My nipples are swollen =\

[ShockerGuy50]

Has anyone here tried surgery for this, or know someone who has? I have the problem although I never went to a doctor for it. I did when I was about 14 but they told me not to worry about. Here I am 7 years later with a big problem.

Also, I wanted to add that I am overweight and was curious if anyone knew whether this goes away with weight loss? (i doubt it though)

 

[Kerpal]

Has anyone here tried surgery for this, or know someone who has? I have the problem although I never went to a doctor for it. I did when I was about 14 but they told me not to worry about. Here I am 7 years later with a big problem.

Also, I wanted to add that I am overweight and was curious if anyone knew whether this goes away with weight loss? (i doubt it though)

Once again, if you really have Gynecomastia, it will not go away with fat loss because it is actual gland underneath the nipples. The only way it will go away is surgery to remove the gland. No amount of bench pressing or push ups will help. Some pro bodybuilders have it and go in for surgery, if those guys can't get rid of it without surgery I don't think anyone can.

However, I read your other post and no offense but at 5'11 and 285 lbs I would worry about losing fat first before I even started thinking about surgery, because in your case it could just be fat... I'm the same height as you and 100 lbs lighter, I have low bodyfat, and my chest has looked exactly the same for the past 9 years, it looks exactly the same now as it did before I ever set foot in a gym while the rest of my body is completely different, that's how I know for sure that I have it.

 

[ShockerGuy50]

Kerpal, thanks for clarification. Yeah I realize my problem is weight first, but its more embarrassing being out in public in a t-shirt having one side of my chest bigger than the other. Beer gut isn't as bad imo (still bad though)

 

[Kerpal]

I know what you mean about being embarrassed in public, it sucks... I haven't taken my shirt off in front of other people in over 9 years and I live in Florida

My posture is also terrible because I always walk around hunched over with my shoulders stooped forward to try to hide it.

 

[ShockerGuy50]

Yeah I def feel you on this, and man that sucks being in Florida with the problem. I don't go swimming nor do I ever take my shirt off because of it. Are you held back from getting surgery just because of monetary reasons? I hate the idea of surgery but I can't live like this forever, assuming the weight problem gets under control but I am determined to get it done since my time in college is coming to an end and I haven't had the fun I feel most people have.

 

[Kerpal]

Yeah I def feel you on this, and man that sucks being in Florida with the problem. I don't go swimming nor do I ever take my shirt off because of it. Are you held back from getting surgery just because of monetary reasons? I hate the idea of surgery but I can't live like this forever, assuming the weight problem gets under control but I am determined to get it done since my time in college is coming to an end and I haven't had the fun I feel most people have.

Yeah, if I could afford the surgery I would have had it done already but I can't. I have enough trouble trying to scrape together enough money for rent/food/tuition, the surgery costs $5,000-$8,000. I've even picked out the doctor I want to go to in a few years once I'm out of school and have a job and enough money to have the operation.

I'm also almost done with college and feel like I've missed out on so much. But I've basically accepted the situation and written off the next couple of years at least in terms of doing anything physical (sex/physical appearance etc) and will just go thru the motions and keep training/working out until I can afford to have it corrected, then I can start dealing with all the ****ing emotional problems this has caused for me and start playing catch-up since I will basically be a 25 year old virgin by them.

It sucks but it could be worse, I see retarded people and people who are missing limbs and things like that and laugh at myself for being such a *****, my problems are trivial compared to theirs.

 

[ShockerGuy50]

Well if you do end up getting it done do share. I am very curious and will def want to get it done in the future. Student loans are not a problem, we can just stay in school and they never need to be paid off right?.. lol arggg

edit: any idea what the surgery will end up costing - I just know its out of my league because surgery is never cheap.

 

[ShockerGuy50]

Wow, and when I first looked lightly into it I saw prices ranging right around $4,000 and I knew it was just unrealistic for me. =( damn I feel like I always get the shytty end of the stick..

