My noob story on PUA.

[Tkay]

Hi guys.

Just found this forum.

Going to do a fast forward:
I was 18. Never had a girl (no kiss/sex). The first girl that was into me, I was too scared to kiss her, and after the 3th date she just gave up on me.

At this moment I started reading DYD and stuff.

Then I got into a lucky LTR. First time sex after 2 days.
I felt in control, broke up after 1 year, because I was bored of her. Stupid me, I felt sorry 1 day later, and she didn't want me back.

This was 3 months ago. Immediatly after the breakup I started reading up on PUA again, especially mASF.

It helped my inner game, or state, I feel/look better, I can now hold eyecontact, and am more social.

Still I can't just approach someone I don't know, without having a reason to approach (like I have to ask something, or there's just something going on at the moment that I can talk about) - and IF I open, I often don't have any followup. Yes, I know routines, but I never really use them.

So that's basically it. People on mASF are more advanced, people told me to come here because this place is more noob friendly.

Been going out as much as possible with my wing, but usually we just stand there at the party, and don't do much besides social circle stuff. He's doing better then me though, he already kiss closed a girl.

Like I just came back from a party, my ex-LTR was there and I got thrown out of state every time I saw her making out with her new BF. Ignored her. It's probably in my head, but it seemed she was trying to make me jealous, making out in front of me, I'd turn around, and she would just stop doing it. Or coming standing near me every moment. It's not because she still likes me,I made a fool of myself by getting all mellow when she didn't want me back, crying on the phone and such. Right after we broke up she said she didn't care anymore, she didnt think about me anymore etc.
At moments I still wish it was me instead of that new BF and stuff. I just need to **** someone.

Didn't do any approaches on completely unknown girls, couldn't figure out something to say, although I know some default openers. I'm still not sure what this is, approach anxiety or something else.

Flirted a bit with the 1st girl I dated with (the one I was too scared to kiss) ,and some drunk UG was kinda in to me.
Another UG chickfriend was kinoing me, like she always does, we talk about sex alot, so I figured I'd **** her.
I isolated her, and ... we talked.

My wing drove us home, and put us off at my place. But she didn't want to come in, she was walking home. Didn't make much sense.
But then again, girls just don't make sense. ASD/LJBF

This is my story. I hope someone has some advice on how to get to the next level of PUA. (Which is, probably, the first level. lol)

 

[FRëSHURE]

So your 19 or 20 now?

You're a little bit behind schedual. But thats ok.

You sound like you're ready for the teachings here.

But you sound like your looking for one-itus.

It is my recomendation that you do not enter an exclusive relationship until atleast 2008.

It is my recomendation that you either do the boot camp offered at this site, or at a minimum, read through the bootcamp, and understand what it asks of you, and make yourself you similar, but perhaps, less extreme things.

Something about your post makes me think theres quite a bit of potential. If you want some type of online mentoring, PM me.

 

[Tkay]

Originally posted by FRëSHURE
So your 19 or 20 now?

You're a little bit behind schedual. But thats ok.

You sound like you're ready for the teachings here.

But you sound like your looking for one-itus.

It is my recomendation that you do not enter an exclusive relationship until atleast 2008.

It is my recomendation that you either do the boot camp offered at this site, or at a minimum, read through the bootcamp, and understand what it asks of you, and make yourself you similar, but perhaps, less extreme things.

Something about your post makes me think theres quite a bit of potential. If you want some type of online mentoring, PM me.

I'm 19, turning 20 in february (damn, I'm starting to feel old).
Yes, I'm a little behind schedual, and I feel quite bad about that already. Threw away my damn youth where I was supposed to be ****ing all chicks! But then again, some of the PUA Guru's are actually 30+.

And no, I'm not looking for a one-itis or something. I might get into a LTR if something really nice comes along, but I'd probably still be banging other chicks while I'm in a LTR. There will be no stopping me once I get this **** down.

I already had a look at the bootcamp, and the week 1 assignement is a part I already handled. (EC/Saying hi/smiling)

The part about my post looking promising is probably because I've been reading/listening alot to stuff, but not actually doing it enough. However, I have changed to become a more playful, confident guy. Thats good.
Thanks alot for the help offer, I think that's just what I need, a mentor

 

[TheTrimReaper]

I'm a 30+ guy. I just got dumped by my fiance. I'm depressed right now and I don't really care about these women, but you know what? I can still pick up chicks.

