curiouscat
Don Juan
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Hello,
The last two weeks I have tried to approach regularly (approach anxiety is a big problem to me as I am quite shy). So far, my progress has been marginal out of the six girls I have approached so far :
- One girl actually gave me her number
- One girl said she would rather give me her facebook (I said I didn’t have facebook and moved on, If she doesn’t even trust me with her phone number what’s the point ?)
- One girl said she couldn’t give me her number because she didn’t remember it (how convenient) but that I should give her my number so that we could have a drink some time. I gave it to her but I don’t expect much on this one either.
With the other girls I approached, I have noticed that my main sticking point was the long silences after the openers I usually came up with on the spot. With those girls I usually made s situational observation but they didn’t give me anything to work with besides a nervous (annoyed?) smile and then nothing…
I think they didn’t take my bait because they weren’t interested but that is not what is bothering me here, at this stage I expect mostly rejection but I am focused on learning as much as I can. I also believe that this lack of feedback can also be perceived as a kind of “test” a way to filter out interesting people. The problem is that at this stage, the only way I can really sustain a conversation is if the other person gives me material to work with and I don’t really know what to do with those silences.
Another thing that is annoying me is the amount of girls walking around with earphones on, I don’t know how to approach them without appearing rude, am I overthinking It ?
I have only tried day game so far, I would like to try bars and clubs but the problem is that I’m new in the city I live in and I don’t know anybody so going to a bar or a club alone seems not only extremely boring but also pointless, I don’t want to be this guy by himself staring at everybody. I know the best thing to do in this context is to just talk to as many people as possible but again I am very shy and I am the type of person who always finds something interesting to say… an hour later when it’s too late.
I have also tried to be generally positive, smile more to people etc… but most people suck ! I mean I see so many sad faces, people who only reply to your smile with a dead stare or complete indifference etc… I mean being surrounded by so much negativity really makes being positive much harder !
Thanks
The last two weeks I have tried to approach regularly (approach anxiety is a big problem to me as I am quite shy). So far, my progress has been marginal out of the six girls I have approached so far :
- One girl actually gave me her number
- One girl said she would rather give me her facebook (I said I didn’t have facebook and moved on, If she doesn’t even trust me with her phone number what’s the point ?)
- One girl said she couldn’t give me her number because she didn’t remember it (how convenient) but that I should give her my number so that we could have a drink some time. I gave it to her but I don’t expect much on this one either.
With the other girls I approached, I have noticed that my main sticking point was the long silences after the openers I usually came up with on the spot. With those girls I usually made s situational observation but they didn’t give me anything to work with besides a nervous (annoyed?) smile and then nothing…
I think they didn’t take my bait because they weren’t interested but that is not what is bothering me here, at this stage I expect mostly rejection but I am focused on learning as much as I can. I also believe that this lack of feedback can also be perceived as a kind of “test” a way to filter out interesting people. The problem is that at this stage, the only way I can really sustain a conversation is if the other person gives me material to work with and I don’t really know what to do with those silences.
Another thing that is annoying me is the amount of girls walking around with earphones on, I don’t know how to approach them without appearing rude, am I overthinking It ?
I have only tried day game so far, I would like to try bars and clubs but the problem is that I’m new in the city I live in and I don’t know anybody so going to a bar or a club alone seems not only extremely boring but also pointless, I don’t want to be this guy by himself staring at everybody. I know the best thing to do in this context is to just talk to as many people as possible but again I am very shy and I am the type of person who always finds something interesting to say… an hour later when it’s too late.
I have also tried to be generally positive, smile more to people etc… but most people suck ! I mean I see so many sad faces, people who only reply to your smile with a dead stare or complete indifference etc… I mean being surrounded by so much negativity really makes being positive much harder !
Thanks