround yourself with other girls. Go to the library or coffee shop or whatever just to remind yourself there are SO MANY other people out there.

Don't speculate as to what she is/isn't doing. "Maybe she cheated on me?", "Maybe she misses me and is pining away for me?" "Maybe it's a rebound or GIGS?" Maybe, maybe, maybe...there are a million different scenarios, but none of them change what you should be doing.

NO CONTACT.
COLD TURKEY.
DON'T GET HER BACK - GET YOURSELF BACK.

Here's a rule of thumb - would Clint Eastwood, or John Wayne, or The Rock, or James Bond, or Indiana Jones waste time worrying about one woman? Nope. She blew it. She'll have to fix it (or not). Either way, not your problem.

Thanks man, I'm done worrying about it

 

[dude99]

I unfriended/removed her on all forms of social media, good move right?

Best move. No contact from this point forward. She will ony waste your time and energy. If she contacts you for anything do not reply do not answer. If you happen to run into her accidently all you say is "sorry im late for a date. Good to see you but i have too go." And that is it. Nothing more

 

[dude99]

suggest the No Contact Challenge thread to help you. Please read all 500 pages first.

BTW: she was fvcking somebody else

Women don't break up with you until they have already started something with someone else. He doesn't believe she was but i say 50 bucks she was.

 

[Tony197]

But it really doesn't matter, dude. Whatever she did or didn't do is not going to change what you should be doing (No Contact, Cold Turkey, Get Yourself Back).

She didn't dump you for him. She dumped your relationship (safe, comfortable, fun, secure) for one with him (new, exciting, validating, filled with emojis, and "Likes", and !!!). That's an emotionally immature person, and you ain't got time for that sh!t. Tragedy is, she's got an entire culture and support system telling her "girl, you did the right thing." Except none of that **** is going to make her happy when she realizes one day she blew it permanently with you. (Read Rollo Tomasi and take the RP).

 

[legend9]

Women don't break up with you until they have already started something with someone else. He doesn't believe she was but i say 50 bucks she was.

Haha I'm 99 percent sure she wasn't trust me I would know, I've gone through her phone and know everyone she knows. I'm a pretty observant guy even though I was stuck in a vicious relationship for a couple months lol . She prolly likes another dude but wasn't banging him

 

[legend9]

But it really doesn't matter, dude. Whatever she did or didn't do is not going to change what you should be doing (No Contact, Cold Turkey, Get Yourself Back).

She didn't dump you for him. She dumped your relationship (safe, comfortable, fun, secure) for one with him (new, exciting, validating, filled with emojis, and "Likes", and !!!). That's an emotionally immature person, and you ain't got time for that sh!t. Tragedy is, she's got an entire culture and support system telling her "girl, you did the right thing." Except none of that **** is going to make her happy when she realizes one day she blew it permanently with you. (Read Rollo Tomasi and take the RP).

You're right man I'll check out the video , I reall apreciate the support from you guys

 

[ZTIME]

Little brother, congratulations on your new found freedom. You may not see it right now, but eventually you'll find your world will open up in all sorts of ways.

Use your time wisley in college. Get good grades, and bang every chick in that place.

When reflecting on your past relationship (which you will), try to focus on how you could have handled yourself better.

Ask yourself why you went through a whole summer suffering. Honestly, you should have pulled the plug, not keep asking her to do it.

Ask yourself why you let any girl get into your head so deeply that you throw little tantrums when you don't get your way.

Search deep within yourself and find what it is that will allow you to let go of your need for validation from her or any chick.

Good luck!

PS...........Yes there's another guy. Once the two of you seperated schools, it was inevitable.

 

[legend9]

Then its still "another guy" my friend. Sorry about it, I know it sucks and Im not the one to tell you its somehow "ok" or "normal" to go through this ****. Its not "ok" and its not "normal"...just inevitable that relationships end and its usually - if you're not cheating - because she cheated at least emotionally or psychologically.

Thanks man I apreciate it

 

[legend9]

Little brother, congratulations on your new found freedom. You may not see it right now, but eventually you'll find your world will open up in all sorts of ways.

Use your time wisley in college. Get good grades, and bang every chick in that place.

When reflecting on your past relationship (which you will), try to focus on how you could have handled yourself better.

Ask yourself why you went through a whole summer suffering. Honestly, you should have pulled the plug, not keep asking her to do it.

Ask yourself why you let any girl get into your head so deeply that you throw little tantrums when you don't get your way.

Search deep within yourself and find what it is that will allow you to let go of your need for validation from her or any chick.

Good luck!

PS...........Yes there's another guy. Once the two of you seperated schools, it was inevitable.

Thanks brother I really apreciate it, I'll learn from it

 

[SuckItUp]

Simple rules to live by ... Long distance relationships are useless and do not get serious in college

 

[Igetit!]

