Mysterious online woman...

[LoneWolf]

Okay this will sound silly but I want to see what you guys say about it...

So I decided to take a break from all the partying and going out. Anyway, I find myself online a lot recently and mostly playing my PS3 and I have met quite a few girls on there that I spoke to. So I met this woman on there not long ago and added her. We've been talking a lot and messaging etc. She sent me photos of herself from the PS3. Not bad... so I told her my facebook and she didn't have one. She told me I was good looking and attractive. We have been talking for maybe a month now and it's been fun. At the same time I was seeing a girl in real life but I dumped her and am concentrating on this online woman. She created a facebook account so we could keep in contact better. Right now she only has a few friends and doesn't seem to like having her photos up on facebook. She uploaded them all the other day but has hidden it now. Meh. Anyhow... only a couple weeks have gone by and she is saying she wants to come visit me real soon (she lives in a different country) - keeps saying she can't wait to meet me and practise kissing and stuff (she is a virgin apparently) she says she hasn't really kissed anyone before apart from high school. That's it. We have many sexual chats and it's fun. So time goes on and we are calling each other babe or hun etc. I'm starting to ease up on that though. She asked me for my address so she could mail me letters like pen pal or something. I know that sounds like a bad idea but the conversations we've had led me to believe I could trust her enough. I know by her accent she doesn't live in the same country and is trying to murder me or something lol. So that's fine. She really sounds serious about coming to see me.. saying she has to look up about it and ask her brother and sister to come along, rent out a place to stay etc. When we do talk on the mic (while playing) she is very nice to everyone. She's always happy and laughing. So I get a good vibe off her.

Now here's the funny part, get ready to laugh... we are boyfriend/girlfriend on facebook. To me it's just for fun atm because I honestly don't feel like it's anything else. It was okay at first but a few days go by and she is acting a little off. Maybe it's just me because I like her more now but instead of our fun little chats it's getting real short like "Goodnight, I'm going to bed." or "Later" or just things like that. Haven't played online with her for a week now. She's on the PS3 everyday pretty much but not on the same game. Last night I told her I'd be playing at a certain time and she said she'd love to play with me that she misses it. So when the time comes to meet up in the lobby, she messages me "I'm going to bed." and signs out. ???? She comes back on in like three hours or something then says she's going in 2hours to some road trip.

Anyway that's been it up until now pretty much. I don't know why but I believe her that she's a virgin.. I asked her more than once and she swears it. She's at least 35 or something and Vietnamese.

So give me your best shot guys! Don't give me the "Go out and find a real girl" answer cause I've had it with that for a while. No more parties for me. Just tell me what you think about this. If she's sending me a letter that's gotta mean something right? I haven't got it yet but we'll see.

 

[runner83]

Go out and find a real girl.

With this one, you are trying to her judge her interest over an electronic medium, which is a complete waste of fvckin' time.

Do not expect it to go anywhere, she is from another country!

The thing about being bf/gf on facebook when you haven't even met is pathetic. Her interest is waning because she is starting to catch on that you are a chump with no other options. No girl wants a guy like that.

If she does come to your country and you end up banging her, then she is into you.[/B]

Chance of this is 0.1%. If she doesn't, then no matter what she says, she is not into you, or is too far for it to be anything.

You need to be focusing on improving yourself and getting girls in real life, not deluding yourself like this.

Sorry if I sound harsh, but it's the truth. Stay on here, keep reading and learn.

 

[LoneWolf]

So what do you suggest I do about this situation? Remove her as a girlfriend? That might fuk up any chance of her wanting to come see me in real life... she might get upset and bail. At least this way she's in a safe zone? She knows I'm not a complete chump, she sees other girls posting on my wall and messaging me all the time... she always talks about it, you can see she's jealous from it. She knows I hang out with other chicks too. It was probably wrong of me to accept the relationship thing on facebook but I'm afraid if I cancel it she'll forget about the whole coming to my country visiting idea. I was thinking maybe just leave it for fun, we don't even talk THAT much. Plus it's already making other girls jealous... If you remember, in the first post I said I've been through all those partying, clubbing nights and I am so over it. I just can't seem to find a decent girl whenever I go out which is why I've placed myself online and open to dating from there. I'll keep your advice on hand though. Appreciate it.

