About 6 months ago I met the most amazing person. She is everything anyone could ever want in a girl.
There was a problem. She had just got out of a 4 year relationship with her ex-boyfriend. I met her about a week after the break up, and we went on a university trip, and that's when we became friends. In the weeks that followed we spent more and more time together, but her ex still called her a lot, and she still had "strong feelings for him". Basically, she was unsure whether or not she wanted to get back with him.
About 3 weeks after we became friends, we kissed. The next day.. she decided we shouldn't do it anymore, saying it would "complicate the situation". In order to make her happy, I agreed. Time went by.. we still spent a lot of time together, but we started kissing again. We started getting closer and closer. Months passed. I confessed my love for her. She said "Thank you." 2 weeks later, she confessed her love for me. However, her ex was still around and she still spent occational time with him.
The entire time this is goin on, me and him are both getting torn apart because of her divided attention. Eventually, I break down and tell her I can't take this anymore, and something has to change. We both agree on this.. and talk about it several times before something actually does change. She told him they were through forever.. but he still had a place in her heart, and that she would always be his friend.
This is the part where I think things are goin to start goin good for me.
Wrong.
She says right after it happens that we shouldn't talk for a while. A day passes, and we are already talking again. We start hanging out again and things are pretty much back to normal, or so it seemed. She was always kind of like this, but much more frequently recently. She flirts with guys a lot in class. She is the most attractive girl in every class we have together, therefore every guy wants her attention. And she is a very outgoing person, and she gives attention.
I am a man of many needs. One of them is attention. Especially from the girl I love. So, she starts to hang out with other guys.. studying. We go on another university trip together, and she is flirting with every guy on the trip. I get easily frustrated when I see this, and when she asks what's wrong, I let her know. She basically said I was being irrational and a spaz. A spaz for being jealous when a girl I love is flirting it up with every guy I know. And some I don't.
Today, I started my new job. So, her and I naturally didn't hang out tonight. So, she calls me around 12 and asks me how things went, I tell her. Then I ask how her night went. She tells me that her neighbor (who has an obvious crush on her) saw her outside and invited her to a movie, and she agreed. I got quiet. She asked what was wrong (she knew what it was), and I told her. I told her that I don't have a desire to go hang out with other girls. She is all I need. She says she thinks we "got too close too fast".. and that she "enjoys spending time with other people than me".
I told her that is all fine and great.. but a movie date? I asked questions like "You love me, but you want to stay single? It doesn't make sense." She agrees that it doesn't, but she "needs to get this out of her system before she starts another relationship".
I asked her if a guy she was hanging out with were to attempt to kiss her, what would she do. She said "I wouldn't want them to, and I wouldn't attempt it.. but I don't know what I would do if one tried." I say "I know what I'd do if a girl tried to kiss me, I'd say 'NO. It's not right.. I'm in love with someone.'.. Simple as that."
That's not the whole story.. I left out somet details, and recent conversation. Basically, she is bent on staying close to me but hanging out with whoever she wants. Pretty much being in a relationship but not being tied down with relationship ropes.
The whole situation is really sucky. I don't know how much longer I can take this.. I feel like I'm being torn apart.
Suggestions?
There was a problem. She had just got out of a 4 year relationship with her ex-boyfriend. I met her about a week after the break up, and we went on a university trip, and that's when we became friends. In the weeks that followed we spent more and more time together, but her ex still called her a lot, and she still had "strong feelings for him". Basically, she was unsure whether or not she wanted to get back with him.
About 3 weeks after we became friends, we kissed. The next day.. she decided we shouldn't do it anymore, saying it would "complicate the situation". In order to make her happy, I agreed. Time went by.. we still spent a lot of time together, but we started kissing again. We started getting closer and closer. Months passed. I confessed my love for her. She said "Thank you." 2 weeks later, she confessed her love for me. However, her ex was still around and she still spent occational time with him.
The entire time this is goin on, me and him are both getting torn apart because of her divided attention. Eventually, I break down and tell her I can't take this anymore, and something has to change. We both agree on this.. and talk about it several times before something actually does change. She told him they were through forever.. but he still had a place in her heart, and that she would always be his friend.
This is the part where I think things are goin to start goin good for me.
Wrong.
She says right after it happens that we shouldn't talk for a while. A day passes, and we are already talking again. We start hanging out again and things are pretty much back to normal, or so it seemed. She was always kind of like this, but much more frequently recently. She flirts with guys a lot in class. She is the most attractive girl in every class we have together, therefore every guy wants her attention. And she is a very outgoing person, and she gives attention.
I am a man of many needs. One of them is attention. Especially from the girl I love. So, she starts to hang out with other guys.. studying. We go on another university trip together, and she is flirting with every guy on the trip. I get easily frustrated when I see this, and when she asks what's wrong, I let her know. She basically said I was being irrational and a spaz. A spaz for being jealous when a girl I love is flirting it up with every guy I know. And some I don't.
Today, I started my new job. So, her and I naturally didn't hang out tonight. So, she calls me around 12 and asks me how things went, I tell her. Then I ask how her night went. She tells me that her neighbor (who has an obvious crush on her) saw her outside and invited her to a movie, and she agreed. I got quiet. She asked what was wrong (she knew what it was), and I told her. I told her that I don't have a desire to go hang out with other girls. She is all I need. She says she thinks we "got too close too fast".. and that she "enjoys spending time with other people than me".
I told her that is all fine and great.. but a movie date? I asked questions like "You love me, but you want to stay single? It doesn't make sense." She agrees that it doesn't, but she "needs to get this out of her system before she starts another relationship".
I asked her if a guy she was hanging out with were to attempt to kiss her, what would she do. She said "I wouldn't want them to, and I wouldn't attempt it.. but I don't know what I would do if one tried." I say "I know what I'd do if a girl tried to kiss me, I'd say 'NO. It's not right.. I'm in love with someone.'.. Simple as that."
That's not the whole story.. I left out somet details, and recent conversation. Basically, she is bent on staying close to me but hanging out with whoever she wants. Pretty much being in a relationship but not being tied down with relationship ropes.
The whole situation is really sucky. I don't know how much longer I can take this.. I feel like I'm being torn apart.
Suggestions?
