My SS Xperience!

[HuuBinh]

I have to say that I found SS to be amazing. I have been using it recently and it worked quite well. I've successfuly established a connection with 7/10 girls that I used patterns on lately. I am only a beginner at SS so my initial goal was just to get that instant connection with the girls and get them interested. I haven't anchored, any of them yet. I read and learned a lot from Ross's materials and basically SS is like a process you go through in order to get the results that you want.

What I did was: 1) approach, 2) fluff talk, 3) use #2 and lead (time distortion) into a pattern that creates a connection.
Here's one of my experiences of establishing an instant connection with a girl that I PU at my school's library:

She was sitting in front of the Universitys library reading a book intently.

1) approach

ME: Excuse me, i apologize for interrupting you, I couldn't help but notice the bracelet that your wearing. My sister's birthday is coming up and she said that she wants to a bracelet that looks similar to yours.

2) fluff talk

HER: realli?
ME: yeah, and i was wondering where you got it from?
HER: i didn't buy it, i got it for christmas from my dad.
ME: oh, thats nice, and what did you give him in return?
HER: nothing,except a hug and a thank you!
ME: your such a bad daughter, but if you could get him something wat would it be?
HER: i don't realli know, i haven't thought about it.

3) lead

ME: i guess its bc you know him so well, thats somehow its difficult for you to realli pick out something that realli convey the meaning that you realli love and care about your dad.
HER: yeah
ME: for me somehow not only with my dad but with certain people that i meet i get a sense that the person realli understands me eventhough we've only met for a few minutes. Does that ever happen to you before?
HER: well, yeah

[the pattern]

ME: Even though i don't know much about you, but i am wondering HAVE YOU EVER met someone and instantly you feel attracted to that person? Its like a spark of chemistry or a really special connection that somehow unfolds and it really makes you seem to be closer. TO ME.... Its a feeling that cannot be explained but can only be felt. And somehow that connection makes you see that person in a whole different way. Its like you notice every detail about his actions and gestures like the air that he's breathing, the falling and rising of his chest, and curvature of his face and his voice that somehow embrace you DEEPLY INSIDE. The look of from his eyes through yours captures you completely and you feel totally at ease and connected....(pause) WITH ME sometimes this process happens instantly.

There you go, i should have grabbed her wrist and say [do you feel that.....(pause) would be a wonder experience to have?] to anchor it. I hope you guys like this patter that i made up with some variations to Ross's intant connection patterns.

"Love is only an illusion created by Sex."

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

IMO, it was fine till that last part..then it turned gay.

If that is what SS teaches you to do....get you to ask the girl if she "feels it" and "have you ever had that feeling"...BS..then ill pass.

 

[Rev]

Originally posted by SLIKKER_THAN_AVG
IMO, it was fine till that last part..then it turned gay.

If that is what SS teaches you to do....get you to ask the girl if she "feels it" and "have you ever had that feeling"...BS..then ill pass.

Actually, that is a line that RJ stresses over and over again to say word for word. And you're not asking her if she "feel's it", you're asking her if she "feel's that would feel that would be a wonderful experience, at least on the surface. You're giving her a command to feel it and anchoring it as it happens. I don't think I've used this line yet (I will very soon) but that is the theory behind it.

 

[HuuBinh]

thanks for all the comments. I will improve a lot more at this hopefully. I'd love to know you guys experiences with SS.

 

[Ricky]

I thought it was golden how you initiated and transitioned into the pattern.

Good work! What was the result with this girl?

 

[Vronski]

I just hope you mirrored her and established rapport. I usually wait a bit longer to start talking about feelings and connections bc it may sound corny @ the beginning.

good job. Underline the embedded commands and count how many you used. think about what you could've said differently.