 

[runner83]

Treat it as something with a low chance of success.

Keep playing along if you think you have to, but do not devote too much time to it.

Spend your time on something much more likely to have a payoff to you i.e. local girls.

 

[blackwolf]

Right! Gotcha

 

[runner83]

Right! Gotcha

Now, that's weird.

For the love of god, put my mind at rest and tell me that the following is not true:

* blackwolf = Lonewolf

* This is the same girl as in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=182111

The descriptions are eerily similar in some ways: asian, older, a virgin, becoming more private and withdrawn.

And yet in the first version, she was your girlfriend, whereas now it turns out she lives in a different country and you've NEVER EVEN met!!

If this is true, the fact that you felt the need to set up multiple log ins and come on here asking for advice multiple times (since you didn't get what you wanted to hear the first time) is really creepy.

 

[Gray The Prince]

Right! Gotcha

Multi Fail.

If you're gonna have a multi account, at least not NAME it similarly and log out before you post as the other guy.


I swear you're a faggot for doing this... *facepalms*

 

[Iceberg]

Now, that's weird.

For the love of god, put my mind at rest and tell me that the following is not true:

* blackwolf = Lonewolf

* This is the same girl as in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=182111

The descriptions are eerily similar in some ways: asian, older, a virgin, becoming more private and withdrawn.

And yet in the first version, she was your girlfriend, whereas now it turns out she lives in a different country and you've NEVER EVEN met!!

If this is true, the fact that you felt the need to set up multiple log ins and come on here asking for advice multiple times (since you didn't get what you wanted to hear the first time) is really creepy.

Multi Fail.

If you're gonna have a multi account, at least not NAME it similarly and log out before you post as the other guy.


I swear you're a faggot for doing this... *facepalms*

The funny thing, guys, is that in the thread that runner just posted, "blackwolf" got caught posting under the name "chance"....so apparently this guy has at least THREE names on this board. All to ask qusetions about some imaginary girl from another country.

 

[LoneWolf]

Well, we are back to the fun chatting and flirting (even sex talk sometimes) again. Also, keeps mentioning how she's coming to visit me. She thinks I am fuking other girls too because she keeps talking about who I am hanging out with and asking if i have sex a lot etc.. weird. I try to avoid it all the time anyway. I told her to come on webcam the other day but again, she said she's a very private person. It's not rare that Asian girls are private right? So I just let her off. Basically I don't know her age and real last name. That's it unless there's more. I am just waiting for this letter... that should show me that she's a interested if she's doing that!

 

[Chickfight]

Dude, snap the **** out of it! You've never met her!! She's says she's a virgin yet she's around 35? Even if that's true it isn't normal or healthy. She could be hideously obese for all you know since you've only seen pictures she sent you which could be any one. What kind of girl sits around all day playing ps3 anyway? Get real man, There are people I've spoken to for five minutes who I have more hard info on than you do on her.

I'm giving it to you straight here bro, but your posts are crazy and it seems like there's some deeper issues with yourself that you have to resolve, maybe talk to someone, but you have to accept reality first. It's either some suffering now, or suffering for the rest of your life.

You're holding on to this ludicrous idea that she'll come visit you and when you look into eachothers eyes it will be perfect, she'll move in with you and you'll be happy forever together. Let me tell you now this will NEVER happen. You expect her to show up on your doorstep when she won't even turn on her webcam for you? Stop deluding yourself.

