my sister was touched.

johnny_depp

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If I have a sister that claims she was touched at the age of 3 by a 15 year old what can I do?

Well from what she remembers the guy was a 15 yr old babysitter. she is now eight so that makes the guy to be 20. from what she said it sounds like all he did was dry hump her.

It makes me sad what can I do?
 

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Kick your parent's ass for letting a 15 year old (horny) male keep your 3 year old sister? Do they not get beavis and butthead where you live? If i wanted to pick the worst age/gender combo to keep a 3 year old girl, i'd definitely go 15 year old male.

As for your sister, deduce whether you think she's mentally damaged from it. If so, she'll probably need counselling. As for the (formally) 15 year old kid, it probably isn't worth the fight.
 

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I live in colorado. and the guy supposibly lives an hour away.

also do I just leave that guy alone? cause really there is no proof.
 

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right, cause its very hard to prove and the process for doing that would require interviews with your sister which would hurt the healing process.
Just focus on her needs.
 

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azanon said:
right, cause its very hard to prove and the process for doing that would require interviews with your sister which would hurt the healing process.
Just focus on her needs.

Thanks man, you really have helped me out.:)
 

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Another thing:

Your sister can remember being 3 years old!?


You've got to realize, "memories of abuse" as a toddler are very, very shady. The mind can play tricks.

Well from what she remembers the guy was a 15 yr old babysitter.
And do your parents remember hiring a 15 year old babysitter? It is quite possible that this guy never existed!!!
 

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I have memories from when i was three. So don't discount that.

If you can trace the kid's whereabouts, maybe yo should do something. Cuz 15 is too old to be "experimental" like some children are. That sounds like a predator in the making.
 

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I would do something about it. Use the law. She is only 8 years old, unless she had a messed up upbringing, she is way too young to be making this stuff up or seeking revenge or something.

Even if you don't win, his reputation will be ruined beyond repair. He will be in all the newspapers either way.

Also on the analysis of memories before I had fully coherent memories (when I was 4). I did have some memories, but for some of them, I can't tell if they were dreams or real. I know some of them were dreams because they were ridiculous (monsters, ect). However, I would never have a dream of something sexual because I had no idea about anything close to that stuff when I was that young.

Maybe my advice is not whats best for your sister. I do not have a sister so I can't tell. Maybe its best to focus on her current needs and maybe using the law would be a painful process. If you decide to go that route, I would still go and confront that 20 year old in secret (without your sister knowing). Strike fear into him, tell him you know what he did and you are the most furious you've ever been (and will be) in your entire life. Don't debate with him, if he tries to prove you wrong, tell him you're not interested in what he has to say and walk away. Trust me, even if the incident is never brought up to him again, that sort of confrontation will mess him up to some degree. He thought no one will ever know and its the perfect crime.

Maybe even make some threats, even if you don't intend to carry them out. Like if you ever find him babysitting again, you will take it to the law. Let him know that even if he is found innocent, his reputation will be damaged beyond repair. In most cases where a sexual abuser is found innocent, the newspapers don't report on the innocence part, just the accusations.
 

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spesmilitis said:
If you decide to go that route, I would still go and confront that 20 year old in secret (without your sister knowing).
5 year old secret. :rolleyes:
 
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you need to have your sister talk to the appropriate people before this manifests itself into a bigger problem.
 

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"Even if you don't win, his reputation will be ruined beyond repair. He will be in all the newspapers either way."

Why would you do that without enough proof. Not saying your sister is lying but you don't really know. She was 3 years old. It's over forget about it. Like someone said it will hurt the healing process if you interview her more about it. In my opinion he probably did do it but theres no way of you knowing. If anything you should just talk to him and tell him if he ever comes near her again you will contact police.
 
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