For the past few months I have been playing the perfect game and I didn't even realise it. It's only now that a few things have been revealed to me that I see how everything clicks into place, and it all comes down to the basics of this forum.
When I first signed up for a POF account I got talking to a number of women. Some engaged my interest more than others, but I liked to keep some of them on the backburner. It never hurts to spin some plates, right?
One of these prospects was a former exotic dancer. Nice looking girl, good to chat to, but not what I'd consider relationship material, so I overlooked her for a while. I dropped her the odd email or text just to say hi and keep her in tow, but then would go days or a couple of weeks without contacting her. She'd contact me from time to time and I'd agree to meet up with her when I was less busy.
I decided to push my luck a little with her one evening. I sent her a text message telling her I thought she was sexy and I'd love to have my way with her. I figured if I scare her off, then I'm not that bothered. If she responds well, it could turn out to be fun. Simply put, I had the "I don't care" mentality and just went ahead without fearing any consequence. She responded well, so I pushed it even further, and further until we were describing the things we wanted to do to each other. She ended up getting herself off. She contacted me the next day still horny and keen, but I was busy so I just sent her a polite response saying "yeah, I know what you mean. Maybe one day it can become a reality" and didn't contact her again for a week. One night I was feeling horny so I contacted her and we resumed the sex talk. This time we spoke on the phone and she got herself off as we spoke.
The following days she started texting me a lot, but I limited my responses. She asked me to meet up, so I suggested the following weekend. Unfortunately when the weekend came round I wasn't able to make it and had to cancel. She took it badly, but then a week later she contacted me again. I'd been on a 2nd date with another girl that week and it went very well so I decided it was time to put this chick on the backburner again. Again, I just showed interest, replied to her texts, even spoke to her on the phone and withdrew randomly.
She was sending me naked photos of herself and letting me know how she was desperate for me to fvck her. We started talking about fantasies and she told me she would let me do anything I wanted to her. She said she wouldn't normally think like that but I've got her so turned on, she wanted me to take control and use her. In her desperation to have me, she was willing to give me my way, 100%.
We ended up meeting for a drink and within 3 hours of meeting we had sex in the car. It wasn't exactly planned. We just started kissing in the car park and one thing led to another. She begged me to fvck her there and then. Basically all my ground work with the sexual texts and phone sex had paid off and after months of fantasizing about me she couldn't contain herself.
Again, I withdrew my attention from time to time, started dating other girls, but then went back to her when I was horny. I told her I was seeing someone, but we could be fvck buddies. She told me she wanted to be more than that with me, but she could handle it if that's what I wanted. So every once in a while I'd call her up and we'd fvck. True to her word, she let me do anything I wanted and it was amazing. But still, I didn't see her as relationship material so I continued my search.
Yeah, I was a total jerk to her. I used her for sex, I was dating and fvcking other women and coming back to her when it suited me. Gradually she became obsessed with me and became putty in my hands. Last night I called her up looking for sex and she told me outright it has to stop because she has feelings for me. She went on to say she has not felt this way about a guy for many years and I'm all she can think of. She said she knew it would never be serious and respected me being honest with her from the start. She tried to move on and had been asked out by a lot of guys, but she couldn't think of anyone else. But it had got to the point where she couldn't go on being a booty call. I apologised to her and agreed not to contact her any more.
So while all the girls I had been actively pursuing were backing off and rejecting me, the one girl I was keeping in the background was becoming infatuated with me.
But this is nothing new. We already know this theory, but rarely do many of us put it into practice. I played the perfect game with this girl and applied all the basic DJ/seduction principles. And it worked. I was sexual and dominant; I had no expectations and no hopes for the future; I varied the attention I gave her; I focused on other aspects of my life and saw other women; I kept her in tow, raised the tension but then withdrew before she could take me for granted; I was unavailable and therefore more valuable.
Applying this to a girl I'm really into may be more difficult in practice, but this is one example of the basic lessons of seduction and the jerk/player mentality paying off exactly as it's supposed to. In retrospect, this isn't the first case of this happening either. I still have girls who contact me a year after our last date, still with sky high interest...and all of which I treated in a similar way. I put them on the backburner and kept them around for when other prospects weren't paying off.