 

[LoneWolf]

i know it's just pictures but i'm sure it's her. she took a picture today from her webcam and i saw the same picture in the background on her wall from another photo of her house she sent me. PLUS why would she send a pic of an average looking girl (not even average to most ppl) if she was trying to lie??? she would of used a pic of a hot chick.

ive had many people advise me on here before in past situations like once when i was friends with a girl. EVERYONE kept saying it's over and calling me names... i proved them wrong and ended up having sex with her. so not everything you say is gonna be true. not everything I say will be true either but i know shes not lying. i didnt say she plays ps3 all day btw. she works everyday and we hardly play ps3 together. maybe twice a week or sometimes three if lucky. last i heard, its not rare for older asian women to be a virgin.

i am still talking to other girls, this is just one of them who i talk to more. i just know its her in the pictures. you can't type it on here, its a gut feeling.. when i hear the way she talks you feel truth come out of her voice. sincere with morals etc. fuk, not every woman is a liar you know?

 

[LoneWolf]

you never heard of women being virgins until marriage??? she might have issues with privacy but i find that attractive. that shes not an open book like half the women in the world. DONT fuking worry about me, i got my sh1t together and i know how to walk away just like that if i wanted. but i got nothing to lose by chatting to her and seeing what happens. i can't tell you why i believe most of what she says but i just do. you would just need to talk to her to see why.

 

[Noodles]

I told her to come on webcam the other day but again, she said she's a very private person.

She's a dude. You know it. We know it.

On a side note, I'd like to thank you for posting on here. Posts like this make my day so much more enjoyable.

 

[blackwolf]

ignorant

 

[Noodles]

Fair play I hadn't read the bit about you actually talking to her.

Still...I think this guy said it best:

Dude, snap the **** out of it! You've never met her!! She's says she's a virgin yet she's around 35? Even if that's true it isn't normal or healthy. She could be hideously obese for all you know since you've only seen pictures she sent you which could be any one. What kind of girl sits around all day playing ps3 anyway?

I can only imagine how low your self-esteem is if this is what passes for fun or a valid way to meet people for you. You can change this though. And that's what you should be doing. You're wasting your time day dreaming while life is passing you by. I'm going to bet you've done this for a long time...

 

[LoneWolf]

Err, WRONG! i guess you didn't read my first post. incase you didn't or you forgot.. let me refresh your memory.

So I decided to take a break from all the partying and going out.

been there, done that! i'm at home more often now because i was always out before and i'm trying to just take it easy now and relax. i have NOT had any luck meeting girls at parties and bars and clubs. its full of stuck up sluts who wanna fuk and get drunk. yeah it was fun but im fuking over that sh1t now. my last gf was on DRUGS. screw that sh1t. ive actually just RECENTLY become single. even when i met this woman i was with someone else. so yeah.

so while i've been home i been online quite a bit and i bumped into her while gaming. just because i'm in it for some online girl you guys think im some low self esteem guy or i'm some weird person? wtf??? ive really had it with girls ive met while i been out. to be honest, ive met better girls ONLINE than offline. LIFE is not passing me by, i am NOT wasting my time. i'm doing everything i wanna do in my life. don't put words into my fuking mouth and tell me whats what. you act like its impossible to hook up with a chick who lives in another country. well hey, it fuking happens a lot and some of them get married. i don't expect that to happen with her but HEY who fuking knows ey? also, i told you that shes not the only one i talk to.. theres plenty of other girls i am talking to and she sees it too. i dont chat to her all the time even, we just exchange a few messages over facebook through out the day.

just you fuking wait people, i'll be posting about this when she DOES come to see me. what girl would even bother writing a letter in the first place if she didn't like me? shes no supermodel so i dont expect her to have men begging her for a date. thats why its more believable. of course if she was some hot model chick i wouldnt waste one fuking second on her you can bet ur ass on that. not my type at all. we will see. and if you guys are right, i will admit it and you can all have a fuking laugh. capiche?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Err, WRONG! i guess you didn't read my first post. incase you didn't or you forgot.. let me refresh your memory.

So I decided to take a break from all the partying and going out.

been there, done that! i'm at home more often now because i was always out before and i'm trying to just take it easy now and relax. i have NOT had any luck meeting girls at parties and bars and clubs. its full of stuck up sluts who wanna fuk and get drunk. yeah it was fun but im fuking over that sh1t now. my last gf was on DRUGS. screw that sh1t. ive actually just RECENTLY become single. even when i met this woman i was with someone else. so yeah.