Will look at that site tomorrow some I need to get some sleep.

 

[wolf116]

Kepal, how close are you with your parents?

If they knew the sort of problems this caused you (go into detail) they may help you out.

It's embarrassing, but it may just save you years or mental trauma.

 

[Kerpal]

Not close enough to bring it up with them. After hiding it for so long I can't talk about it with ANYONE, there is a mental block there now.

 

[wolf116]

Not close enough to bring it up with them. After hiding it for so long I can't talk about it with ANYONE, there is a mental block there now.

That sucks man, If I was wealthy I'd transfer the money to you. lol

I think you should put a bit of energy into trying to break this mental block. Especially since it could save you from years of frustration. It's a massive relief once you break a mental block.

 

[Kerpal]

I have tried many times to tell my mom about it but I can't make myself do it.

 

[wolf116]

How about write her a letter?
If you wrote her a letter, it would show her the kinds of problems this is causing you and you will be able to get everything off your chest without being interrupted. You could even request for her to not even discuss this with you and if she is willing to help, she should just transfer the money over or contact you by letter or email.

PM me your mums address/email, I'll write her the letter and you won't even know! lol

 

[ShockerGuy50]

Its so frustrating to deal with this period. I'm with you Kerpal in that I wouldn't even want to tell my parents at all.

I'm not sure if it really relates to it but do you notice a weakness or lack of strength in the side that is wrong. Mines on the left and my left arm/hand are almost retarded. Also I notice a lack in strength in that side. Just me?

 

[Kerpal]

My gynecomastia is the same on both sides. My left arm is a bit weaker than my right and a lot smaller, but I'm right-handed so I think that's normal.

 

[daytona]

I know how you feel... I tried talking to my parents and of course they gave me the whole "you're fine the way you are", "your problem is in your mind", etc bull$****. I'm just so fvcking sick of this issue, I even though of cutting them out myself a few times before. I visited a doctor and I pretty much told him straight out how I feel, I was not even embarassed. Just sad. The fvcker told me it will go away in time... yeah I'm sure it will I'm 18 it almost NEVER goes away at this age. Go back and redo your medical school you fvcking piece of ****. I tried to discuss how to get rid of it without it going away on its own and he basically just changed subject. This is the only thing I dislike about my body and it's driving me off the wall. I think about it at least 10 times a day and especially whenever I go out. Hell, I don't even go out much anymore. I wear sweaters in the summer. I wear t-shirts under shirts. I just wish all this would stop .

I wish I had the money for surgery and I wish my family could understand the emotional problems this is causing me. I passed up sex before due to this issue... Now I'm 18 and still a virgin.

 

[Kerpal]

I know what you mean, I haven't had sex in 4 years now.

Don't try to cut it out yourself, if you survive you will probably end up making it even worse

 

[wolf116]

You guys need to stop wallowing in misery when there are solutions to this.
Even make **** up, like that you have been suicidal over it and have developed social anxiety disorder.

Seriously, as if your parents aren't going to help you if they think is has caused you to be suicidal. Fvck if that didn't work I'd slice a gash under my nipple just to prove a point.

I had to do the same **** to make my parents help me with my acne.

Seriously, if you write a heart pulling letter you will get the sergury.

 

[Kerpal]

Well, my dad would not pay for the surgery even if I told him about it (we're not close at all) and my mom is broke. So that's not really an option for me.

I had really bad acne too, I had to go on Accutane and that cleared it up.

 

[ShockerGuy50]

Same here. My parents couldn't help even if I did ask them. My dad is a douche who doesn't care what is going on with my life, and my mom is broke as well.

Wolf it is def not easy to cope with. Even though I am overweight I feel as if my chest kills my confidence most with going in public or escalating things with girls. Like Kerpal has said it is a major mental block.

Kerpal I like to think that if both sides were the same I would be a lot better off with coping. You could be the deformed freak with one tit...lol. IT SUCKS.