My advice to you is to follow a system that is simple for now. You need to have something you believe in. Something that is complicated and awkward will only make you nervous, and that scares away chicks. Patterns, NLP, ...... will work, but you have to study your butt off and remember a lot of stuff. Personally, I feel like a d0rk memorizing things to say to a woman.

My system is a mix of simple things I've learned and made up myself that I can always follow. It has an acronym: POPR

P= Pick up... Hey, You're Pretty. What's the story behind your....

O= Outrageous.... Today, I was flirting with a countergirl. I ask her "How did you know I wanted a cookie?" She says, "I can read minds." I reply, "You can read Mimes?"

P=Passion= So Mime reader....what do you do that takes you out of this world? what are you really passionate about?

R= Romance.... Now that she's happy about telling her stuff, start putting yourself in her mind romantically. So "How great would it be if we had a kiss like that?"

This is simple. And I use some of the mASF, speed seduction, and NLP stuff I've picked up. But I think the most important thing is to have a basic structure to follow(really basic) so you can lead the conversation somewhat. A nice read was "How to talk to women". Check it out. Simplify it a little and go for it.

Look, the reason you are not doing it is because it is beyond your scope of influence. When you do something new, something you can't cope with, there are alarms. It's a biological safety thing that keeps you from getting impaled by a Rhino. But trust me, no chick will impale you when you go for it. You WILL get shot down. But you will find that the emotional alarms will get quieter as your scope of influence expands.

You need to build up a tough skin when you are meeting women. Stay on this board and learn. You will have NO problems meeting women.

 

[Tkay]

Originally posted by TheTrimReaper
I'm a 30+ guy. I just got dumped by my fiance. I'm depressed right now and I don't really care about these women, but you know what? I can still pick up chicks.

My advice to you is to follow a system that is simple for now. You need to have something you believe in. Something that is complicated and awkward will only make you nervous, and that scares away chicks. Patterns, NLP, ...... will work, but you have to study your butt off and remember a lot of stuff. Personally, I feel like a d0rk memorizing things to say to a woman.

My system is a mix of simple things I've learned and made up myself that I can always follow. It has an acronym: POPR

P= Pick up... Hey, You're Pretty. What's the story behind your....

O= Outrageous.... Today, I was flirting with a countergirl. I ask her "How did you know I wanted a cookie?" She says, "I can read minds." I reply, "You can read Mimes?"

P=Passion= So Mime reader....what do you do that takes you out of this world? what are you really passionate about?

R= Romance.... Now that she's happy about telling her stuff, start putting yourself in her mind romantically. So "How great would it be if we had a kiss like that?"

This is simple. And I use some of the mASF, speed seduction, and NLP stuff I've picked up. But I think the most important thing is to have a basic structure to follow(really basic) so you can lead the conversation somewhat. A nice read was "How to talk to women". Check it out. Simplify it a little and go for it.

Look, the reason you are not doing it is because it is beyond your scope of influence. When you do something new, something you can't cope with, there are alarms. It's a biological safety thing that keeps you from getting impaled by a Rhino. But trust me, no chick will impale you when you go for it. You WILL get shot down. But you will find that the emotional alarms will get quieter as your scope of influence expands.

You need to build up a tough skin when you are meeting women. Stay on this board and learn. You will have NO problems meeting women.

Don't be depressed. We've been set free. I was just lucky enough to face reality at the age of 19.

A system would be nice, but your style isn't quite my style. Gonna check out that "How to talk to women". It's a book I presume? Or a post?

As you say, the more experience I get, the easier it will become to approach chicks. But for this, I have to START first. But at least I have done SOMETHING, which is better then nothing.

 

[Socialreject]

I assume TheTrimReaper is talking about 'how to talk to women' by louis and copeland. His techniques seem to go hand in hand with the book anyways...

Not really my style personally but hey, whatever works for you is great ;-)

 

[Tkay]

Originally posted by Socialreject
I assume TheTrimReaper is talking about 'how to talk to women' by louis and copeland. His techniques seem to go hand in hand with the book anyways...

Not really my style personally but hey, whatever works for you is great ;-)

So.. What is YOUR style?

I'm trying to build my own style, I really like TylerDurden, it's kinda natural.
That's the thing I'd like.. Being a natural chilled out cool guy. Just like the movie
I don't want to think of myself as someone who uses psychological tricks like NLP.. But maybe I just have to..