My pefect woman?

[thekcguyme]

I honestly did not think that you could actually find someone out there that fits what you would call your perfect mate. I met her a couple of weeks ago on an online dating site. Her profile said she liked almost everything I did. So we had a lot a lot in common. She has dark black hair which is a must for me. I'm just so drawn to brunettes. I talked to her a couple times on yahoo messenger before I asked her out on a date. I made her laugh over and over again and I could tell she was putty in my hands. The other day I invited her over to watch a scary movie with me and of coarse she said yes. She showed up at my door and was so much hotter in person I couldn't believe my eyes I was almost a little intimadated by it. Her body is everything I could ever want from a lady. We talked for a bit then watched the moviel. It was one of those both of us wanted to see, but it wasn't all that good for some reason and so I spiced things up a little bit by making her jump a bit in scary parts. I was ****y funny here and there and by the end of the movie she all up on me and she actually made the first move by kissing. After the movie was over I made her laugh over and over and almost made beer come out of her nose. It was great and this was the first date I've had in over a year. So I figured I was doing damn good. She constanly was trying to kiss me and flirt with me. The only thing I'm not liking about her at this time is that she tells me she has a friends w/ benefits. She says that they connect in the bedroom but things are getting old and she is going to be just friends with him. Should I have anything to worry about here? Later on we are making out on the floor things are getting kind of rough, but she tells me she wants me to respect her so we don't have sex. Even though she says by that time she would already have been moving to the bed. Does this mean I screwed up or that she just likes me that much that she doen't want to screw things up? At the end of the night she tells me she had a great time with me and that I was very funny. So I ask her what she is doing on the weekend and she tells me she is going out with some dude saturday night. I tell her thats too bad I'm going to go play some pool and watch some fights. She then tells me that she would much rather go with me and ditch that other guy she I'm so much cooler.

So am I doing ok here? What could I do to make things go even better? It's been a long time since I've done all this and I could use some advice so I don't mess it all up. After all I would describe to you that this is my perfect match.

My idea of my perfect woman
1. Brunette
2. lean body
3. nice butt
4. smart
5. shorter than me
6. fun - lots in common
7. sports fan
8. funny
9. a little wild
10. good in bed

she fits all of those! Well except for the last one because that has yet to be determined. Please give me some feed back. :woo:

 

[thekcguyme]

another thing so far she is always like you should give me a call sometime. I tell her I think you should give me a call and she is like ok. But so far she hasn't called. Do you think she just likes to be pursuded?

 

[DJVladdy]

small waist / big round butt.

 

[Jitterbug]

So am I doing ok here? What could I do to make things go even better? It's been a long time since I've done all this and I could use some advice so I don't mess it all up. After all I would describe to you that this is my perfect match.

To paraphrase a popular PUA saying, the mentality required to deal with the woman of your dreams is to truly believe that you're the man of her dreams.

Don't get all tensed up and try to make things go even better (i.e trying to impress her more). That's usually the most effective way to make it worse, actually.

She seems to already dig you so as long as you don't try too hard and fvck it up, you'll be fine. This is when you can "just be yourself".

 

[thekcguyme]

Yeah your probably right. I have started to become a little over the top so I will just slow down and have fun. I think the date tomorrow at the pool hall will be good. Give me a chance to really check her out. I was thinking about playing for stuff when playing pool like dinner, kisses, sex, etc. If you got any ideas let me know!

 

[thekcguyme]

Ok I have a question for you guys. She texted me today and told me she things im a good guy but there just isnt any romantic chemistry and so she canceled with me tonight. What the hell did I do wrong? Conversation was always good no dead silence and she laughed a lot. I have never been this confused before about a girl in my 15 years of dating. Last night when I talked to her she seemed really happy about going on sat night, but now all of a sudden theres nothing?

 

[slaog]

Ok I have a question for you guys. She texted me today and told me she things im a good guy but there just isnt any romantic chemistry and so she canceled with me tonight. What the hell did I do wrong? Conversation was always good no dead silence and she laughed a lot. I have never been this confused before about a girl in my 15 years of dating. Last night when I talked to her she seemed really happy about going on sat night, but now all of a sudden theres nothing?

She certainly isn't anywhere near perfect. She was on a date with you, dating another guy saturday (today) and she has a friend with benefits!!! Is this your perfect woman? Are these your standards?


For a start you believed she was the perfect mate because of her looks mainly. You were too keen and she could clearly see it from the pedestal you put her on. AFC's can make people laugh too.

