My wife

[trucker]

I have been married 13 years and have 3 kids by her, my wife wanted a seperation about a year ago and started seeing a guy while we were seperated... About a 2 months ago we got back together and was doing great and was trying hard to put our marriage back together "but" she found out she was pregnant and she say's its his kid, cause she is 3 1/2 months along and she was with him at the time, I'm fixed.....

Well I was still wanting to work on our marriage but we got into a big fight 3 weeks ago Sat. she left the house went to her moms and started seeing him again... I have to see her every day because of the kids, she came up to me yesturday and say's she broke up with this other guy again and she wants to try again... I don't know what to do...

 

[trucker]

Forgot to say, she has been running back and fourth between me and this other guy, she will stay with him for a month or two then come to me for bout month I know I sound like a chump but we've been together so long, Just trying to hang on and make it work...

 

[bud1971]

Man, that is rough.....

marriagebuilders.com has the best info I have seen on these types of situations......good luck

 

[Good_ol_boy]

You got married when you were 15??

Take care of your kids, but forget her. She's not commited to you if she keeps going back to the other guy.

 

[Sweetcheeks]

Hey man, I just wanted to wish you luck

I don't really know what to say... you're in the middle of a nightmare.

I don't have any familiarity with this sort of thing, so please don't take any of my suggestions the wrong way... but I think it would be unfair for you to have to raise someone else's child. It would also be extremely awkward for you to have to share your wife with this other man, with whom your wife would inevitably have close ties if/when she has his baby.

It's a horrible situation. She will likely run off to him at the first sign of trouble with you, and run back to you at the first sign of trouble with him. This is a sweet deal for her, she has her pick between the two of you.

I would (forgive me for sounding insensitive) try to eliminate any excuse for her to maintain associations with her other man. I would insist that she make a choice, and if she choose you, to maybe give this child up for abortion. Painful for her, but it was her mistake, and also she doesn't seem morally suited for motherhood if she is this irresponsible and inconsiderate, anyways (sorry).

 

[Lost In Translation]

start stock piling your money

offshore / swiss bank accounts

hide it. launder it.

start liquidating your assets

play along with the game until you are ready

THEN DIVORCE THE WH0RE !

you are a man and you are worth more than to play second fiddle to this wh0re

and raise a bastard child too ?

the nerve of this woman !

she has had her fill and wipes her mouth and pretends nothing is wrong !

make a plan of war and get rid of her

let her reap what she sows


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Sorry TRUCKER, you're done.

The best thing you can do is find yourself some good legal representaion at this point. No amount of marriage counseling is going to bring back a desire she simply doesn't have. You're equally screwed, because in all likelihood she'll retain custody of your current children for which you'll be paying support for, in addition to alimony, and indirectly you'll be paying for the child that isn't your own anyway. Add to this the support payments the other guy will be forking out monthly for the next 18 years for his kid and this b!tch has got a pretty sweet ride for at least the next 20 or so years.

And all these teenage ONEitis boys want to run me up the flagpole for telling them not to even think about monogamy until their 27,..

 

[Desdinova]

That's a tough one. She's not entirely to blame since it sounds like the separation was mutual, but there's no way in hell you should support a child that's not yours.

The way I see it, you have two options, and you're gonna have to put your foot down to end this bull5hit:

1) Tell her to give up the baby and stick with you

2) Tell her to fvck off and deal with the consequences

However, if she's still running back and forth to this guy, this 5hit isn't going to end quickly. I'd personally go with option #2. It's hard enough to fix a relationship that's deteriorated over time, but if more 5hit breaks during a separation, you might as well trash the whole thing.

 

[Skel]

Take care of your kids and move on with your life.

If you had a car that kept breaking down every time you put work into it would you keep it? No, you would go get a new car that works.

 

[MindOverMatter]

I have to see her every day because of the kids, she came up to me yesturday and say's she broke up with this other guy again and she wants to try again... I don't know what to do...

No my friend, she didn't break up with him. You had a fight with her, and she took off to talk to him about starting things again and seeing if he wanted to raise their kid with her. She went to him because she wanted to have a family with him.

The guy prolly told her to get lost, and now she's crawling back to you cause you are her last option. If that guy had wanted to raise that kid, she'd be with him now.

Like LIT said, take care of your assets, hide your money and divorce her ass. Be a good father to YOUR kids, but stop trying to make sh!t work with her man.

 

[Aztec]

It's no question that the time you share together is irreplaceable but this woman is playing you as evidence by jumping back and forth. I bet if she has a choice assuming that you (men) are in the same situation, especially financially, she will choose him. Time you spent together means very little to her.

I wish never to be in your position that's why I'm trying to give you advice in an objective manner. Take care of the kids, that's numero uno. Your relationship with her is DONE! I know YOU WANT to believe it can be restored.