You haven't had luck meeting girls at parties, so you spend months talking to some chick 800 miles away online....and this is considered luck?

so while i've been home i been online quite a bit and i bumped into her while gaming. just because i'm in it for some online girl you guys think im some low self esteem guy or i'm some weird person? wtf???

I think you're weird because you have three different screen names on this message board. That's pretty weird.

just you fuking wait people, i'll be posting about this when she DOES come to see me. what girl would even bother writing a letter in the first place if she didn't like me? shes no supermodel so i dont expect her to have men begging her for a date. thats why its more believable. of course if she was some hot model chick i wouldnt waste one fuking second on her you can bet ur ass on that. not my type at all. we will see. and if you guys are right, i will admit it and you can all have a fuking laugh. capiche?

Yeah I hate hot model chicks. I'd much rather have them desperate, online, and invisible like yours.

 

[Noodles]

Err, WRONG! i guess you didn't read my first post. incase you didn't or you forgot.. let me refresh your memory.

So I decided to take a break from all the partying and going out.

Mate...although that is the literal definition of going out, it's not what is generally meant by it. Partying though, is by it's very definition, a fun activity...not really something you can get bored of. Let's take a closer look at why you're not 'partying' any more, and we'll find that's exactly what's happening.

i'm at home more often now because i was always out before and i'm trying to just take it easy now and relax. i have NOT had any luck meeting girls at parties and bars and clubs. its full of stuck up sluts who wanna fuk and get drunk. yeah it was fun but im fuking over that sh1t now.

What have girls got to do with going out at all? How about just meeting up with your friends, having a few drinks and chewing the cud? How about meeting new people and expanding your social circle? How about getting up to things that become interesting stories you tell other people?

You paint a picture of going out as literally trawling for women. That's like walking into your gym and saying you're 'exercising' whilst watching everyone else. I don't understand what women have got to do with going out...

Okay...why do I think you've got low self esteem? Because you don't seem to be sociable or have a good group of friends. If I spent my time at home playing video games my friends would be round knocking on the door. I'd be getting phone calls. Eventually I'd give up and go out. No one wants to sit at home playing on PS3 all the time unless they're 14. Well...unless you're a serious loner. People want company, be it friends, family or girls. It's the same reason so many people on this site want a girlfriend - they're lonely. You say this girl is 35 - how old are you?

I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. You know how it is - you read something on the Internet and make your own opinion. And as much as you may not like it I think my opinion of your situation is the same as everybody else here.

For the record:
Number of girls I've met playing videogames online: 0
Number of video games I play: 0
Number of girls I know that like videogames (bar Wii party games): 0
Number of girls I've met through Facebook: 0
Number of people I've met through Facebook: 0
Number of girls I've met through the Internet, fullstop: 0
Number of people I've met through the Internet, fullstop: 0
Maybe I'm just really bad at meeting techie girls though...

 

[blackwolf]

You haven't had luck meeting girls at parties, so you spend months talking to some chick 800 miles away online....and this is considered luck?

okay first... who the fuk said i was spending months talking to her? uhhhh... nah.

I think you're weird because you have three different screen names on this message board. That's pretty weird.

good for you. i explained before why i do.
1. sometimes i make two or three threads so i don't wanna look like im spamming, hence the other accounts.
2. like just now, i can't post anymore on the other one cause of that sh1t ass limit.
3. it's not really a big deal. im pretty sure im not the only one with other accounts. and at least i am not pretending to be someone else. i admitted to owning them. nothing to hide. so if its weird to you, that's your problem pal.

Yeah I hate hot model chicks. I'd much rather have them desperate, online, and invisible like yours.

i guess that was you being sarcastic. i actually do hate hot girls. their attitude stinks most of the time and they are always high maintenance. you probably have a heap more of unhappy couples that are guys with hot girls. than guys with average looking girls. i see it all the time. hot girls are just for fuks in my book. ur dumb if you would ever hook up with one. very rare to find a SMART and fun hot chick who isn't fuked in the head.

