My quest and field report for turning my ex gf into a fvck buddy!

[Unbridled_Phoenix]

"This day was good."
"This day was bad."
Reeks of outcome dependency, man. Spin other plates. All this talk could just turn out to be an ego trip for her, or just to get you close so she can kick you in the balls (metaphorically speaking). These situations of talking with exes and strategizing for an outcome usually spiral into degenerative confusion ("what does this mean, what did that mean?"). You need to keep your ego in check, my friend. We've all been guilty of allowing it to take over, but when it does, the story always ends the same way.

Back off. Let her chase you.

 

[eaglez1177]

Heres the latest and by far most important update:

I saw her today again at school and kept on flirting/hitting on her. Plenty of kino. We talked and texted all day pretty much, and it turned out that she didnt have track practice after school and I didnt have baseball. So, deciding to make my move, I told her that we should hang out today after school. She accepted, and at about 430 I was out her house. We talked for a bit in her kitchen and then eventually went to her room, where we talked some more.

Her: Yea im still like soo fvckin sore from track. Ughh idk why but my left butt cheek is like really hurting.
Me: Hahaha wow thats really weird. Here let me see it.

I walked up really close to her, and just straight up grabbed her ass.

Me: Does this hurt?
Her (turning her face away, smiling): Hmm a little...

I then grabbed her second cheek, and started to squeeze both of them. She turned her face back to me, and then I went right in for the kill. We were hooking up like crazy, and I gotta say it felt sooooooooo good. The adrenaline rush from the two of us reuniting was simply amazing. Eventually we made it to her bed with our clothes off, and after a little while of fingering her, I ask:

Me: You want me to get a condom?

She sighs, and then shakes her head with a NO.

Her: No....its just like in this situation...sorry. (pretty much she means that no im not having sex with you cuz ur not my bf anymore).
Me: Okay.

We then talk for a little more, and then things start getting wild once again. She gets on top of me, and once again im fingering her, and this time shes REALLY getting into it.
She says: I really fuking want you ughhh.
Me: Do you want me to get a condom?
Her (sighing again like she really wants to but knows shes shouldnt): No....

We then keep going, and it just happened that my d*ck was legit right on her p*ssy, except it wasnt in. I decided to take my hand and start rubbing her down there with my d*ck. I kept doin this while fingering her a bit, and then eventually she says in a kinda regretting and giving in tone:

Her (giving me another bad sigh): Fvck it just get a condom.....
Me: Ughh wait are you sure? Are you sure its okay? I dont wanna do something you dont...
Her (givin me another bad sigh and talkin in a guilty tone): Yea yea its okay...

I could tell that she really really wanted to have sex, but her conscience was telling her the entire time that she shouldnt because we werent bf and gf, so she gave in.

While were having sex (I was kissin her and all that while we were), I notice really quick that her eyes started to get a little wet. Thinking that she might start to tear or cry, I immediately stopped, and said "are you okay?"

She just said back "yea sorry its just my allergies" She then wiped them really quick and was fine for like another five minutes until she said she was done. We only had sex for like 10 minutes or so cuz she got paranoid that her mom wud be home (which she did come home five minutes later, so it was good that I got outta there.

I feel really uncomfortable that her eyes started to get a little wet. Was it actually just allergies? Do you think she just said that to cover up the fact that she was gonna cry? I really dont know. Do you think that she was uncomfortable simply cuz she was worried about her mom coming home?

Having sex with her and going against what her conscience wanted kinda makes me feel bad. I really dont know what to do right now. I really need some advice guys, please help. I can tell she wants to get back into a relationship, and I would love to do that but its just I dont have the time! Im so busy with school, work, and baseball, and I really dont trust her anymore cuz i've always had the impression that she might have cheated on me.

Plz help!

 

[Ryoku]

Plz help!

Ok, meet new women and stop trying to repair an old relationship. Its unhealthy and self-disrespectful.

 

[eaglez1177]

Never said I was trying to repair an old relationship, im trying to make this fvck buddy thing work. Getting into a relationship with her is really taking things too far and I really wouldnt wanna put myself through that again.

Anyways, when I saw her today at school I acted like nothing happened regarding yesterday. I didnt wanna bring up the whole thing about how she might have felt uncomfortable and all. Same old stuff happened though, we just talked every now and then, I got some good kino, ya know.

I have SATs on saturday so im not gonna be allowed out tomorrow night, but im gonna see if I can hang out with her again saturday during the day or night.