When she says "this isnt because of another guy", you best believe she is with another guy!

That's what I was thinking.......that's what her whole "We'll get back together in 2 weeks" BS line was for......to give her a chance to see how things played out with the other guy,while keeping this guy (the creator of this thread) on standby.

Branchswinging.......she had to make sure she had a firm hold on the next guy before letting this one go first.

She gave all the classic lines..."Don't wanna hurt you"..."Not fair to you"..."You deserve someone better than me",etc,etc..........

She was "busy" all the time...would always come up with an excuse to NOT spend time with you whenever you tried to see her....and on and on and on.

Don't be surprised if you're out and about one day...and you happen to see her hand in hand with another guy.

 

[Sho-No-Luv]

That's what I was thinking.......that's what her whole "We'll get back together in 2 weeks" BS line was for......to give her a chance to see how things played out with the other guy,while keeping this guy (the creator of this thread) on standby.

Branchswinging.......she had to make sure she had a firm hold on the next guy before letting this one go first.

She gave all the classic lines..."Don't wanna hurt you"..."Not fair to you"..."You deserve someone better than me",etc,etc..........

She was "busy" all the time...would always come up with an excuse to NOT spend time with you whenever you tried to see her....and on and on and on.

Don't be surprised if you're out and about one day...and you happen to see her hand in hand with another guy.

Yep, I remember the firsttime I heard the "dont want to hurt you" line. I was like: "WTF!" My gut was screaming that something wasn't right, but I wasn't exactly sure what. Well I found out the hard way. Whenever they start talking in code langauge, they always have some other guy in the picture.

Op, after a while you develope a compiler inside your head that decrypts even the most insidious highly encrypted code language. After enough experince you can almost automatically tell when a female is feeding a line of schitt.

Op, she WILL come back, but you should not take her back, forget about her. After enough pratcice you will find it easier and easier to walk away from situations; peoples and things that mean you no good. Up until that point just think of these females as useful target practice.

Now get back out there and slay tail!

 

[Glassguy]

Yep, I remember the firsttime I heard the "dont want to hurt you" line. I was like: "WTF!" My gut was screaming that something wasn't right, but I wasn't exactly sure what. Well I found out the hard way. Whenever they start talking in code langauge, they always have some other guy in the picture.

Op, after a while you develope a compiler inside your head that decrypts even the most insidious highly encrypted code language. After enough experince you can almost automatically tell when a female is feeding a line of schitt.

Op, she WILL come back, but you should not take her back, forget about her. After enough pratcice you will find it easier and easier to walk away from situations; peoples and things that mean you no good. Up until that point just think of these females as useful target practice.

Now get back out there and slay tail!

The only time I've ever been told "you deserve someone better", I looked the chick in the eye and said "yeah and she's a freak in bed and I'm glad you ended it so I don't have to sneak behind your back until I was ready to walk away for her soon anyway" with a smile on my face. Talk about a chick turning into psycho b!tch in 2 seconds! She wanted more info and I just walked away letting her hamster spin. The worse I treated her (stop texting me I'm on a date with my new girl, etc) the more it drove her insane.

She was certainly right, she turned into a first class wh0re and I was certainly better off without her.

OP....block her number. DO NOT respond to ANYTHING from this chick

 

[legend9]

Yep, I remember the firsttime I heard the "dont want to hurt you" line. I was like: "WTF!" My gut was screaming that something wasn't right, but I wasn't exactly sure what. Well I found out the hard way. Whenever they start talking in code langauge, they always have some other guy in the picture.

Op, after a while you develope a compiler inside your head that decrypts even the most insidious highly encrypted code language. After enough experince you can almost automatically tell when a female is feeding a line of schitt.

Op, she WILL come back, but you should not take her back, forget about her. After enough pratcice you will find it easier and easier to walk away from situations; peoples and things that mean you no good. Up until that point just think of these females as useful target practice.

Now get back out there and slay tail!

hell yea

 

[legend9]

hey guys i really appreciate the responses, they helped me focus on what needs to be done and think with my head instead of my heart. sorry for the long wall of text and how unorganized it was. thanks for taking the time to read it, im feeling better now and will continue no contact even if shes blowing up my phone (easier said than done). screw this girl shes not worth the trouble

 

[legend9]

The only time I've ever been told "you deserve someone better", I looked the chick in the eye and said "yeah and she's a freak in bed and I'm glad you ended it so I don't have to sneak behind your back until I was ready to walk away for her soon anyway" with a smile on my face. Talk about a chick turning into psycho b!tch in 2 seconds! She wanted more info and I just walked away letting her hamster spin. The worse I treated her (stop texting me I'm on a date with my new girl, etc) the more it drove her insane.

She was certainly right, she turned into a first class wh0re and I was certainly better off without her.

OP....block her number. DO NOT respond to ANYTHING from this chick

lol i so wish i could go back in time and pull that off