NOW... Noodles;

Mate...although that is the literal definition of going out, it's not what is generally meant by it. Partying though, is by it's very definition, a fun activity...not really something you can get bored of. Let's take a closer look at why you're not 'partying' any more, and we'll find that's exactly what's happening.

What have girls got to do with going out at all? How about just meeting up with your friends, having a few drinks and chewing the cud? How about meeting new people and expanding your social circle? How about getting up to things that become interesting stories you tell other people?

You paint a picture of going out as literally trawling for women. That's like walking into your gym and saying you're 'exercising' whilst watching everyone else. I don't understand what women have got to do with going out...

Okay...why do I think you've got low self esteem? Because you don't seem to be sociable or have a good group of friends. If I spent my time at home playing video games my friends would be round knocking on the door. I'd be getting phone calls. Eventually I'd give up and go out. No one wants to sit at home playing on PS3 all the time unless they're 14. Well...unless you're a serious loner. People want company, be it friends, family or girls. It's the same reason so many people on this site want a girlfriend - they're lonely. You say this girl is 35 - how old are you?

I wasn't trying to put words in your mouth. You know how it is - you read something on the Internet and make your own opinion. And as much as you may not like it I think my opinion of your situation is the same as everybody else here.

For the record:
Number of girls I've met playing videogames online: 0
Number of video games I play: 0
Number of girls I know that like videogames (bar Wii party games): 0
Number of girls I've met through Facebook: 0
Number of people I've met through Facebook: 0
Number of girls I've met through the Internet, fullstop: 0
Number of people I've met through the Internet, fullstop: 0
Maybe I'm just really bad at meeting techie girls though...

mate! i know that almost half the fuking world drinks alcohol, but this guy doesn't. i don't smoke either. i actually do not LIKE clubbing and going to parties anymore. it's fuking stupid, not fun. half the time its just full of *******s trying to start a fight or its either just full of dumb hoes who just wanna get fuked up on alcohol. i know almost every guy on the planet thinks thats fun but i don't. THAT'S why i don't party anymore. i cant find any decent girls there thats serious. like i said, ive had my fair share of fun with partying. over it.

i know guys, just like you really like to go out a lot and they spend most of their days OUTSIDE. ive always been a home person... even though i was out every weekend partying like an animal. but recently its just been home or the occasional hang out with friends at the movies or just walking around and talking. the usual "hang out" session with guys these days consists of drinking beer and smoking in a garage or watching football/soccer at a pub. i don't do that. hate it!

i realise this limits me from meeting people and women. but i'm glad because those are not the kind of women i want to meet. which is why, again i say, have been online more often. i am not online to meet girls though. most of the time i meet girls online by accident through gaming or facebook via friends comments/posting/pages, etc. i'm just living life more relaxed now. oh and BY THE FUKING WAY. I DONT PLAY PS3 ALL DAY NEITHER DOES SHE. WE BOTH WORK EVERYDAY AND ARE BUSY. at the moment i live alone and i keep myself busy cleaning the house, paying bills, walking the dog, washing etc. keeps me very busy. so don't think im some loser who sits in his basement on his computer all day. i go out and work and all that shizam. just no more fuking parties or HANG outs that much. most my friends pretty just go out to concerts and parties. so i just stay home instead or am with family. i'm 26 and i don't know how old she. she LOOKS about mid/late 30's to me... in some pictures.

 

[SharinganUser]

Not going to parties and bars is NOT an excuse for not meeting women. Either is not drinking.

Man, I am 27 and your life sounds boring as hell to me. You're single and you have no responsibilities. If you wanted to you could save up for a couple months and fly to singapore to see this girl if you wanted. That might be AFC or whatever, but it'd be a hell of a lot more interesting than working, walking the dog, and playing ps3 before you go to bed so you can do it all again tomarrow.

You make the choice to live in this utterly mundane life style, but you complain about how hard it is to meet women. You may not believe this but humanbeing actually do things other than drink and party. You can join a club, take a class, join a gym, get a hobby, you could even take your dog to the park and talk to other dog owners.

Stop hiding behind excuses about why you are single. One more thing life sucks, get a ****ing helmet, alright.