I think this next time we hang out is going to be really crucial, because its going to tell me whether or not shes gonna keep on going with the two of us having sex. Two possible scenarios can occur:

Scenario 1: She doesnt want to have sex with me, and wont continue going on being used by me. She will start talking relationship stuff, and say that we should go back out and try things again, and that she really wants to be with me and that she still loves me. My objective here: DONT FALL INTO THE TRAP!!

Scenario 2: She will continue with the way we're going now, and will have sex. Hopefully her conscience wont get the better of her and I'll be able to make this happen through pure physical attraction (which btw is very strong, were both always horny haha)

 

[eaglez1177]

Phew. Okay a lot of sh*t has gone down over the past few days sry that i havent been able to update.

We hung out last night (saturday) and things got pretty intense. I went to her house after SATs, and once again was in the same situation with all our clothes off and me fingering her but this time I didnt ask if I should put on a condom. Idk why but I knew that if I asked I would get rejected, and didnt wanna take that risk.

Fast forward to about 730 that night. We pick up my ex gf's two friends and drive back to her house, which was gonna be open the entire night cuz her parents were out. We get there and start drinking (i didnt cuz i had to drive, but I was still retarded cuz I had smoked soooo much weed lol). Then, the inevitable comes:

My ex gf starts crying to me while shes drunk and **** and she pretty much got EVERYTHING off her chest. Everything about the break up, why I did it, how she felt, how I could do something like that to her, etc. Then, she started asked about like what was going on between the two of us now.

At first I managed to dodge the question with some bullsh*t answers that didnt really say much, but after a while she caught on and was just demanding that I tell her what the hell "this" was going to turn into. I just said to her how I did still care about her, and still wanted to be with her, but that there was no way we would be able to go back out in a relationship. Its simply not possible and Im not putting myself through that stress or comittment. She said that was fine, and then spoke to me some more about how shes changed now as opposed to before. I think what she meant by that was that she still wanted to go out, and understood that not getting a whole lot of attention from me was gonna be fine with her.

Regardless, I still said no. I did tell her though that I still cared about her and wanted to be with her, and that I liked how things were going on now and wanted to keep it that way. She said that was good, and that she would do that, but idk if thats what she actually means. Part of me thinks that as soon as I said no to the relationship, she simply just didnt care about what else I had to say and that she wasnt really listening. She kept on saying "thats all I need to know".

But then, to make things more complicated, I managed to talk her up again and we start getting back into it. We wind up in her fvcking sister's room in her bed getting ready to fvck when all of a sudden my ex's friends start banging on the door and saying that this little "party" has all of a sudden turned into like 30 people downstairs. Im like "you gotta be fuking kidding me..."

So now, im getting cokblocked by all these fvcking people, and after my ex's friends banged on the door multiple times, we finally decide to just give it up and put all our clothes back on. On top of that, my ex's little sister found a spare condom that fell outta my wallet. Then the rest of the night kinda went as usual, my ex sobered up and stopped crying and we were still really touchy/feely and kept kissing and sh*t.

When I was gettin ready to go I said that I would talk to her tomorrow, and then for some reason she kept on saying this sh*t about how I didnt HAVE to talk to her tomorrow. Didnt make sense to me lol.

So ya Im gonna have to see how the rest of this thing plays out. My friends are all fvcking annoying me cuz everyone thinks were getting back together but were NOT!

 

[eaglez1177]

Today actually went alot better than I expected. I was thinking that she would just be extremely friendly and would try to avoid me and would give me like weird looks if I started touching her or trying to kiss her. Instead, things pretty much went normal like they were last week.

I didnt get to see her before lunch cuz I had to talk with a teacher, but between 6th and 7th period I saw her again (she had walked away from her class and towards where I was coming from to see me and walk with me to where her class was). Things went just as usual, and we were really close, tons of kino, ya know all that.

Then, after school, I saw her at track practice (I got cut from baseball cuz I messed up my arm so im running track now, and she just happens to do it with her best friend). For some reason things were kinda awkward at first, cuz it was like me and my friends and then her and her two friends lol. I got comfy after a while though and started flirting with her and gettin kino and all that.

Then, out of nowhere, her fuking best friend starts acting like a MAJOR b*tch to me. She was honestly pissing me off soooo fuking much I wanted to like beat the sh*t out of her. She knew all about me and my ex, and apparently she thinks im the biggest assh*le on the planet for not going back out with my ex. Honestly, like go f*ck yourself. After a while I simply wouldnt take any more of the b*tchy looks and insults, so I just said to her "what the f*ck is up your ass?" She gave me another look but that shut her up for a bit.

