My pursuit comes to an end

[becker]

Originally posted by Doppler4000
Dude, I'm cringing for you when I read this. There's no reason to do this. Plus it's just proof that what you said about really wanting to be only friends with her isn't true.



Just rationalization here... and I don't believe that, even in the face of her getting engaged, you're as willing as you say you are to move on.

Seriously, do yourself a favor and just drop it completely and move on to women who are actually available. You will save yourself more time and emotion that you realize- you've already wasted enough with this one. [/B]

Actually, it's more curiosity than anything on my part. Of course I was attracted to her, and before she got engaged, I wasn't about to just next her, but now that she is, it's really a non-issue to me as to whether we'll actually get together, because the chances are likely zero to none. I guess unlike other people, I'd rather know than to stay friends with her (which basically will be the case, since again, it's just not going to be easy to next her being that we are such close friends) even though it won't change anything, that's not what I'm trying to do anyways.

Bottom line is I'm either going to move on knowing how she felt, or not knowing how she felt. I would rather know because at least it gives me a concrete answer either way, and for me, it is easier to move on that way.

I don't see any downside to that, but if you do, tell me, I'm open.

 

[Ricky]

It seems like alot of times girls won't set you up as their friends.

Chicks are as competitive as guys and you were her Plan B for a while, so she never set you up with her other friends.

The other problem is if she did actively set you up with her friends, you know how that goes. Someone that is being setup feels awkward, and it doesn't normally work out.

Now for you, you got to hang out with her and her friends and start hitting on her friends.

It is possible however that the girl getting engaged, might have one last fling... You might be the guy!

 

[becker]

Ricky, I like the way you think (of course I'm taking a totally biased view here).

Anyways, this girl and I had plans to do something before she got engaged, and now that she's engaged, her time is limited because of all the stuff she will now have to do to prepare. However, I'm going to hold her to the plan, and we'll do what we planned to do together, and that's it. It will be one last hurrah.