She came up to you and want to patch things up because she broke up with her boyfriend? That really smells like an open fish market on a hot, humid day!

I wouldn't be surprised if she uses your kids as a bait / shield to keep you in shackles...JUST IN CASE!

We are not here to berate you, just look at it objectively. Oh yeah, she got knocked up by this other guy too ergo they have some sort of a hub.

Good Luck!

 

[Zeph]

Originally posted by trucker
I have been married 13 years and have 3 kids by her, my wife wanted a seperation about a year ago and started seeing a guy while we were seperated... About a 2 months ago we got back together and was doing great and was trying hard to put our marriage back together "but" she found out she was pregnant and she say's its his kid, cause she is 3 1/2 months along and she was with him at the time, I'm

I don't know what to do...

Question 1: "What do I want?"

Question 2: "Can I have it?"

Question 3: "Am I willing to pay the price for it.

Question 4: "Am I willing to live with it if I get it?"

Sorry, I've got not good suggestions. Only questions to ask when I find myself in a difficult position.

Here's another:

If you were to meet a stunningly beautiful woman that was kind, compassionate, sexy, was willing to love you deeply, and accept your kids, would you hang around waiting for your wife?

If you would go with the woman, then you're being clingy. Leave the wife. If you would not, then do what it takes to make your marriage work.


Note: The above "advice" comes from a childless and un-married man. Take that into consideration.

Good luck.

 

[crowes22]

Originally posted by Lost In Translation
start stock piling your money

offshore / swiss bank accounts

hide it. launder it.

start liquidating your assets

play along with the game until you are ready

THEN DIVORCE THE WH0RE !

and raise a bastard child too ?

the nerve of this woman !

I agree w/ Lost. Trucker, you are fvcked I hate to say. I'm not about neglecting kids, but hell she's gonna get em anyway, and you'll pay for em.

I'd possibly look into changing my identity. There is some good literature available on this topic. I hear Belize is a nice palce to live, just one of many options. Good luck.

--Crowes

 

[al77]

Originally posted by Lost In Translation
start stock piling your money

offshore / swiss bank accounts

hide it. launder it.

start liquidating your assets

play along with the game until you are ready

THEN DIVORCE THE WH0RE !

The idea seems good..
I am just curiosu Lost In Translation, MindOverMatter:
how would you hide the money? Open swiss bank account through internet? It is a bit scary since I get scam all the time "Send us your bank data...blah blah"...
How would you know if the are not a scam?

Anyway what are the method of hiding money if case of divorce?
Does anyone have some experience\knowledge about it?

 

[Cesare Cardinali]

this is proof that a 15 year old guy shouldn't get married.

Cesare Cardinali

 

[trucker]

Sorry for the confusion We were together 13 years married 10....
Thanks for everyone posting it's helping me see things in a differn't light......

 

[Lost In Translation]

no al77 NO INTERNET

the swiss banks have actual offices in your USA major cities

UBS is one find out where it's closest actual bank is in your major city

locations in USA :



best way to launder drug money is casino

also as he is laundering any unexplained loss of assests he can say he GAMBLED IT and has a GAMBLING PROBLEM

they can't prove $hit. adjust it so you got a few small checks from a few casinos that you DIDN'T launder the money through

ie. i walk in i put $500 in poker machine. i press COLLECT.

dude comes and give me cheque for $500

i take check to bank and bank it

i now have paper trail saying i gamble

you may need this for court purposes

so when i TAKE all the assests and liquidate and hide them offshore i give her the whole : " i'm sorry hun i have a gambling problem "

AND I CAN PROVE IT

this idea works for other areas of your life too

there are alot more details and other methods but you get the idea

NO INTERNET


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[dietzcoi]

See my post in the main forum.

LIT has good ideas

The hoe is amazing.. the nerve of her! How can she look herself in the mirror?

Taking care of the kids is important, but trust me, from my personal experience, it wil let the hoe have power over you. I cannot advise you to run from your kids, but you need to get rid or her NOW. No more talking, no more bouncing back and forth.

We can only hope she gets what she deserves, and so does the other chump.

DIetzcoi

 

[Desdinova]

LIT, that is fvcking beautiful! I'll have to keep that one in mind in case I ever need to use it. Let's hope I don't.

 

[brat-buster]

Trucker,

I was married to my ex for 16 yrs and had 4 kids with her. She ran off with a guy 10 yrs younger, Divorced me and I'm struggling financially. The bytch got it all. So take LIT advice and start hiding money if you can.

ya know what tho.......I HAPPY! All the $$ in the wolrd wouldn't push me back to her. My short term financial sitch is the only thing in my life not in order. Everything else could'nt be better.

BUT, if you want to work it out I would suggest 2 things.

www.divorcebusters.com
www.retrovaille.org

Only you can decide, I feel for ya dood