Honestly if my ex's best friend starts having an influence on her and really starts convincing her to just ignore me and not let me get free ass, im gonna be REALLY pissed. Then after track practice I was waiting for my mom to come get me, and got a surprising call from my ex. (i was surprised cuz it came from her best friends phone. I later found out that my ex's phone got taken away completely cuz her parents found out about the party and they FLIPPED A SH*T on her)

Me: Hello?
Her: Heyyy whats up its -----, where are you now are you in the front of the school?
Me: Yeahh wait um...yeah are you with ----?(her best friend)
Her: Yea why....
Me: Oh okk then dont even bother coming over cuz im not dealing with her sh*t.
Her: Okay bye.

Five minutes later my ex walks over, WITHOUT that fuking b*tch. Heheheh. We walked around for a bit and talked, and she told me how her fuking dad like yanked her by her hair and gave her bruises on her butt (this really disturbed me. I guess her dad like actually hit her). I held her close and we finally sat down somewhere, where she sat on my lap and we just went at it and started hooking up . I had to leave like five minutes later tho, and I wished her good luck at home, kissed her goodbye, and left.

 

[Pathgen]

Sounds like were trying to do the same thing partner
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=158402

Your ahead of me though tell me what you think. Im probably going to just be more direct about it than you are though and just try and **** her the same one time im going to see her. However, mine seems more willing for a casual thing than yours.

 

[eaglez1177]

Sounds like were trying to do the same thing partner
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=158402

Your ahead of me though tell me what you think. Im probably going to just be more direct about it than you are though and just try and **** her the same one time im going to see her. However, mine seems more willing for a casual thing than yours.

Well if your going for the same thing I am, I would HIGHLY reccommend that you do NOT be direct about it. Becoming fvck buddies with a girl is very tough to accomplish, even tougher when its your ex gf. On top of that, no girl wants to feel like shes being used or anything of that sort. Being direct about wanting a fvck buddy is the fastest way and easiest way for a girl to understand what your really getting at, and thus making you lose big time.

The key is to keep them guessing and keep them on their toes, you dont wanna be in a situation where you start being very direct and then all of a sudden the girl figures things out and is like "wow this is so obvious. this guy justs wants to use me for what i've got. all he wants is the sex. he doesnt care about me anymore. im not gonna let him take advantage of me like this. screw this loser"

Good luck!

 

[eaglez1177]

Once again to my surprise, today also went pretty well Pretty much the same exact of what happened yesterday, minus all of the b*tching from my ex's best friend (I hadnt gone to track practice today cuz i had to work for st. patricks day). Same old stuff of just kino, flirting, and every now and then, kissing.

I think maintaining the constant kisses with her is definitely a big positive, because its really the main thing thats keeping me out of the friend zone with her. I mean like usually we'll kiss (and not just a peck i mean like multiple full out kisses) at the end of the day when we part ways, or even sometimes after I walk her to a class.

I like the situation im in now. Its really nice to have someone to still care for and have someone care about you, while at the same time not being bound by any relationship. Kissing is kissing though, and sex is something way different, so hopefully she'll still be down for the sex.

 

[eaglez1177]

Today also went just as normal. Kino, talking, flirting, kissing, pretty much everything you would expect in a relationship except not actually being in a relationship. The only difference about things today was that im feeling more and more comfortable about talking sexual with her. I can pretty much say and do whatever I want with her, and this whole situation is just great! Like today at track I just went up from behind her, pinched her ass, and started kissing her on the neck. She started gettin really damn horny and said how she wished the two of us could be back at her house alone in a dark room.

Anyways, ive been really busy lately with all this hw and track stuff but im gonna try to see if i can get in her pants again this weekend.

 

[Rhoto]

Wow. Folks - DON'T be this guy. The degree of fail has surpassed reversible. Remember, when you break up with a girlfriend, a billion new opportunities just presented themselves and they're waiting for you to talk to them.

 

[eaglez1177]

Wow. Folks - DON'T be this guy. The degree of fail has surpassed reversible. Remember, when you break up with a girlfriend, a billion new opportunities just presented themselves and they're waiting for you to talk to them.

Dude wtf are you talking about bro. Im getting ass whenever I want and I dont have to worry about ANY constraints of being in a relationship. Theres still opportunities all over the place, especially with this one hot chick a year younger than me that im trying to get with.

But then again maybe your just a jealous loser whos stuck with his two hands to pleasure himself. Have fun buddy.

 

[Rhoto]

Dude wtf are you talking about bro. Im getting ass whenever I want and I dont have to worry about ANY constraints of being in a relationship. Theres still opportunities all over the place, especially with this one hot chick a year younger than me that im trying to get with.

