my valentines day AFC mistake.

[sinned]

After being with this girl on only 3 occasions (on a very intimate lvl @ her place) I decided that I wanted to find out for sure where we stood because of her flacky intrest level (due to not answering phone/calling back right away)

Valentines day. She calld me around 5pm but i missed her call. Then i Call back around 9pm but her phone is off. (she worked a double today) I knew she would probly be at home sleeping. But i felt bad. I like this girl a lot and I wanted to make her feel special On VD. I got a rose and a bottle of wine and went to her house about 11pm. Car is there... lights are out. I knock on the door. wait. Knock on her window to try to wake her up. Knock back on the door. No answer.

My conclusion is that her intrest level is not there at all since i know for a fact that if i did this for another girl that she would want to bang my brains out right outside her door.

Here is the part that confuses me... a lot. She calls me the next day and my first thought is... ow jesus maybe she wasnt even home/sound asleep. Nope. as my gut told me she was home.

"Im pissed off at you"
"what u did last night was not kool"
"not kool at all"
"knocking on my door and banging on my window was just too much"
"please dont ever do that again"

My reaction
I was just being spontanius and what i did was awesome. U tottaly missed out..
dont worry it will never happen again.... then i ended the convo... BYE.

im such a AFC what do u guys take on this whole thing... Im getting over her even though I had oneitus and i plan on kind of ignoring her and just showing no intrest.. (i see her at work every now and then) this time my gut is telling me that she still wants a relationship even tho she didnt answer her door, it tells me that she might call me in the next few days... it tells me that if she wants me i must not give in, but then another side of me PATHETIC wants to talk to her about it if she doesnt talk to me in the next few days.. ask her exactly where we stand, and ask if im just her boy toy. ask her why she didnt answer her door that night.. so on..

I kind of wish i had never gotten into the game....


NOT haha.

 

[Dapper Swindler]

It was AFC behavior. And she is a cun*. And that is a bad combination. I don't understand why she wouldn't at least answer the door for you. Either she was banging someone else at the time or she really thinks your creepy. Sorry to put it that way, but don't take it too hard, she's a cun* anyway. You should definitely ignore her and consider not even seeing her if she comes back to you.

 

[tmpgstx]

She's not interested, i would move on. She made that clear by not answering the door, and even moreso with a phone call and what she said.

 

[bud_2005]

The lights being out should of told you it was a bad time.

 

[sinned]

Originally posted by bud_2005
The lights being out should of told you it was a bad time.

No sh1t. Showing up at some ones house unannounced isnt the best idea in the world either... any more love u want to lay down bud? thanks

 

[sinned]

Originally posted by Dapper Swindler
she really thinks your creepy.

my initial thought too because i would find it a little creepy if a chick came to my house like that.

 

[sinned]

Im going to get a shirt that says "im the koolest creepy guy ever.... ever" and show up at her work. That will definetly get me laid.

 

[Dapper Swindler]

If it makes you feel better. I've done much bigger AFC stuff than this.

I once went on a date with a girl and she got very sick and had to go to the hospital. I stayed with her at the hospital until 4:00 a.m. The next morning I was outside her dorm room at dawn without any sleep with flowers and a "get well soon" balloon. I waited all day for her to wake up and find me outside. Was she happy to see the effort I had made to show I care?

My advice is that you forget about this mess, read the DJ Bible, and start meeting other women.

 

[DeathDealer]

Well I'm not going to repeat what others say about your ridiculous behavior. You do what other AFCs do.. You expected her to say Yes or come to the window like in romantic movies, but no.. this is real life. People who do that crap are psychos especially at late at night.

I once had a black person who was throwing tiny gravel on my window, turns out it was for someone else, i told him it's next door. He kept persisting and when I came back out again I had a shotgun, and he ran away fast.

To answer your whole post to see if she's still interested in you or has feelings. Maybe, but extermely low chance of ever being in a relationship with her. You get it? Now MOVE ON.

 

[Engetsu]

Originally posted by DeathDealer
I once had a black person who was throwing tiny gravel on my window, turns out it was for someone else, i told him it's next door. He kept persisting and when I came back out again I had a shotgun, and he ran away fast.

