My recent experience that I must express

[topdog3853]

Hey boys. Well, i just thought I would tell you my recent experience. Well one the chicks that I have been dating just booted me. Of course it would be the one I liked the most. I am pretty confused because I didn't act AFC at all. I've had her tell me that I confident and secure and that most guys she dated were the complete opposite. She has told me that she is attracted to me, etc but I just got the LJBF line. Well I told her from the beginning that I didn't want to be friends and last night after she told me I said that I can't be friends with her. I pretty much told her that "hey its too bad because its your loss" Anybody that doesn't want to be with me is missing out. Well that's where it was left. Her response was pretty much "your a strong man and that's good" Anyway I have other prospects but this hit me a little. Just thought I would tell you guys because I had to get it off my chest. Obviously I wasn't going to tell her it really affected me nor my AFC friends because they wouldn't help at all. It goes to she that women can still be unpredictable. Thanks for listening.

 

[Turalyon999]

Good job shaking it off and telling her that you didn't want to be friends with her. Work your other prospects and you'll be sitting pretty again in no time. Especially if you let her know that you've already got someone while she's still searching.

good luck.

 

[trevjr]

Hey I feel for you man. You know this is probably one of the most important topics in this forum. If we are following DJ rules then we should be nexting woman constantly. It is so hard when you like someone and they flake out or dump you.
Did she give you a reason? My last woman told me she had to think about the reason and she would call me. I am still waiting. She also told me what a wonderful guy I was. Well, dammit, if I am so wonderful why are you breaking it off?
I think it is important to find out the reason so we can learn and grow from our experience. But I think in a lot of cases women don't tell us the truth when the break up so it is easy to think most women are insane.

 

[topdog3853]

Yeah the reason was kind of BS. She blamed it on going through alot of emotional stuff, blah, blah. She pretty much told me that she doesn't want to stop seeing me but at this point things are going to be progressing any further until she gets things figured out. She told me that she isn't seeing anybody so I don't even know what the problem was. Unfortunately I wasnt' going to wait around for her to figure **** out. I live an upbeat life, pretty busy and I dont' have time to wait around for someone. I told her that, and she said she'd understand if I didnt' want to even be her friend because of it. She literally said that if it was different timing then she would want something more. I didnt' even tell her I wanted more, but she felt I did through my actions. Oh well aren't all women insane? lol

 

[trevjr]

Oh I guess us men never go through emotional stuff. Jeez I have never used or heard another guy say they can't see a woman because of emotional stuff, I have got to get things figured out or if the the timing was different. These are all excuses for something else.
I'll give you an example; my ex one time came home 3 hours after she said she would. She even called at one point and said she was in a bar with her friends and would be home in 1/2 hour. 3 hours later she comes in saying 'well it was hard to leave after you have a few drinks'. Later I arrived at her place 1/2 late. She told me how inconsiderate I was and how I was wasting her time, blah,blah.Well I tried to call her to tell her I was late but her phone was busy. From what she said I imagined her sitting in a chair staring at the wall waiting for me.
I finally told her that our relationship was unequal because when I made a small mistake it was such a big deal but when she did the same thing she would tell me 'I said I was sorry and that should be the end of it'!
I am like you topdog, I have a busy, upbeat life and I am willing to fit the right woman in, but they act so bizarre I am wondering do all these woman need therapy?

 

[Donny Brasco]

She sounds like she's in charge, and that my friends is a very, very, very bad thing.

 

[Azariah]

Ah, the "genuine" LJBF. She says "I don't want to date you, but I still want to spend time with you." It's a classic mind-f*ck.

It sounds like gibberish to most guys, including myself when I first heard it. I've come to understand the '******** to english' equivalent of that statement. Basically she sees desirable traits in you, but you don't ignite her desires. You are a strong and capable individual but you didn't capture her imagination. You didn't spark the fires of passion. I think it happens to just about everyone.

My guess is that you treated her a little too friendly, while hiding or inadequately expressing your sexual desires. Or perhaps you just weren't her "type". The reason for C&F, light kino, mystery, and other similar techniques is to elicit an emotional response in woman. Once you have her imagination, the door is wide open for everything else.

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by Azariah
Basically she sees desirable traits in you, but you don't ignite her desires. You are a strong and capable individual but you didn't capture her imagination. You didn't spark the fires of passion.

God forbid we don't keep the Queen entertained and intrigued!!!

You are so right, Azariah. A lot women these days (especially the attractive ones) feel they have an inate birthright to suspense, mystery, and excitement. And they also feel that it is a man's job to fill their life with such wonderous things with little or no reciprocation. When you fail to keep Little Ms. Princess on her toes, she moves on to the next schmuck waiting patiently in line for the chance to 'wow' her. And what does he get in return? Not much... maybe some oral if he's lucky, and if he puts enough time in, maybe even a shot at the holiest of holies. Because for these women, dating isn't about love or sex or romance. No friggin' way! It's about extracting every last resource from as many suckers as possible in the shortest time possible; and using anything at their disposal (i.e., t1ts and ass) to get what they want when they want it. And once their current beau is sufficiently exhausted of all his money and energy, it's "I think we should just be friends." What a deal!

This is the sick, twisted society we have created for ourselves.

For Shame!!!

Just one more reason why I'll take the 5 over the 9 any day of the week.

 

[Quick]

I just had to say that the last three posts by trev, azariah, and drzaius are great points about the nature of women.

 

[smokey]

Drzaius

Drzaius, good post. You hit one of the nails on the head.