But then again maybe your just a jealous loser whos stuck with his two hands to pleasure himself. Have fun buddy.

Struck a nerve did I?

You're still in high school right? Ya, case closed.

 

[eaglez1177]

Struck a nerve did I?

You're still in high school right? Ya, case closed.

Lol yea I am in high school why? So you think that just because im younger than you gives you a right to just talk down on me and insult me out of nowhere? Grow up.

 

[eaglez1177]

The past two days have gone pretty good, especially tonight (even though it started out HORRIBLY). I had to fvcking work tonight, and all my friends were hanging out with the girls they were going to ask to prom. And, the girl I was gonna ask was there too, and she had to fvcking wait for me to get outta work.

I wound up making it my friends house at about 10, and even though I looked like TOTAL **** (stains all over my shirt and pants from working. Im a bus boy at a restaurant so i was pretty damn dirty), I flirted with all of the girls really well. They all really like me now, and im good friends with all of them (except for the one that im asking to prom, i can easily get ass from her). I dont really plan on becoming more than friends with any of the chicks aside from the one im asking to prom, cuz thats just gonna complicate things with the rest of my own friends and I really dont wanna deal with the drama.

Anyways, at about 10:45 or so, me, girl1(im askin her to prom), girl2, and girl3(both of them friends), hop into my car so we can make a quick run to mcdonalds to get some milkshakes. That went well, and eventually I had to drop off girl1 at her house. I still had girl2 and girl3 in the car with me, so I needed to figure out a way to get girl1 alone so I could pop the question.

Girl1: Ok this is it right here on the left
Me: Okay (pulling in)
Me (smiling): Okay you want me to walk you to your doorstep?
Her: Yeaa sure! (smiling)
Me: (walking up to the doorstep) Haha I hope your dad doesnt get mad at you for being home late.
Her: Ohhh idk hes prolly like staring at me right now or something lol.
Me: (we're now at your doorstep. im smiling at her). Okay so you wanna go to prom with me?
Her: (really excited) Yea of course id love to!!
Me: Yea its gonna be a ton of fun I cant wait! (i said this smiling, and we both locked eyes really well. I could tell right there that this chick wanted my d*ck sooo bad)
Her: I know i cant wait its gonna be alot of fun!
Me: Okayy well goodnight i'll talk to you tomorrow...hopefully we can hang out again.
Her: Yeaa ok byeee...ill text you or something I think Jared (my friend) might be having a party.
Me: Ya I hope...alright cya
Her: Bye

About five minutes later I get this text from girl1:

Her: Haha sorry i wanted to do more but im really scared my dad was watchingg
Me: Hahaha its okk

So ya that was pretty much it. I think the night ended pretty well. What made me also feel really good was that fact that when I got back in the car after walking girl1 up to the doorstep, girl2 and girl3 both complimented me saying "Oooh that was a really nice move! That was so cute!"

 

[eaglez1177]

Hey guys, I've been really busy with school and stuff lately so I havent been able to update for the past few days.

Anyways, things have been goin kinda slow lately. I still talk to my ex and flirt with her, but things have definitely been reduced physically (as in we dont really kiss that much anymore). The weird part about it is that this change is coming mainly from me, my ex is still into me and all but idk why im just starting to get tired of her again lol.

Ive been focusing most of my gaming energy on this chick im bringing to prom (who btw is actually really hot, but shes a big time slvt lol. Shes prolly a little over an 8) Anyways, I found out from one of my buddies that yesterday my ex gave her a really dirty look lol, so im pretty sure that my ex knows im bringing this girl to prom (previously I had decided not to mention a word about prom to my ex).

This friday my buddies and I are supposed to be hanging out with this one chick (ill call her Sarah) and a few of her friends. Theyre all a year younger than us, but regardless, Sarah is MADD HOT. Unfortunately, shes gonna be the only hot one there, as im pretty sure the rest of her friends are gross. Should be interesting to see how things go down between my friends and I...its gonna be one hell of a competition lol.

Oh and today I gamed up this chick sooooo nicely in the local Dairy Queen. My mom had asked me to go there to get us all some ice cream, so I do, and I walk in and order what everyone wanted. All of a sudden, this one chick who was about a 7.5 walks in, and I can immediately just sense her attraction to me. We both locked eyes a few times. Thing is, she was like in her late 20s, and im only 18!! Obviously at first I was pretty surprised that this chick was checking me out, but I decided to go with it anyways. I walked around a bit inside the Dairy Queen so that she could put her order in, and when she was waiting for the girl to make her ice cream was when I made my move.

