My own cousin played me

[bfl]

Yo man im really pissed off right now and if yall see some big gramatic errors perdon me but im just shaking of nerves.

i live in miami and my girlfriend lives in spain . alright so today she calls me and she tells me that my cousin asked her out on a date to go to the movies.

When i was over there i dont know why in the hell she gave him her phone number but she gave it to him and now and today when we talked we had an argument about that. i told her why in the hell did you give him your number in the first place and her response is "i dont know"

Now my cousin is like my best friend the one that i always do everything with he sleeps over eat whenever he wants i give him money etc... everything i do everything for him we are like each other shadows and now look what he does.

What really happened is that he called but she didnt pick it up but when he saw her he told her that he was gonna take her out to the movies.
im so mad right now and she didnt say nothing she said "oh" i expected her to say somehting like "u damn well know that im going out with your cousin"

I hanged up on her cause i was mad for her giving him her number. what do i do man. i need some advice.

 

[Ice Cold]

Forgive your cousin and don't hold it against him.

The girl isn't at fault too. Don't expect strength of character from females. Her calling and telling was more than decent on her part.

BTW: did she had someone when she met you?

 

[bfl]

what you mean forgive my cousin?!!!!!!!!! ahah my friend.

i cant forgive something like that .
And im not mad at my girl cause he asked her she aint got no control over that, im mad at her cause she GAVE HIM HER NUMBER.

Why in the hell did she give him the digits. And she cant even answer me this question.

oh and no she didnt have nobody when she met me.

 

[Ice Cold]

Why would she give him her number?

How could she not? Wouldn't you leave a number to a cousin of your girlfriend just in case?

Sounds like a casual exchange of contact information. What could she tell? No, I'm afraid you're gonna be hitting on me?

 

[joey37]

I disagree. I think it's dirty of your gf to give her number to another guy. Not only that, but why say "oh" when he TELLS her he's taking her to a movie. Seriously, unless she has a real convincing reason for her actions, I'd tell her to go **** herself.

 

[bfl]

^^^^ see that

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

rofl you're so wrecked. nothing to worry about.

 

[Deathfyre]

First you should make sure you've got everything straight. Are you sure he's not just trying to be friends with your g/f. I know that I try and be friends with my brother's g/f. If he was away, I'd probably hang around with her. I wouldn't touch her, just keep her company while he's away.

Second, even if he is interested in her, or they did anything together. Why should you be mad at either of them? He saw a girl he liked, and went for it. That's what DJ's do. You're mad at him for trying to make his life a little bit better. And her, she's in a relationship with a guy who lives in a different country, and you expect her not to get a little attention starved? You've set unrealistic goals in your life, you should be mad at yourself if anyone. Be thankful it was your cousin who got her, so at least someone close to you has a better life for it, instead of some random guy.

 

[NewMan]

Get the facts right first.

Did her ask her out on a Date? or did he ask her to the movies as a freind?

Perhaps your jumping the gun? find out. You introiduced them so perhaps it's not the way you believe.

If you cousin did ask her out romantically - cut him off from your social life.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

when a guy asks for a girls number she damn well knows the reason why!! and it aint to get together to brake bread - sorry to inform u but if she is doing this with someone u know and is close to - just imagine the shyt she is doing with those u dont know!! and she is in spain -- u got problems bro - follow your instincts i think they r telling u something is wrong -- girls always try to make it look innocent and will tell u your overeacting and blame your jealous imagination - dig deeper and dont allow yourself to b manipulated -

remember u r mad for a reason and i take it you r rational - dont forgive your cousin unless he has remorse and apologizes - but dont trust him again - kick your girl to the curb for giving you the i dont know answer - if she doesnt know then who in sam-hill does!! lame excuse - she knew u were going to find out anyways because u r cousins so no honesty there - she knew that he was asking her out and she still gave him her number?? HUH? or was it like give me your number in case of an emergency?

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

WTF? I've gotten the nr of numerous girls NOT to be sexual but to hang out, get invited to parties, meet other girls...

 

[bfl]

Dethfyre - I dont think that he is trying to be friends with my gf cause they when i was there and i was for 6 months he didnt even think about asking her for her number but now that im gone he does . I know my cousin perfecly and i can tell you that all he wants is fuk her. why im mad at him cause he is my blood and he is my best friend at the same time i would never hit on any of his girls cause of the major respect that i have for him. If she didnt wanna be in a serious relationship with me she could had told me so cause we talked about what was gonna happen clearly ans openly and she decided that she was gonna stay with me cause she deeply in love with me. I havent set unrealistic goals cause we talked everything out when we start our relatonship.
Detfyre i cant believe that you can talk like that saying that be thankful that someone else has a better life for it i dont know how you a "DJ" could talk like that.

Newman - No he didnt ask her out in a romantic way but that could had been his intention, cause he called her but she didnt pick up or she missed the called and then when he saw her on the street he told her that he called and she didnt pick up, the n he told her that he called cause he wanted to take her to the movies.

Puerto rican lover - no he did it smart he asked her for her number way before this happened. the he called her. And i got that feeling that someone if not him is gonna get her although she always says that she has never cheated in her life that she aint that type a girl and that she rather break up before cheat........but i just dont believe that.

 

[drixsa]

ok so what are you gonna do know?

are you going back to spain anytime soon?

cause i wouldnt want to deal with my cousin on the phone, its just not the best way to get through to people

is it possible that your G-F just gave him her phone number not thinking of it, maybe just as a friend?

Im sorry but if you are going to have a long distance relation or a short distance relationship one of the key factors is always trust.

and if you cannot trust her then you should not be with her.

i suggest you stop taking phone calls/emails/etc. for the next few days or however long it takes and get yourself emotionally stable and get a little relaxation from this situation.

if you get all emotional on the phone you won't have the control needed to further this conversation and will probably come off as a bit of a b*tch

 

[bfl]

i sent her an email yesterday but now ima let my self cool off for a few weeks cause im not going back till march or so.
when i get there my cousin will hear from me.

 

[Surfboard]

What really happened is that he called but she didnt pick it up but when he saw her he told her that he was gonna take her out to the movies.

bfl,

The most important question here is:

DID SHE ACTUALLY GO OUT WITH HIM?

It doesn't mean anything if she doesn't go out with him.

i told her why in the hell did you give him your number in the first place and her response is "i dont know"

This is a good move on your part. If a woman ever does anything disrespectful, you must let her know that what she did will not be tolerated by you and it better not happen again.

alright so today she calls me and she tells me that my cousin asked her out on a date to go to the movies.

Now we have to figure out why she even bothered to tell you about this in the first place. If she wanted to cheat on you, I don't think she'd be telling you about it.

Maybe she's looking for some assistance from you in this uncomfortable situation. She might not have the guts to reject your cousin to his face. You need to call your cousin and set him straight. Let him know that you know what's going on. He might tell you that he just asked her out as a friendly thing to do, but we really know what his true intentions are.