saltynipple
Don Juan
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Here is a story and I only hope you can learn from my stupidity..
I'm 38 years old. I've had success enough with women that I couldn't tell you how many I slept with. I'm sure over 100.. But honestly I have no idea. I am also a relationship guy. I've been in 3 long ones in my life and have been married twice. I have the disease thats known as oneitis. They disease has only reared its head 3 times in my life and the experience had those 3 times were miserable.
I am recently divorced. I was with this girl for 5 years. After all my time on this earth I was convinced she was "The One". We had everything in common. She liked everything I did and to be honest I had a healthy, happy relationship with her. So I thought. About 6 months ago she cheated on me, twice. I didn't find out till 4 months ago when she walked out the door to go live with one of these men. I was devastated. Oneitis and me like a child having his favorite toy taken from him. The man she left me for is 48 years old, she is 31, and he has success way beyond my own. Nonetheless.. I was angry about it and I did things that I shouldn't. Mostly trying to convince this other man that she was a worthless human and trying to destroy the other mans marriage. It only resulted in her filing an EPO against me and succeeding to make me look like the psycho I was certainly acting like. So, 3 weeks ago in court, for our divorce I was finally feeling healed and glad to have it over. I hadn't seen her or spoke to her in 2 months. While waiting our turn she starts to cry uncontrollably. Finally I look at her and tell her its ok. She then starts to repeat for quite a few minutes, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry"... She asked if she could talk to me when we left and I said no. When I left she ended up following me and telling me how sorry she was. That she was wrong and hated herself. That she wasn't happy and she couldn't get over me. That she thought about me every day and even though she got an EPO had been stalking me, online and physically. I told her I was happy, my life was great and that I was sorry she was miserable but she was reaping what she sowed. That night she texted me and wanted her to meet her for lunch the next day. Keep in mind I still have an EPO. I said no. Didn't hear from her that weekend. The following monday and for the next two weeks she slowly worked her way back into my life. Mostly convincing me of her love for me and convincing me I was the one and she wanted another chance. She dropped the EPO, admitted to friends and family that she lied to get it, etc.. etc.. Wednesday of this week she asked me out for a drink after work. We had been talking a lot that day and I told her I forgave her. We met, had a few drinks, talked some more again her only doing more to convince me of her desire to have me. We made out in the parking lot and we both got in our cars and went our separate ways. She called me immediately and said she didn't want to go back to "his" house she wanted to follow me and I told her if she didn't want to be with him she needed to talk to him not avoid him and let her go. She called when she was a mile away from her house and we talked for another hour. Ultimately I told her she could stay with me. She got to my house around 7pm and we stayed up talking and having sex till 2am. The next day, yesterday, we both called into work and spent the day together. Talking about us and how we can make things work and how she missed me so bad and should have never left, blah blah. She had been openly dreading calling the other man all day but wanted to go get some of her clothes and arrange to get her furniture. After she finally called him she got off the phone and said more reassuring things. That she had to hurry and she'd be back with wine and we spend the night watching a movie. I felt wary, she assured me more and off she went. After being gone for 5 hours I started to get worried, not only for myself but thinking hopefully this guy didn't do something to hurt her. AFter going against my better judgement I finally texted her and asked if she was ok. Her response was this:
I'm sorry! Please! I can't come back.
Here I was, right back were I started in this mess. And I did it completely to myself for having oneitis for a girl that doesn't deserve me. Do not fall victim to oneitis. Do not let someone into your heart to easily and if they do fail to prove themselves or to be a good human being, never share the same breath with them again. Ever! I blame her of course, but the real blame resides inside myself and the ignorance I have even after 38 years.
I'm 38 years old. I've had success enough with women that I couldn't tell you how many I slept with. I'm sure over 100.. But honestly I have no idea. I am also a relationship guy. I've been in 3 long ones in my life and have been married twice. I have the disease thats known as oneitis. They disease has only reared its head 3 times in my life and the experience had those 3 times were miserable.
I am recently divorced. I was with this girl for 5 years. After all my time on this earth I was convinced she was "The One". We had everything in common. She liked everything I did and to be honest I had a healthy, happy relationship with her. So I thought. About 6 months ago she cheated on me, twice. I didn't find out till 4 months ago when she walked out the door to go live with one of these men. I was devastated. Oneitis and me like a child having his favorite toy taken from him. The man she left me for is 48 years old, she is 31, and he has success way beyond my own. Nonetheless.. I was angry about it and I did things that I shouldn't. Mostly trying to convince this other man that she was a worthless human and trying to destroy the other mans marriage. It only resulted in her filing an EPO against me and succeeding to make me look like the psycho I was certainly acting like. So, 3 weeks ago in court, for our divorce I was finally feeling healed and glad to have it over. I hadn't seen her or spoke to her in 2 months. While waiting our turn she starts to cry uncontrollably. Finally I look at her and tell her its ok. She then starts to repeat for quite a few minutes, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry"... She asked if she could talk to me when we left and I said no. When I left she ended up following me and telling me how sorry she was. That she was wrong and hated herself. That she wasn't happy and she couldn't get over me. That she thought about me every day and even though she got an EPO had been stalking me, online and physically. I told her I was happy, my life was great and that I was sorry she was miserable but she was reaping what she sowed. That night she texted me and wanted her to meet her for lunch the next day. Keep in mind I still have an EPO. I said no. Didn't hear from her that weekend. The following monday and for the next two weeks she slowly worked her way back into my life. Mostly convincing me of her love for me and convincing me I was the one and she wanted another chance. She dropped the EPO, admitted to friends and family that she lied to get it, etc.. etc.. Wednesday of this week she asked me out for a drink after work. We had been talking a lot that day and I told her I forgave her. We met, had a few drinks, talked some more again her only doing more to convince me of her desire to have me. We made out in the parking lot and we both got in our cars and went our separate ways. She called me immediately and said she didn't want to go back to "his" house she wanted to follow me and I told her if she didn't want to be with him she needed to talk to him not avoid him and let her go. She called when she was a mile away from her house and we talked for another hour. Ultimately I told her she could stay with me. She got to my house around 7pm and we stayed up talking and having sex till 2am. The next day, yesterday, we both called into work and spent the day together. Talking about us and how we can make things work and how she missed me so bad and should have never left, blah blah. She had been openly dreading calling the other man all day but wanted to go get some of her clothes and arrange to get her furniture. After she finally called him she got off the phone and said more reassuring things. That she had to hurry and she'd be back with wine and we spend the night watching a movie. I felt wary, she assured me more and off she went. After being gone for 5 hours I started to get worried, not only for myself but thinking hopefully this guy didn't do something to hurt her. AFter going against my better judgement I finally texted her and asked if she was ok. Her response was this:
I'm sorry! Please! I can't come back.
Here I was, right back were I started in this mess. And I did it completely to myself for having oneitis for a girl that doesn't deserve me. Do not fall victim to oneitis. Do not let someone into your heart to easily and if they do fail to prove themselves or to be a good human being, never share the same breath with them again. Ever! I blame her of course, but the real blame resides inside myself and the ignorance I have even after 38 years.
