Infinity
Don Juan
So, I have been home for winter break from college for the past few weeks or so and I'm doing my best to pass the time. Basically, instead of hanging around the house, I travel around my area, going to malls and bookstores like it's my job. I have some friends I could hang out with around here, but I just don't really feel like it and it's not like I have that many friends either. The scary thing here is that I actually like this life of cruising around to bookstores and malls. I think my year of hanging around this forum and reading about cold approaches has made me want to spend my time like this. Those are the best two non-pickup approach situations in my opinion so I go to those places. The problem is I never freaking approach.
I have made a lot of social progress, which is good. I am very congenial and friendly to all the people I interact with and I have developed a nice sense of fashion and get looks from a lot of girls (I also have good looks and I am tall). But, the bottom line is I don't freaking approach...not that there are many opportunities anyways.
I don't completely waste my day, though, as I also read a lot of books, buy and try nice clothes, and enjoy good coffee. However, I'd be kidding myself if I didn't admit that approaching girls was my main goal each day until I go back to school. So, I fail to achieve my goal just about every day. Since I've come to this site I can count my cold approaches in non-pickup situations on one hand. I want to become a master of the cold approach because I don't want my job/activities/friends/school/etc to determine the fate of who I meet in life. I want to spontaneously meet new people.
I've become obsessed with self help books. Today I finished reading Six Pillars of Self Esteem and started reading a book on small talk. I also enjoyed a nice white chocolate mocha. That's all good and all, but how can I get myself to approach girls?!?
I know the situation will never be perfect, but I can't ever figure out how to begin the approach. Here, I'll discuss my day and any girls I can remember noticing. Yes, I actualy went to 3 bookstores and a mall today, lol.
Bookstore 1: I go in and look over to the cafe to see if any hotties are looking, but neither girl there interests me so I decide I'll wait to get coffee later on in the day. I start browsing the books and can't seem to find the section I'm looking for. I spend some time there, but no hotties in sight so I leave.
I then went to two sporting goods stores for some stuff I was looking for, but I couldn't find it and didn't see any hotties either other than some chicks that worked there and the guys there obviously staked those girls as their territory. Sporting goods stores are not good pickup spots at all.
Bookstore 2: So, I go in and find the book I want to read on self-esteem and so then I decide I'll be there for a while so I go get a coffee and find a nice comfy chair. I spend about an hour there reading the book and notice a couple hotties. While I was sitting there, about 2 or 3 good looking girls happened to pass by my area. Another chick who I wasn't attracted to and was probably only a 5 sat down at the comfy chair next to me. Now, I didn't know how to approach any of the hotties? WTF do I do? See a hot girl, put down my book, and go into predator mode? Doesn't add up to me...Also, when I left I happened to notice the hottest chick I had seen all day walking into the bookstore while I was leaving in my car, dammit.
Mall: I went to some stores checking out clothes, but bought nothing today because I already blew enough money lately. Anyways, there were some hot chicks here, but the problem is I always see them when I'm walking past them. We're going in opposite directions so what am I gonna do, stop them?? I don't know how to work this. I do catch a lot of nice looking chicks checking me out, but I can't seem to proceed from there. The mall was like freaking empty today, though, so I didn't hang out long.
Bookstore 3: So, I roll up to another bookstore (Borders, not B&N this time). I go in and browse around and find a book on small talk and find a nice chair and sit down and start reading. Some chick who is like a 5 or 6, but I don't find attractive sits down at this chair directly facing me so I figure she wants to talk, but I wasn't interested. I notice one hot girl in particular as she comes in and I watch where she goes. In about 10 minutes, I get up and go to try and find her (doubt I would have said anything), but she must have left.
So, that's my day. I have no job, no obligations, nothing. I just hope to approach girls all day and completely fail. I do get the benefits of self improvement through quality books, but dammit I want more!
I have made a lot of social progress, which is good. I am very congenial and friendly to all the people I interact with and I have developed a nice sense of fashion and get looks from a lot of girls (I also have good looks and I am tall). But, the bottom line is I don't freaking approach...not that there are many opportunities anyways.
I don't completely waste my day, though, as I also read a lot of books, buy and try nice clothes, and enjoy good coffee. However, I'd be kidding myself if I didn't admit that approaching girls was my main goal each day until I go back to school. So, I fail to achieve my goal just about every day. Since I've come to this site I can count my cold approaches in non-pickup situations on one hand. I want to become a master of the cold approach because I don't want my job/activities/friends/school/etc to determine the fate of who I meet in life. I want to spontaneously meet new people.
I've become obsessed with self help books. Today I finished reading Six Pillars of Self Esteem and started reading a book on small talk. I also enjoyed a nice white chocolate mocha. That's all good and all, but how can I get myself to approach girls?!?
I know the situation will never be perfect, but I can't ever figure out how to begin the approach. Here, I'll discuss my day and any girls I can remember noticing. Yes, I actualy went to 3 bookstores and a mall today, lol.
Bookstore 1: I go in and look over to the cafe to see if any hotties are looking, but neither girl there interests me so I decide I'll wait to get coffee later on in the day. I start browsing the books and can't seem to find the section I'm looking for. I spend some time there, but no hotties in sight so I leave.
I then went to two sporting goods stores for some stuff I was looking for, but I couldn't find it and didn't see any hotties either other than some chicks that worked there and the guys there obviously staked those girls as their territory. Sporting goods stores are not good pickup spots at all.
Bookstore 2: So, I go in and find the book I want to read on self-esteem and so then I decide I'll be there for a while so I go get a coffee and find a nice comfy chair. I spend about an hour there reading the book and notice a couple hotties. While I was sitting there, about 2 or 3 good looking girls happened to pass by my area. Another chick who I wasn't attracted to and was probably only a 5 sat down at the comfy chair next to me. Now, I didn't know how to approach any of the hotties? WTF do I do? See a hot girl, put down my book, and go into predator mode? Doesn't add up to me...Also, when I left I happened to notice the hottest chick I had seen all day walking into the bookstore while I was leaving in my car, dammit.
Mall: I went to some stores checking out clothes, but bought nothing today because I already blew enough money lately. Anyways, there were some hot chicks here, but the problem is I always see them when I'm walking past them. We're going in opposite directions so what am I gonna do, stop them?? I don't know how to work this. I do catch a lot of nice looking chicks checking me out, but I can't seem to proceed from there. The mall was like freaking empty today, though, so I didn't hang out long.
Bookstore 3: So, I roll up to another bookstore (Borders, not B&N this time). I go in and browse around and find a book on small talk and find a nice chair and sit down and start reading. Some chick who is like a 5 or 6, but I don't find attractive sits down at this chair directly facing me so I figure she wants to talk, but I wasn't interested. I notice one hot girl in particular as she comes in and I watch where she goes. In about 10 minutes, I get up and go to try and find her (doubt I would have said anything), but she must have left.
So, that's my day. I have no job, no obligations, nothing. I just hope to approach girls all day and completely fail. I do get the benefits of self improvement through quality books, but dammit I want more!