My response to a rejection?

[Sensible]

So there's this chick at the University. She's been sending me messages over facebook and at school sometimes coming to speak to me. We also had some conversation over facebook and and school aswell. She seemed interested. Most of the time I let her initiate the contact. I'm assuming that I played well.
Long story short, I asked her out today over text.
She responded "Yes if you like but right now I can't because I do not have the time.". This is a rejection indeed. In order to leave an open door for future, I said "sure let me know when you are available.Good evening."
Is that alright?

 

[clicheusername20]

do not have the time = do not have the time FOR YOU

I probably wouldn't have even replied because by telling her "let me know when YOU are available," you've become too available yourself. this essentially tells her that you're available whenever, don't have a busy and exciting life, you're not spinning plates, and you're sitting by the phone waiting for her to contact you.

No one is so busy that upon being asked out they can't make a counter offer with a concrete time sometime in the near future if they are truly interested

 

[Sensible]

Thank you for your answer. That makes sense.
So how bad is it what I've done? Did I totally blew it?

 

[clicheusername20]

Not necessarily. From your post it seems like you asked her out in a weak way. Give it a week without contacting her and try again. This time, have a specific date with a time and place in mind and ask her straight up. It doesn't matter what you have in mind, but anything is better than asking her with no real plan. If she gives a flaky response or says she's too busy, NEXT

 

[Sensible]

Thanks again. Sorry, one last question:
With the answer that I've given to the rejection; do I look like a totally weak and desperate guy? :/

Actually I'm planning to not contact her again ever until she reaches out.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

you should have given her some notice, with a specific time and place. (she said yes too!)

I think its better to tell her to let you know when she's is available, rather than to keep asking with the possibility of being turned down two or three times!

How you come across is all in the follow through at this point, you asked once, told her to get back to you and will leave it at that.

No, you don't and won't look weak and desperate.

 

[Sensible]

This is the way that I asked:
"I would love to see you. When are you free? I can come over there(she lives in 40 min distance) or you can come here as well.". I guess I asked the right way. And in the answer she actually exactly said: "yes but for the moment i cannot, I don't have time". I can't really read what she meant.
Is it also possible that she thought that I meant to meet tonight? But even so, there's no counter offer.

 

[El Suave]

"What day after school do you want to hang out/have coffee?"

Isn't it easier to meet after school then you drive to her or her to you?

 

[Bingo-Player]

. In order to leave an open door for future, I said "sure let me know when you are available.Good evening."
Is that alright?

to a woman this translates as - " hey thanks for politely declining my offer to date .....but I'm a desperate looser so I'm gonna offer you my balls on a silver platter just incase you didn't humiliate me enough the first time"

don't ever tell a woman to "let you know anything"

she declined , her loss , a hundred million more chicks out there for you to practice on NEXT

 

[Trump]

This is the way that I asked:
"I would love to see you. When are you free? I can come over there(she lives in 40 min distance) or you can come here as well.".

See her to do what bro? You should have an something planned and ask if wants to join. Coffee/Movie/Cook dinner/ You should also have a certain day picked.

Also, in the same sentence you asked her when she is free, and already said I can come over. You didn't even give her a chance to answer when she is free and then texted like she already answered. It's presumptuous.

the answer she actually exactly said: "yes but for the moment i cannot, I don't have time". I can't really read what she meant.
Is it also possible that she thought that I meant to meet tonight? But even so, there's no counter offer.

See, even you are confused about what you said to her.

And she suckered you in with her response. Now if you want to be with her you have to wait until she has the time, so you can't get a girlfriend until she decides she is ready to have the time.

Texting can be interpreted so many ways.

 

[Roni_88]

I dont think it was a weak way to ask her out. If she digs you she digs you no matter how you say it. the part where you should show confidence is when she gives you a yes to go out you give an exact time and place. And same as the above posters besides giving her your balls with that "let me know" part she will most likely never do it.

 

[nismo-4]

The balls, yours included, are in her court. She has low interest and you care too much. It's a lost cause.

 

[Sensible]

This is someone I come across often at school. How should I act? Should I just ignore her and not even look when I pass by her?

 

[salinechow]

don't ever tell a woman to "let you know anything"

One of the biggest things I changed and one of the most noticeable differences in my game. I tell girls (mostly politely) what they will be doing. Sometimes I tell them what I will be doing and they will meet me.(again mostly politely but firm)

I actually received very positive feedback from women about this. It actually calms their nerves a bit. Changes nervousness into excitement and that is a relief to them. Makes them feel safe and looked after. Obviously demonstrates that they are with a MAN who can handle himself.