When I first signed up for a POF account I got talking to a number of women. Some engaged my interest more than others, but I liked to keep some of them on the backburner. It never hurts to spin some plates, right?
One of these prospects was a former exotic dancer. Nice looking girl, good to chat to, but not what I'd consider relationship material, so I overlooked her for a while. I dropped her the odd email or text just to say hi and keep her in tow, but then would go days or a couple of weeks without contacting her. She'd contact me from time to time and I'd agree to meet up with her when I was less busy.
I decided to push my luck a little with her one evening. I sent her a text message telling her I thought she was sexy and I'd love to have my way with her. I figured if I scare her off, then I'm not that bothered. If she responds well, it could turn out to be fun. Simply put, I had the "I don't care" mentality and just went ahead without fearing any consequence. She responded well, so I pushed it even further, and further until we were describing the things we wanted to do to each other. She ended up getting herself off. She contacted me the next day still horny and keen, but I was busy so I just sent her a polite response saying "yeah, I know what you mean. Maybe one day it can become a reality" and didn't contact her again for a week. One night I was feeling horny so I contacted her and we resumed the sex talk. This time we spoke on the phone and she got herself off as we spoke.
The following days she started texting me a lot, but I limited my responses. She asked me to meet up, so I suggested the following weekend. Unfortunately when the weekend came round I wasn't able to make it and had to cancel. She took it badly, but then a week later she contacted me again. I'd been on a 2nd date with another girl that week and it went very well so I decided it was time to put this chick on the backburner again. Again, I just showed interest, replied to her texts, even spoke to her on the phone and withdrew randomly.
She was sending me naked photos of herself and letting me know how she was desperate for me to fvck her. We started talking about fantasies and she told me she would let me do anything I wanted to her. She said she wouldn't normally think like that but I've got her so turned on, she wanted me to take control and use her. In her desperation to have me, she was willing to give me my way, 100%.
We ended up meeting for a drink and within 3 hours of meeting we had sex in the car. It wasn't exactly planned. We just started kissing in the car park and one thing led to another. She begged me to fvck her there and then. Basically all my ground work with the sexual texts and phone sex had paid off and after months of fantasizing about me she couldn't contain herself.
Again, I withdrew my attention from time to time, started dating other girls, but then went back to her when I was horny. I told her I was seeing someone, but we could be fvck buddies. She told me she wanted to be more than that with me, but she could handle it if that's what I wanted. So every once in a while I'd call her up and we'd fvck. True to her word, she let me do anything I wanted and it was amazing. But still, I didn't see her as relationship material so I continued my search.
Yeah, I was a total jerk to her. I used her for sex, I was dating and fvcking other women and coming back to her when it suited me. Gradually she became obsessed with me and became putty in my hands. Last night I called her up looking for sex and she told me outright it has to stop because she has feelings for me. She went on to say she has not felt this way about a guy for many years and I'm all she can think of. She said she knew it would never be serious and respected me being honest with her from the start. She tried to move on and had been asked out by a lot of guys, but she couldn't think of anyone else. But it had got to the point where she couldn't go on being a booty call. I apologised to her and agreed not to contact her any more.
So while all the girls I had been actively pursuing were backing off and rejecting me, the one girl I was keeping in the background was becoming infatuated with me.
But this is nothing new. We already know this theory, but rarely do many of us put it into practice. I played the perfect game with this girl and applied all the basic DJ/seduction principles. And it worked. I was sexual and dominant; I had no expectations and no hopes for the future; I varied the attention I gave her; I focused on other aspects of my life and saw other women; I kept her in tow, raised the tension but then withdrew before she could take me for granted; I was unavailable and therefore more valuable.
Applying this to a girl I'm really into may be more difficult in practice, but this is one example of the basic lessons of seduction and the jerk/player mentality paying off exactly as it's supposed to. In retrospect, this isn't the first case of this happening either. I still have girls who contact me a year after our last date, still with sky high interest...and all of which I treated in a similar way. I put them on the backburner and kept them around for when other prospects weren't paying off.