Me: What ya gettin?
Her (smiling): Just a little cone for myself
Me (smiling): Nice, you come her often?
Her: Ehh not really, I kinda just felt in the mood for some ice cream.
Me: Hahaha, ya same here. Its a nice little place they have here, your cone looks good.
Her: Ya it is I like it...what are you getting?
Me: Just a blizzard for myself and then a red dip for my friend (it was actually for my little brother, but I decided to say it was for my friend because I didnt want her to think I was so young)

Cashier: That'll be 13.50 for you
Me (paying the cashier): Okay I gotta go now I'll see ya later
Her (smiling): Okay bye, nice meeting you
Me (smiling): Ya you too

At this point I start walking away a few steps towards the door, but then, out of nowhere, I just felt the urge to ask this chick for her number. I turn around real quick and walk back to her.

Me (smiling): Hey wait, let me get your number maybe we can hang out some time.
Her: Hahaha yea sure (Im not sure if this laugh was a good or bad thing cuz maybe she was laughing at me idk)

She pulls out a pen from her purse and writes her name and number on the back of her receipt from the cashier.

Me (smiling really big): Thanks, I'm eaglez by the way.
Her: I'm Michelle
Me: Okay michelle i'll see ya later, enjoy your ice cream
Her: You too...byee
Me: bye

I feel really confident that I was able to get this chick's number, everything just felt really smooth and natural, so it was really nice. Not to mention the fact that shes probably 10 years older than me! Should be interesting to see how this plays out...

 

[eaglez1177]

Phew, okay lots of stuff goin on again lol.

Friday was pretty good I chilled with my five best friends, and we all smoked like 3 grams worth of weed, so I was REALLY fuking high hahah. After saying and doing a bunch of funny sh*t and eating lots of food, three of my buddies and I decided to go to this huge party in a nearby town. Wen we got there the place was hoppin and there was like 100 people there and everyone was playing beer pong lol. Lots of hot ass girls everywhere, and it was even better cuz none of them were from my school.

BUT, I learned a big lesson that night: If you smoke weed and attempt to get girls, it WILL NOT WORK. My friends and I were sooooooo burnt out from the huge smoke session that we honestly felt like passing out. I was so fuking pissed because i had a feeling this would happen. When my friend mentioned the party I told him "dude idk...im gonna be soo burnt out and tired and im not gonna talk to ANYONE".

Unfortunately, thats exactly wat happened. I seriously was sooo tired and I just sat there like a brick wall and said NOTHING. The worst part about it was that a bunch of girls were checkin me out and I KNOW that if I was completely sober I would've been able to get with them.

Anyways, saturday turned out even weirder lol. My parents were making me do this fuking soup kitchen thing for community service, but instead of driving there I asked my ex if she wanted to hang out. She did, and we went out to go get some breakfast (the soup kitchen was form 8-230, so technically i couldnt go back home till then otherwise my parents wud catch me). After breakfast we went back to her house, and things started gettin pretty hot lol.

To my surprise, wen I asked her If she wanted me to get a condom, she said yea, and we had sex. I was pretty surprised at this cuz I thought the two of us were kinda movin apart the past few days, but I guess not. Looks like i've still got the fuk buddy!

BUT, there was one big problem. Despite my kegel exercises for the past month, i fuking couldnt hold my load in for more than like 3 minutes. Idk why but I think it mightve been because it was the first time we had sex since like the first time I started hanging out with her again (which was like three weeks ago im gonna say). I was really fuking pissed, and most of all, embarassed =[. Looks like im gonna have to keep workin on those god damn kegels.

 

[sageproduct]

Was just reading this, how'd it all turn out?

 

[eaglez1177]

It turned out to be a huge success She definitely became my fvck buddy, and we wound up just hanging out to fvck ALL THE TIME over the summer and stuff. As a matter of fact, I just had sex with her again yesterday for the first time in about 3 weeks (it was a great fvck), which is great because this is the kind of fvck buddy where I dont need to put in any CONSISTENT effort to hang out with her at all, in the sense that I can pretty much call her up whenever I want and fvck her (ex: i can fvck her, ignore her for a couple weeks, and then fvck her again, rather than have to put in time to hang out with her every week).

 

[Cherokee]

I turned my ex into a fvck buddy, it was great until she said she still loved me.

The point is, there's ALWAYS baggage being fvck buddies with an ex. Like my buddy says, "After you've taken a sh*t, WHY do you wanna go back to it?"