That's some funny stuff!

sinned: You're right, you're in too deep. You're thinking that much about this girl after only THREE measly tiny teeny dates? Maaan. Just forget about all that V-Day stuff, those are just details. The fact that she's not talking to you now should be enough information. If she comes back to you, and apologizes by saying that she reacted a little harshly, you should maybe give her another chance. But questioning herself whether you are her boy toy or not is CHICK stuff. As for you, you shouldn't care right now, you're just building the foundation of a potential relationship without thinking about it... You started writing the final version while it should have been the rough draft for both of you... a rough draft that you can tear up anytime.

 

[sinned]

thx engetsu that made a lot of sense.

 

[Bonhomme]

Erase her from your life

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[Guerrero]

I find this to be a common problem among many guys; thinking the world about some ***** when she really doesn't give a **** about you. But I know why girls are such *****es, they got alot of love struck ****ers chasing them around. They're simply going for what the feel is the better deal. Girls date on average way more than most guys date. Girls have more sex partners than guys. Now only if it was the other way around

 

[DrSoSuave]

That may be true Guerrero, but you have to understand that the more relationships a girl has the more crazy she becames. It's a given cause after 5 guys she's dated she has a bleaker look at romance while it is the opposite for men.

As men date more women and have more relationships with them, he becomes more refined and experienced. Even women know this, that is why they shop around just like guys - except they tend to be more clingy and get even more so when they start hitting their 30s.

 

[AverageFC]

i bet she was fukking another guy and you freaked them out during sex.

Drink all the wine, now.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Never go to a womans house unannounced.

Never celebrate Valentine's Day with a woman unless you're seeing her exclusively.

 

[Albion4]

Man, you did absolutly NOTHING wrong. I know tons of women would would be so flattered by something like that. I would have probably left the rose and bottle on her doorstep with a note that said, "Sorry to bother you. Catch ya later" You actually played it right in telling her that she missed out. Now don't make the mistake of giving in to her when she calls in a few days apologizing. To be quite honest I would refuse to take her calls at all from this point on.

-Al

 

[rsxy]

I agree that doing big super romantic things on v-day is not always the best bet. My strategy this year, with a girl that Ive been out with about 5 times was a little different. Her and I were talking a few days before v-day and I said that I didnt get all the hype about v-day and such. She agreed and said that she didnt really like doing a big v-day thing. Plus she had to study for a midterm.

So long story short, I made it seem like I didnt do the v-day thing at all. Then I whent by her place on my way to night class and dropped off a box of chocolates as a surprise. She gave me a huge hug / kiss and I was out of there in about 5 minutes to my night class.

So the after effects is her telling me that all of her friends are jeleous and that it made her really happy.


So...... lesson learned...... if you lead them to believe that you wont do anything at all, then a little surprise gesture goes a long way.

Really not sure if that helps at all for next year. Might be worth a shot.

 

[stalluproar]

Originally posted by Albion4
Man, you did absolutly NOTHING wrong. I know tons of women would would be so flattered by something like that. I would have probably left the rose and bottle on her doorstep with a note that said, "Sorry to bother you. Catch ya later" You actually played it right in telling her that she missed out. Now don't make the mistake of giving in to her when she calls in a few days apologizing. To be quite honest I would refuse to take her calls at all from this point on.

-Al

Are you kidding me? That is probably the number 3 worst AFC thing you can do (number 2 is stalking and number 1 is putting a $17,000 ad in the paper apologizing). Go over unannounced. Then add the elements of being on V-Day and late at night. She flaked on you in the past and you still go over at the oddest hour unannounced and want to make her special to "prove" yourself to her. Remember the cues, learn from your mistakes, and move on. I don't think a girl would ever feel special from a guy who she flakes on for coming over late on valentines day to prove himself.

 

[A&F Brand Cologne]

Originally posted by Dapper Swindler
I once went on a date with a girl and she got very sick and had to go to the hospital. I stayed with her at the hospital until 4:00 a.m. The next morning I was outside her dorm room at dawn without any sleep with flowers and a "get well soon" balloon. I waited all day for her to wake up and find me outside. Was she happy to see the effort I had made to show I care?

this story was actually fine until the balloon part.