The other day I was going to run to the bathroom before leaving a lunch with a HB7.5
Since it was the end, and the check was paid, I figured she would get up and start to leave. Maybe wait outside for me or whatever. I DID NOT want this. I wanted to talk with her for just 2 min more before we left the couch we were on. So anyway, when I got up, I politely told her " Im going to the bathroom quick, I want you to stay right there and wait for me." Preened my coat, smirk, and walk. When I left the bathroom she starred at every step I took till I got back to her.

Later on she told me how sexy it was. Started talking about how it made her think about how she likes that type of thing during sex. Got her thinking about sex. Yada yada.

Another girl is always telling me how much fun it is to hang out with me becasue she never knows what we are doing but she cant wait for me to text her becasue she knows it means fun.

This is how I asked her out 3 months ago.
"Great news HB8. You have plans tonight"
HB8- "o yea. what makes you say that. Where do ou think we are going"
Me-" You let me worry about that. You worry about being ready by 6:30"
HB8 " Well how will I know where to meet you"
Me- " You will text me when your ready and Ill come and pick you up. I have to go here is my #. Ill see you soon."

Texted me 5 min later.

Anytime a girl flakes without a reschedule, I go Radio Silence. If she reaches out again, to chat, Ill talk with her. If not I wait 6-8 weeks and try again. If she was worth it to begin with.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

A girl I have been chatting with (on tinder) recently told me she could not make the day I initially suggested. She gave no counter offer either. Just a bland, "I cant make that day".

I gave her the "no problem - let me know" part and went silent, never intending to contact her again.

Several days to a week later she contacts me, trying to find out when I'm free.

Now, she will play with the options I deal to her.

Guys, power is always in flux, you cant retain it at all times.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

This is someone I come across often at school. How should I act? Should I just ignore her and not even look when I pass by her?

Its no big deal, don't make it one if you run in to her.

Don't chase her, hang back, make yourself scarce.

let her come to you.

 

[Atom Smasher]

One of the biggest things I changed and one of the most noticeable differences in my game. I tell girls (mostly politely) what they will be doing. Sometimes I tell them what I will be doing and they will meet me.(again mostly politely but firm)

I actually received very positive feedback from women about this. It actually calms their nerves a bit. Changes nervousness into excitement and that is a relief to them. Makes them feel safe and looked after. Obviously demonstrates that they are with a MAN who can handle himself.

The other day I was going to run to the bathroom before leaving a lunch with a HB7.5
Since it was the end, and the check was paid, I figured she would get up and start to leave. Maybe wait outside for me or whatever. I DID NOT want this. I wanted to talk with her for just 2 min more before we left the couch we were on. So anyway, when I got up, I politely told her " Im going to the bathroom quick, I want you to stay right there and wait for me." Preened my coat, smirk, and walk. When I left the bathroom she starred at every step I took till I got back to her.

Later on she told me how sexy it was. Started talking about how it made her think about how she likes that type of thing during sex. Got her thinking about sex. Yada yada.

Another girl is always telling me how much fun it is to hang out with me becasue she never knows what we are doing but she cant wait for me to text her becasue she knows it means fun.

This is how I asked her out 3 months ago.
"Great news HB8. You have plans tonight"
HB8- "o yea. what makes you say that. Where do ou think we are going"
Me-" You let me worry about that. You worry about being ready by 6:30"
HB8 " Well how will I know where to meet you"
Me- " You will text me when your ready and Ill come and pick you up. I have to go here is my #. Ill see you soon."

Texted me 5 min later.

Anytime a girl flakes without a reschedule, I go Radio Silence. If she reaches out again, to chat, Ill talk with her. If not I wait 6-8 weeks and try again. If she was worth it to begin with.

Now THAT'S the way to play this game. It reminds me of my own style.

Never "ask" a girl out. Always tell her, or at the very least "I'm going to XYZ on Saturday. Come with me, or, Why don't you come with me". A general hangout is usually going to be rejected unless she's SUPER interested in you. Always have a pre-existing plan and tell her to come with. Always remember they want to submit to your leadership.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

Giving orders does not work all the time,

You have to adapt to the situation..

 

[RedZone]

I wouldn't even say that is a rejection. Maybe she just couldn't hang that day. There could be a million reasons why she can't. Next time just be a little more specific by saying, "we should grab a drink at (local bar) on Tuesday night" or something to that effect.

 

[RangerMIke]

Sounds to me like she thought you were asking her out right at that moment. My interpretation of her text was. "Sure I would like to meet up, but I can't and won't drop what I'm doing." This is why texting is stupid.

Call her have a date plan which includes a time, place, and activity. Make it clear to her that this is a date and all she needs to do is show up and look hot... you will handle the rest.