Ok, I'll try to make this short as possible.
Basically, my ex and I broke up last Saturday. She says it started, because I never said, "I love you". We all know, it stems further then that. We would argue, and she said that she was always the one "reaching" out to me, and I never put in effort. She also held certain things over my head. Another instance, we got into an argument, as we were driving to my house. I was a bit livid, and told her to, "do whatever you want. If you want to come in, come in. If you want to leave, then leave." She took this as, me telling her to leave, and she claims she would NEVER leave me like that. This is only one of the things, she holds over my head. The basic idea is, she says, I am too fickle about things, make her feel like she has no value, and she can never be good enough for me. It was actually something I was working on :nervous:
Anyhow, she came to pick her stuff up, and I kind of led her on, by telling her, "I have to really tell you something important, in person". Well, she came, and I didn't say, "I love you". I just kind of ignored her, and she was texting me 5 mins later with, "I miss you. I just wanted to tell you I'll be here for you. This is rough for us, etc etc".
So, I apologized later that day, via AIM, and made cool with her again. I screwed up in the end though. I told her WHY I never told her I loved her. I said, it was because she made a statement. She said, "I'm not getting married until I'm 30," and she is 23. I am already 30. I also stated, when I heard this, I pulled away emotionally, and this was 4 months ago. Needless to say, she was pissed, and we haven't talked since. We were supposed to meet sometime this week, to "talk". I doubt she'll call now.
I still haven't told her "I love you", because I wanted to do it at my own pace, and not hers. It's not because I don't love her, but I don't want to do it, to just mask a problem. I wanted to make it romantic.
She claims, that she made a really hard decision, to let go of me. I really think there has to be something I can do, to make this work. I really want to get her attention/love back. I know she loves me dearly, and was wondering if anyone had any idea, if there was a way for me to salvage this?
Basically, my ex and I broke up last Saturday. She says it started, because I never said, "I love you". We all know, it stems further then that. We would argue, and she said that she was always the one "reaching" out to me, and I never put in effort. She also held certain things over my head. Another instance, we got into an argument, as we were driving to my house. I was a bit livid, and told her to, "do whatever you want. If you want to come in, come in. If you want to leave, then leave." She took this as, me telling her to leave, and she claims she would NEVER leave me like that. This is only one of the things, she holds over my head. The basic idea is, she says, I am too fickle about things, make her feel like she has no value, and she can never be good enough for me. It was actually something I was working on :nervous:
Anyhow, she came to pick her stuff up, and I kind of led her on, by telling her, "I have to really tell you something important, in person". Well, she came, and I didn't say, "I love you". I just kind of ignored her, and she was texting me 5 mins later with, "I miss you. I just wanted to tell you I'll be here for you. This is rough for us, etc etc".
So, I apologized later that day, via AIM, and made cool with her again. I screwed up in the end though. I told her WHY I never told her I loved her. I said, it was because she made a statement. She said, "I'm not getting married until I'm 30," and she is 23. I am already 30. I also stated, when I heard this, I pulled away emotionally, and this was 4 months ago. Needless to say, she was pissed, and we haven't talked since. We were supposed to meet sometime this week, to "talk". I doubt she'll call now.
I still haven't told her "I love you", because I wanted to do it at my own pace, and not hers. It's not because I don't love her, but I don't want to do it, to just mask a problem. I wanted to make it romantic.
She claims, that she made a really hard decision, to let go of me. I really think there has to be something I can do, to make this work. I really want to get her attention/love back. I know she loves me dearly, and was wondering if anyone had any idea, if there was a way for me to salvage this?
