My "Subway Date"

[Romad]

I'm 19 years old, in the military, living on base. (That's sort of relevant because this girl works on base as a civilian contractor.) So I was standing in line at Subway one day when I noticed an attractive girl behind me in line, but I was with my friends and not planning on getting any food so I said "you can go ahead of me" to which she responds with something irrelevant and we begin to talk and flirt a little bit. She was kind of shy and it was mostly just me being goofy to her and making her laugh. So after I left I didn't really give much thought to it (although I was hoping to see her again because she was fun to talk to) until a few weeks later when I saw her again in line at Subway. I struck up another conversation and she, upon recognizing me, excitedly referred to me as "her subway date", gave me her name, asked for mine, told me about where she works, among other idle conversation.

I end up feeling the need to rush to get her number because it's not very often that I end up seeing her around.

My question is, if I see her again, around base or in line at Subway, where do I go from here? Try to get her number? Play hard to get?

 

[pinhas]

You should have got her number the second time you saw her; next time go for the number, and maybe an instant date of time permits.

 

[Bible_Belt]

When I was 19, I would have done nothing different than you and been asking the same questions. But knowing what I know now, and please re-read the first sentence before you take offense, let me tell you that you suck with girls. Forget everything you think you know, because it is not much.

What really happened is that she asked you to fvck her the first time you met about as directly as a woman ever will. Women are just as horny as men, but you have to navigate through the emotional rituals to get them there. The second time, she begged you to do her...and you didn't even get her number. The extent of her forwardness toward you tells me she is probably a bit socially awkward and not exactly a seducer of men, "shy" as you say. I bet she has a giant vibrator, and falling in romance-novel love with you is her favorite fantasy. But if she's on a base, it's not like she has a lack of guys to fall into delusional lust over. Buying temperature is transferable, so strike while the iron is still hot.

Regarding women in general, if a new girl will even joke around and talk to you, then she is at least thinking about having sex with you. If she'll spend time alone with you, then she wants to have sex with you. But what they think are obvious cues are lost on most men. The sales term is "assume the sale" and especially with awkward young girls who are not any better with men than you are with women, it is the difference between success and failure.

 

[Romad]

Thanks for the input. Also, I realize that I should have gotten her number the second- or first- time we met up, but there were like 6 people in line between us that were watching us talk and I could sense that it was a bit odd. Still regrettable, but hopefully I'll get another chance.

 

[Romad]

Now the question is, next time I see her, how am I going to approach the situation?

 

[Razor Sharp]

Next time you just need to do what you always do. Make some small talk, get her giggling and then do the one thing you have failed to do since the beginning: TAKE A F*CKING CHANCE!

I mean seriously dude - you are a trained soldier? You mean to tell me you can stare certain death in the eye, and possibly kill a man 50 ways with your bare hands, but can't handle the potential rejection from a girl you've only seen twice in your life?

Put things in perspective man. The worst that can happen is she says "no". OMG, mayday!! Every man for himself!!!

This is cut and dry game my friend. No need for wannabe pickup lines or DJ speak - she already digs you so go direct. As soon as you see she is giving you all those same buying signals and right before you are about to cut things off and go your own way, just say "Hey I'd really like to see you again" get the digits or close a date right there.

Seriously, that's it!

And drill this into your head bro.. she is an unarmed GIRL, nothing to be afraid of! You are like a bear with big claws and fangs, she's this little terrified bunny... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oUa2atNxhfg

 

[Iceberg]

Bible Belt pretty much nailed it. Including the part where he said you're as bad at this as the typical 19 year old.

Two shots at a random girl is more than most guys will get. At some point you should have brought the conversation to your social lives. Then you'd say, "You ever been to bar/show/park/restaurant? No? You'd like it. What's your number? We should go there."

Don't be hard on yourself. It's a learning process. But if you like her, and she was finding reasons to talk to her, then you could have gotten that number on the first shot. Especially since its a random girl who you might not encounter regularly. If it was a classmate or neighbor, you could count on a 3rd encounter. Not with this one. And if you DO get it, you'll probably have put so much pressure on yourself....