Cheers

 

[whoami]

[sarcasm]
are the guys who don't use patterns totally stupid??... or they just like to act?...
i mean they don't hav any idea that they use Patterns in day to day life n deals with day to day issues without even recoganizing that they r patterning and still they want a warranty for patterns in seduction??
i m myself a NLP practitioner i hav used patterns, hav used patterns to cure bad habbits/phobias and sometimes just to get the ball rolling with girls...
wat u want? u want richard bandler or Tad james comes to ur place n tell u that it works?...
[/sarcasm]
look it's almost like "My kungfu style is better than ur's" or My daddy is stronger than urs... i'll say it's not easy but it's not difficult too... do u think u can get +ve alpha body language out of nowhere when u wanted to look alpha in front of girls ... i guess the answer is no.. u hav to work it out...
same goes for this mate...
WhoAmI

 

[oreo_renegade]

hmmm

Is it just me or did spelling dramatically decrease since I was last here?

hehe, on a serious note, Nice job.

beautiful transition, however the pattern could have been a bit more fancy.

I guess its pretty good for somehting you just made up, off the top of your head.


Next time however, if it was me, I would spend more time on creating the feelings for her. Create a better feeling of that STRONG CONNECTION, and unquestionable understanding.

The "deep inside" was a bit sexual, and you want to stay away from that in the beginning. (she might get scared of her own feelings!)

You want to eliminate all doubts, fears, concerns one might have. Also, im not sure, but the way you typed (heh, maybe its the way I read?) you seemed foreign.

I dont know, maybe its just me, but it the pattern just didnt read smoothly.

The important thing is how you said it And Im sure you were excellent.

 

[HuuBinh]

I would spend more time on creating the feelings for her. Create a better feeling of that STRONG CONNECTION, and unquestionable understanding.

what do u mean by that, and how do u create that feeling? you were right, its kinda difficult right now for me to think up patterns as the conversation progresses so sometimes it doesn't realli flow, but i found that it doesn't realli matter much bc once the girl feels what your saying in the initial stage of the pattern, the rest doesn't have to be perfect. btw i am a foreign guy, good observeration.

 

[oreo_renegade]

Safety/Connection/blah blah pattern

Ok, im going to make up a pattern right now, i want to accomplish a feeling of safety and conection.


1intro
2flufftalk
3 pattern,

See, I think your a lot like my friend Karen, and what she says is that when she sees someone whos really interesting, she starts to notice things.

First she takes notice of herself, like for instance she becomes aware of her breathing, she can feel it get faster, and more shallow. She starts to realize that her heart is beating a little faster, and she slowly becomes aware of her toes in her shoes, her fingers curved around her purse, and every little aspect of her body.

Then, she realizes that she's found something remarkabe about this guy she met. She finds one aspect of his face that she just cant look away from.

She lets his dark rich voice just wrap around herself, like a warm blanket. A slight tingeling sensation starts "right there" *reach out and slightly touch her suplex*, and its almost like there is a ray of light from him *point to selfs suplex* to her *point to her suplex*.


**optional transition to more sexual stuff**
Then, this ray of light seems to grow in intensity, its gets broader and wider, soon enough its engulfed both of them, and there is a big golden bubble of light around them. Its as if she only notices the things inside... (inside what? the bubble? hahahahaha)

and that small tingeling sensation has begun to grow yada yada yada you see where im headed with this?



I know its not a gret pattern, but its late, im tired, and what the hell, say it right, and itll do

PS- you prolly know this, but to anyone who doesnt, "point" isnt literally pointing with your finger! lol, its subtle movement to direct her awareness around.

 

[HuuBinh]

i see your point oreo, i usually don't have a problem creating those states, but what i sometime have a hard time doing is transition it from feelings of connection & safety to something else thats not yet sexual u know? i usually ask a question or two about what she finds attractive from the opposite sex, and use those to make up more patterns. but i would appreciate more ideas. Do u have a problem delivering patterns on the fly and maintaining eye contact at the same time? I find it difficult, cuz its like your concentrating on two totally different things at once. thanks for all your help, and btw, good pattern.