 

[thekcguyme]

Well I texted her this just a bit ago "I will be playing pool tonight its cool if we are just friends" and she texted me back " I might be there..." I think she is playing hard to get. We had way too much fun the last time we hung out.

 

[amoka]

another matrix...

 

[Four_Aces]

Well I texted her this just a bit ago "I will be playing pool tonight its cool if we are just friends" and she texted me back " I might be there..." I think she is playing hard to get. We had way too much fun the last time we hung out.

Maybe YOU had way too much fun the last time you two hung out.

Personally, like the above poster said, I would take another look at my standards for dating...

On the other hand, she definitely is playing hard to get. How many dates have you been on with her? Was there any physical escalation?

Maintain the frame, keep control.

 

[thekcguyme]

We have only been on one date and things got hot in a hurry. I was making out with her on the couch on the floor and things were really cooking. What should I do now. Just go to the pool hall and not text or call her anymore?

 

[thekcguyme]

She has a very fun personality. I have more in common with the chick than probably all the other ones put together. Could that be a bad thing? I probably already screwed up with her so If she wants to see me she will have to make the next move!

 

[Night Owl]

"My idea of my perfect woman
1. Brunette
2. lean body
3. nice butt
4. smart
5. shorter than me
6. fun - lots in common
7. sports fan
8. funny
9. a little wild
10. good in bed "

Yours sounds just like my misses, but she ticks number 10 too... and is French and hottest thing ever in bed. Which reminds me, time for bed...it's hard work but somebody has to do it and guess what, that somebody is me !!!

 

[Four_Aces]

I bet she has a fun personality, yeah. Generally when this happens, and when you think there's a lot in common with her, a lot of other guys do too. That's probably what she's really good at. She's higher up on the social ladder.

I would go to the pool hall, go about your regular business, and send her a very light, "hey whats up" text message when you're there. The key here is, less is sometimes more. (Although taking initiative and taking risks are essential as well)

The best way to get a girl interested in you, IMO, is be a whole lot more interesting/awesome than other people she knows.

 

[thekcguyme]

I guess I don't under stand what good saying,"hey what's up" will do. I know I am letting my interest lvl go too high so everyone hit me ok. It's stupid for me to have feeling for someone this early on. I don't know why its happening. I well let you something. I hardly ever talk to anyone even friends, but for some reason I talk way more around this. it's just so easy to carry on a conversation with her which is something I've never had before. I might send a light text like you said, but I would think it would be better if she made the next move, but I guess If I knew what I was doing I wouldn't be here.

 

[CFERD]

Unless you have reasons to believe she's lying, it sounds like she was upfront with you by telling you she doesn't feel any chemistry towards you. She had a fun time with you, even played a little. That doesn't mean she suddenly wants to be your gf. In fact, I'd say she's being straight with you. She told you about her date with another dude and her fwb. Sounds like she isn't playing games. In fact she sounds like a honest person.

Although.....You of course realise I could be completely wrong. Just doesn't sound like things will go your way with this one. Considering she seems to be 'spinning plates' herself, maybe she sensed that you see her as the perfect match for you. That makes girls really uncomfortable. I hate to say it, but it could be she sensed the desperation. Not saying your desperate by any means, just the vibe you were giving off as she was exactly what your looking for in a chick. I'd move on completely. I think that's the best move for your head. You sorta pulled this chick, you can obviously do it with another, and another after that. Just don't let it hit your confidence or self esteem. Keep them strong and you'll have a new chick on the couch in no time. BTW, the dark hair is sexy on the right chick. Blondes are way too over rated IMO

 

[thekcguyme]

I don't know how she would sense something like that. I went on a date and then set up another one later on and only talked to her for a couple mins on the phone between then and now so I left a reason for her to see me again . I will keep you guys updated on what happens. This is the first time I've ever had someone cancel on me. So I'm not use to it at all.

 

[thekcguyme]

Oh yah I forgot to tell you, but after she sent those text saying she wanted to cancel. I got on this dating site where I met her and she had sent me a text early on in the day saying, "hey sexy what are you up to?" I just read that on there like 30 mins ago. Two totally different things going on here huh. Almost likes it two people.

 

[thekcguyme]

Also this has been on my mind but she knows I recently got out of relationship a few weeks ago and some of her things are still here and she took notice, but I told it was way over and we are just friends. Do you think that she thinks I'm still with my ex?

 

[CFERD]

probably