My womane$e is not that good yet

[reasonpolice]

K so I was at a party last night, met this really cool girl (shes also a solid 8.5), we hit it off pretty well. She seems pretty interested, I was spotting IoI's here and there. A little while before we all had to leave, she she added me on facebook via her phone, so when I got home, I accepted, and talked to her for like 20-25 minutes, but one thing struck me as a little odd. About 5 or 6 minutes into our conversation, her status becomes this:

"i wonder why when i am legitimately interested in a dude, it seems like he doesn't even notice me, but when i'm not that interested they'll be all over me. bad love karma?"

( I really wouldn't consider myself to be "all over her," I was hitting on and getting hit on by these other 3 girls (7, 8, 9.5) for like the first 3-4 hours and didnt really pay attention to her until after they left )

So I said:

"Oh your status wouldn't have anything to do with me now would it? ;p"

To which she replied:

"No I'm just sayin that seems to happen to me a lot. Not even sayin it happened recently. It has nothing to do with you though. =]"

To which I replied:

"Alright good." and then promptly changed the subject.

I told her I would be free on thursday and that we could hang out at my place, chill in my hot tub, and/or watch a movie. She said "alright for sure hit me up!"

To me, seems like shes pretty interested, I'd just like to know what your guys' opinions are. I'm probably just overthinking, and I'd really rather not **** this one up.

 

[Poonani Maker]

I think that you did very well here. You forced her to make a decision. Whether she follows through with it is another conundrum (Flake!). I don't like the "hit me up" speak. The ball's back in Your court now so-to-speak. If you contact her again, she can still say no, AND even if she says "YEs," she can STILL (from whenever you contact her till one second before the date on Thursday), say, "I'm sorry, reasonpolice, I have to cancel. Blah Blah blah came up."

Womane$e is something we should all be talking about on This forum. We should share the translations and get them ingrained in our brains. Women have a code amongst one another. You either ARE clueless in their eyes, or you've been around and are experienced getting the tang.

 

[reasonpolice]

When I said "I'm free thursday so lets do x" she responded with "That works for me, I'm pretty much free all the time haha"

That was a very good sign, or at least, I think it was.

As for the "hit me up" thing my plan is to call her up late wednesday night to confirm, cause I kinda want to hang during the day on thursday since thats when no one else is home at my house heh

 

[Igetit!]

When I said "I'm free thursday so lets do x" she responded with "That works for me, I'm pretty much free all the time haha"

That was a very good sign, or at least, I think it was.

I agree that it was a good sign. I like that fact that you told her when you were free instead of asking her when she was available.

That puts you in charge and in control which really is what she wants.

As for the "hit me up" thing my plan is to call her up late wednesday night to confirm...

As for calling Wednesday night to confirm...I think it's ok,but I'd probably go a different route.



I'd give her a call like on Tuesday,to stir up her emotions a bit,ignite a little more attraction and comfort.



Then I'd let her know what we're going to do,the time,and let her know what time you're going to pick her up (if you're going to pick her up).




After telling her what time I was going to pick her up,I'd say something like this....


you:I'll be over there to pick you up at (whatever time),but I"m calling you like 20 minutes before I come over there,because I want to make sure you're ready. The LAST THING I'm gonna do is spend half an hour in my car waitin' on you to decide on an outift to wear.



This will lessen the chance of her flaking,while protecting you from coming off as needy or insecure.

 

[reasonpolice]

Alright, I'll call her on Tuesday.

This will lessen the chance of her flaking,while protecting you from coming off as needy or insecure.

She can drive, so I'm not sure how to go about that... I really don't have a plan b since I was just gonna relax on Thursday anyway. When I call her on Tuesday I'll try to set up a time, but it is really up to her since she is the one driving.

 

[reasonpolice]

Bump. I'm gonna ask whether she wants me to get her or drive here, but still haven't thought of what to say if she's driving. The default would be to set a time then tell her to call me when she leaves, but that gives her some control, although I'm sure it's probably not a big deal. I'm trying my best not to have oneitis, which is pretty easy cause I have several other options, but it'd be nice to lock this one down.

 

[eaglez1177]

The only thing I disagree on here is when you asked her if that status was about you or not. I wouldnt have said anything, and if you were confident enough that you were gaming her just right, you shouldnt doubt yourself and begin to think that that status was about you.

And IMO, asking people if their status refers to you can make you come off as insecure.

EDIT: and I totally agreee with what Igetit wrote in bold, thats def a good move.

 

[reasonpolice]

Well, I asked in a joking manner, hence the ;p, and I figured it would help make my intentions clear somewhat

Also, what Igetit said in bold does not apply if she is the one driving.... No one seems to know what to do about that haha

Oh well I'll think of something

 

[eaglez1177]

Id prolly say something like this if she was the one driving: "Hey come pick me up at blah blah time; make sure you're right on time cuz I got a tight schedule here" (the last part shud be in a sort of jokingly manner)